i am 23, for the pass 6 years my mind had been caged in the darkness. i donno how i wasted the pass 6 years just sitting infront of the computer playing games.. i failed all my study, working **** casual works, and i have no ambition. today when i look upon the world i find that i am sooo far behind everything. all the people around me had moved on and they have a life. i have no subject to talk to people about, i had never had a g/f, but lately i had dated a few girls and i am still not happy because there are just soo much missing out in my life. i used to go sleep every morning 10am and wake up at 6pm and then play PC game all night.
i am very depressing and i always think negatively, about everything in my life.
my friend advice me to get a full time work at day time and then work another 6 nights, drug myself into work, make some money and then i'll find the meaning of life, after i find it i can set out new goals... do u think that's the way i should go with ?
2006-07-15 06:16:32 · 5 answers · asked by DOHC VTEC 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well you sound like you've been depressed a long time .. but it looks like you've woken up and want to do something about it, only now you see your friends have moved on and done things and you feel "out of it" with them. It must be overwhelming and hard to think about where to start.
Overdoing the computer games is a bit like getting drunk or taking drugs .. it numbs you and soothes you and lets you be be busy with nothing, it's easy .. but as you've figured out, it just puts your problems on hold, doesn't solve anything.
I don't know if working day in and day out is such a great idea because I wonder if you will find it too stressful and then just go back to the easy way of nights on the comp, and all day asleep. But yes, I think getting a job of some sorts (not night AND day though) will give you something to do, earn you some money, get you interacting with people and make you feel better about yourself. It will also force you into some sort of routine, at least with timings and meals .. and this will help you feel better too.
I'm not sure making money is the way to find the meaning of life! But money does help get through a lot of problems, and when your mind is clear, and not weighed down by money and other problems, maybe the meaning of life becomes clearer.
I think if you can see a counselor or therapist it might help. If you go to a doctor, perhaps a course on anti-depressants will help get you through the early days. It's not easy to live well with depression. I take anti-depressants and they make it possible for me to live a normal, maybe even better than normal life. I think a good counselor could help you a great deal in moving on to setting new goals, assessing the type of work you'd like to do, working through your negativity and depression. If you can't see a counselor for some reason, try some of the online support groups for depression. There you may find other people with the same issues, and it can be very comforting and inspiring to know you're not alone and to get feedback from people who really understand how you feel.
Try some practical things to help yourself .. try to sleep only between 7 and 8 hours a night (no more or less) and try to sleep at the same time every day. Start exercising in some way. Maybe just go for a walk, even a ten minute walk is fine. (Don't exercise at night or you may have difficulty falling asleep). If you can walk in a park, that's even better cos the air will be clearer and the green is soothing. Drink plenty of water and try to eat at least one fruit a day. These are simple things that can boost your mood and your energy levels, and they will definitely make it easier for you to move towards your life goals.
2006-07-15 07:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've played online games to and know just how addicting and life consuming they can be. Try to play a game just in moderation and get out every once in awhile and just walk around to clear your mind. For the depression theres more to know to that than you would think and to see if do have some syptoms of depression go to www.depressionhurts.com and do the checklist and look around that site depression is a condition that needs treatment. Just try not to get to dependent on the medications they prescribe if any, if you do have this condition. Therapy and cousinling couldnt hurt either just focus on this sentence it may help you "i want to be happy again" . Good luck to you hope you get to being happier soon.
2006-07-15 13:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 48,and still feel 28. thats not necessarily a good thing. but I group the people I love,and think of how theyd feel if i werent here,and find any reason to go on.I talk to God, I dont understand him,or why were here, but I trust in that,and know that my belief in Jesus as my savior, Ill one day go to a place where I wont have a care in the world. sooooo,give Jesus a thought
2006-07-15 13:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by faithfultojesus777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, yr friend is certainly right!
U have to get yourself away from the computer. There are plenty of job out there u can find... when u save enough money, pamper yrself by buying thing that u longed for the longest time!
Good Luck..
2006-07-15 13:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by prawn_headed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go fishing
2006-07-15 13:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by norwood 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋