I have a bf that is everything I could ask for...but my feelings for him have changed. I used to like him a lot! But the moment he asked me to be his girlfriend, I stopped liking him. Maybe its because my EX-boyfriends memories are holding me back from really liking this amazing guy. But my ex is a jerk! I dont know! My mind is messing with me too much! what should I do?
2006-07-15 06:08:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We as women tend to define men with adjectives. funny, cute, smart,etc. and when you find yourself with the combination that seems most fit, we call him mr. right or perfect....but we dont stop to think. are those the qualities we really want in a man. He may be the ideal PERFECT guy but...you never know. maybe hes not perfect for YOU. You should sit down with him and discuss what is going on in your head. Tell him about your ex being a jerk.....explain to him the confusion going on.... If he is THAT perfect he will understand and realize that maybe you all should take a step back from the relationship and focus more on your feelings and how you can direct them towards him
2006-07-15 06:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you say that your ex bf is a jerk. You probably had such a bad experience with him that you are now transferring those feelings over to any relationship that crosses the line into "boyfriend territory". You must see your new man as a different person - tell him how you feel & get him to help you get over this bad experience.He really needs to act as different as possible from the "jerk" of your past, go out to eat at different places -do different things etc. I wish you the best!
2006-07-15 06:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur mind will always try to play tricks on you, if you know your ex is a jerk and is not someone who you would want to be with then just let him go and c what can happen with the new guy, he could be amazing but if you let the ex hold you back you will never know
2006-07-15 06:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by okangeljenny23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, you probably liked this guy for all the right reasons but you are not ready to be in a relationship right now!!!
you need to get over your ex first!
so be honest with your b/f and tell him that you like him and all but that you just realized that you jumped into a relationship too soon and that you really don't want him to be the "rebound" guy. That you want so space so that you can gather your thoughts and get over your ex.
I know he will appreciate your honesty and just make sure this doesn't happen again! cause hun, good men are very hard to find
2006-07-15 06:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by half insane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, Ive been there. It sounds like youre rebounding, and settling for anyone. You dont really like him, you were just trying to convince yourself to, and when it came down to really being with this new guy, you realized you dont really like him.
But just because youre not completely over your ex, doesnt mean you cant move on. I know this man! Ive been there so many times.
Youve just got to meet the right guy that will help you get over your ex.
For example, I wasnt over my ex. I still loved him very very much. He left me for another girl, and Two weeks later, (still not over him by the way) I met this new guy. He was HOT! I was extremely attracted to him. I completely forgot about my ex. JUst like that! I am now married to my new guy for 2 years now.
So just give yourself some time to play the field. Meet some HOt guys, and dont settle for less . If youre still thinking about your ex, this guy isnt it. YOu need to meet a guy who will make you forget. Trust me.
2006-07-15 06:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date anyone until you get over your ex. You say he is a jerk, are you afraid every guy will be a jerk.
You need to deal with your own feelings about relationships before you date. Explain this to this new guy, it is only fair.
2006-07-15 06:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If each and every bf you make is a "jerk" then you'll be just a friendless nobody, past painful experiences must not affect your present and future relations. Grow up and get a life, for Pete's sake !!!
2006-07-15 06:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is happening to me too. i can just tell that if you ex is making you not like this other guy, well just tell the guy that the memories from your ex cant go away and that you are afraid that the same thing might happen.
2006-07-15 06:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think is the fact that u tell your mind what u want and always things don't happen the way u plan them, so pls before u tell your mind don't promise yourself that its possible and also think for that person u put your feelings to and mind. Try to make more normal things to keep you positive like saying my love dont like that so what I love her or him then I'll live with it.
2006-07-15 06:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy really like you he will wait for you to sort your head out talk to him tell him how you feel if he understands then you know you have got yourself a good man and that might help
2006-07-15 06:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋