i have son that's very overweight and he is made to take showers at school. he is teased greatly by others.

Question

i am a concerned mom. what is all the teasing about? since he will not open up to me, and he has no one to talk with, i'm desperate.
i know he gets teased at times.
a friend of mine told me what was happening at school. the principal says he couldn't remove him from p.e. because of the semester.
i may be nieve but what are some of the things that may be going on in p.e. class or some of the things said or done when he is taking a shower?

Answer 1

Kids tease one another relentlessly. Your son cannot stop kids from teasing him but he can change how he reacts to it.

Answer 2

Kids are cruel at that age. (I told a boy I liked him and he called me fat) I was a bit heavy in elementary. My mom started to make me drink these really gross drinks before school. Soy milk, a heaping teaspoon of yeast, a fourth of a teaspoon or so of vitamin e oil, a tablespoon or so of bone meal powder, I'm not sure what else she put in the drinks. I hated the taste of the yeast. She wouldn't let me leave unless I drank it and I liked school. She then gave me two pieces of toast so I wouldn't have the taste in my mouth that I ate on my way to school. I lost weight. By the time I was 12 I was skinny and healthy. And maybe it's a problem that he eats like any other kid. There's an obesity problem in America. The school lunch isn't all that healthy. Pizza, chicken nuggets, hamburgers, ect. If he starts eating better like more fruit and vegatables and no soda and sugary stuff then he will lose weight. That's pretty much the only way to solve this problem. Also, maybe he could get involved in a sport. My mom would make us walk on the treadmill sometimes too. Or maybe you could go the gym together?

Answer 3

His school should have a policy about relentless teasing. Especially since Co.
I don't know if this will help but when I weighed over 200 pounds, I was teased relentlessly. But I decided to do something about my weight. And the same week that I was doing something about my problem someone came up to me and was saying something about my weight in a very negative way but I knew that I was doing something about my problem and the negativeness didn't hit me as hard as it normally did. I lost the weight and still struggle with it. It just seemed that I was at peace with myself and it didn't matter anymore what people said or how they looked at me or how they judged me because I was a work in progress. Some of the people that were judging me ended up gaining allot of weight and when they did I did not judge them back but knew how they felt and just kept showing them love every time that I see them.

Answer 4

You shouldn't feel naive just because you want to know, I'm glad you care enough to admit you don't know and ask. The guys may be calling him names such as fat a**, lard, tubby, jelly-roll, and many other names. His stuff probably gets thrown around and people probably play with his fat. If you begin to notice extreme differences in his behavior then it is time to engage yourself. Constant teasing and prodding by kids may cause some children to begin to think suicidal thoughts. You need to take serious steps into consideration into how to help him because you don't want this to escalate into a much larger problem that could end up with horrible outcomes. Good luck and i hope your situation gets resolved soon! If you want to and are okay with it, you may want to consider introducing healthier diets and habits in his dailly life style.I attached a list of various websites that have information on bullying at school and health websites.

Answer 5

It doesn't matter what is going on, it just matters that it is. Help your son get to a healthy weight. Proper diet and exercise. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about the teasing, kids do that! They can be very cruel. Get your son some help with the weight, you don't say how old he is but it can only get worse if he doesn't develop new eating and exercise habits. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

Taking him out of p.e. to avoid the situation is not the answer. He'll have to live with this all his life if he doesn't do something about it.

Get him a involved is some kind of regular exercise...a weight set, karate class, running, anything he enjoys. Watch what he eats....don't starve him or make him hungry...he needs to find a diet he can live with. Cut down on carbs. He'll be better for it in the long run...it's about his life, not about his high school.

Answer 7

On a tangent to your question is this. Usually when people feel undervalued, they feel anger. If he is angry and hurt at the teasing, he needs to channel that energy to something that will help the problem, like exercise (fast walking with an MP3 player.) I've heard that swimming isn't that great for weight loss since the body doesn't heat up--just a rumor.

Answer 8

i also had the same problem i was teased and name called constantly until one day when i started fighting back with words and punches. it made me feared and respected but looking back now i wish i had made better exercise and eating choices not to look good but just to be healthy.
some states have anti bullying laws now but the best thing you can do for your son is get him out exercising and watch what he eats .. if he won't exercise then at least get him out walking with you .. it's a start. good luck

Answer 9

very bad things..get him out of that class and get him to a dietician. Some kids stay scarred for life thinking they are abnormal due to the things people say. The principal is wrong, YOU can remove him from that class anytime

Answer 10

It really depends on (how over weight) he is. If he actually looks like the Michelin tire guy, without clothes.Yeah he has a serious problem. Put the child on a serious diet. Why do parents let their kids get that way? It is unhealthy for the kids. Get them on a Diet.

Answer 11

Kids tend to tease other kids that appear to be easy targets or are somehow different from them. The best thing you can do for your son is encourage him and be there for him, and to help him with exercise and healthier eating habits. Maybe there's an exercise/weightloss program for teens somewhere near you. Please check out the possibilities. He needs your help whether he's asking for it or not.