do you think that 18 is a good age of thinking of getting married and having a kid already? with a girl you love sooo much!
2006-07-15 06:02:54 · 17 answers · asked by Chief_Mojo_Risin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont, I know there is no age limit on love..and Im doubting that you love this girl as much as you say you do. I just think being 18, you have so much more to experience, its a little soon. Also, having a kid is a huge decision....your not even 21 yet, dont you want to have fun with friends, go out whenever you want....with a baby thats really hard to do. My best advice would be to take it slow for awhile...instead of getting married, buy her a promise ring...they mean almost the same thing...trust me, take your time...I hope this helped
2006-07-15 06:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by LovableLibra84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 18 and had a kid right away. Don't do it. If she is already pregnant you want to do the right thing then be there for her and the baby. I believe that if I had waited and made sure that he was the one for me I would have never got married and then ended up divorced. Too many times we think we are in love because of the great feelings. Give it time and see if it is still love when the rough times hit and those "float on air" feelings are not there. Can you see yourself with her forever? Divorce should not be an option. When you are 18 forever is a long time. Give it time and make sure. When you do decide to marry have time as a couple before having a kid. I missed out on that. You will not get that back for at least 18 years. I know unplanned pregnancies happen and you have to make the best of it but if you are planning it think first. My goal in life was to be a wife and mother but I miss the fact that I did not date other people before I got married (I think that was a lot of the reason we did not last - I always wondered if there was someone better out there) and then I missed the one on one time with my man. I will not have that until my kids are gone. I divorce and am engaged to be married again but I still will not get that until my kids are grown and gone. Just think things through before you jump into it. Good luck!
2006-07-15 13:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Toni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and yes. It all depends on the maturity of both people. You must weigh the pros and cons of both situations. Are you active and like to go out at night? If so, then, having children would be to your disadvantage right now. Children are a big responsibility. You MUST give up some of what you like to do to care for a child.
You must also think about an education. At 18 you probably do not have a college degree. Things aren't free and you have to have a good job just to make ends meet. Maybe if you both get a degree, get good jobs and still have the same feelings for each other, then go for it. College is only about 4 years, depending on the degree. By the time you are between 22 and 24, you should have a better understanding of your finances.
If a baby is already on the way, then your question has answered itself.
2006-07-15 13:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by leisumar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great question as I am 18 and plan on getting married very soon!!! If you think shes the one, then do it. Getting married is one thing but having a child so soon may interfere with other goals you and your spouse have such as going to school or traveling, but is can't STOP it, those goals are still reachable, you just have one more thing to worry about so soon in life. So if you want children now then go for it!
CARPE DIEM!!
2006-07-15 13:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not really. Live a little first. Have some fun. If nothing else, get an eucation or at least get a good job first and get some financial security. At 18, you're both still more immature than you realize. Grow up a little first and then find out what you really want out of life.
2006-07-15 13:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you thought it was a good idea you wouldn't have asked this question. Try living together for a bit if that works go for the marriage but really don't have kids until you are 100 % sure she is the one
2006-07-15 13:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! The right age is 25 to 27 years old. Statistically most marriages work at that age!!
2006-07-15 13:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by gernblanston 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if you're ready to have a hard life and struggle and grow up 10x faster than you have to go right ahead. you're 18, you have no REAL work experience, no college education, no real credit....what do you think you can offer a girl/woman at this point and then top it off with a baby???? i think that's insane.
2006-07-15 13:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will regret when the life is changing.many things will happen after you married.Before married and after married is totally different.you are too young and the the girls same.Both of you need to think carefully about the marriage.
2006-07-15 13:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by fqreby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage okay, but not kids yet.
-think about this:
-how will you care for a family without a college education, a good paying job.
at 18, you cant do it, unless you live with your parents.
-Rent, utilities, water, telephone, Car payments , car insurance payments,Food, Gas, misc.=soap, toothpaste,etc...,car maintenence,
-DIAPERS=$80/MONTH
-MILK / FORMULA= $150-200 /MONTH
-SITTER $400-650/MONTH
2006-07-15 13:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋