when my boyfriend comes to see me, he acts happy to see me and gives me a great hug and kisses me. But as the day goes on, he acts like he doesnt even want to be around me and he gets silent and boring, honestly. He cant seem to be himself..But then at the end of the day when he's dropping me off at home, he wants to put his arm around me and cuddle and makeup (not sexual, just makeout). its like he goes from warm loving boyfriend to cold unexpressive one back to warm loving boyfriend. Why does he do this? whats up with this?
2006-07-15 05:03:59 · 21 answers · asked by california gurlie poo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also he's waiting until marriage and when I try to talk to him about a lot of things he says "i dont know" and he just looks at me. he wont open up.
2006-07-15 05:12:42 · update #1
whenever we get into a fight, it clears the air and we makeup. but he doesnt like arguing, even when i just want to fix a miscommunication. he hates arguing so much he just avoids it. what yall think?
2006-07-15 05:17:35 · update #2
I think that's normal. I've noticed guys hate talking and being too expressive. I think thier tension span is not as good as most women. My boyfriend is always happy to be around me, but when it comes to conversating and expressing emotions for a long period of time, it becomes impossible. It's just like how we women have our mood swings, and dont feel like talking or being touched at times. Men have thier own mood swings, trust me, and they dont even realize it !
2006-07-15 05:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking him? It might seem like I;m being smart, but I'm not.... Commnication is the key to any relationship, and if this is bothering you, you need to talk to him about it. The answers you get here won't help u feel better, but having a good old chat with your boyfriend, and "clearing the air" will.... good luck
2006-07-15 12:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is like, so much one can talk! And perhaps he is out of funny oneliners that he borrowed to impress you?
Anyways, from the question, it seems you 2 are spending too much time together. What new thing can he talk about? Give him a breather!
Familiarity breeds boredom! Find something new to do together!
PS- Point to be noted, all those girls who say that their bfs are all after one thing!!!
2006-07-15 12:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by shrek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to find something to do in between hugging and kissing. Why don't you go somewhere? If he's just hanging out and doing nothing, no conversation, he's boring. Get another bf. He is not a social person.
2006-07-15 12:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be that he really does like you but does not want to like you. Him being with you brings out a love or liking that he never experience and he is fighting to stay in control and be the playa. so he makes you feel horrible so that you never know that he is seriously falling for you. but this is still not healthy for you so consider ending it... trust me he will be after you like a hot thing !! men can be like this sometimes
2006-07-15 12:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by candystore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him. It could be that he just gets in a comfortable routine with you during the course of his visit. And when he first sees you or leaves you, he wants to make sure you know he cares for you. But, if it bothers you I would approach him on it.
2006-07-15 12:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he is young insecure or his mind is some wear on the other side of town i dont want to sound like dr phil but if you continue to be unhappy you should leave hin alone maby yall will be better off as frinds
2006-07-15 12:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by mumsey4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is BORED with you. I suggest you dump him cos he wants to dump you but can;'t make himself do it. Guilty feelings maybe. Make it easy for him, dump him. I won't want a non participating, non-loving bf or husband. If he is like this now just imagine how bad it will be after you are married?.
2006-07-15 12:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might be a little manic. And if you feel like that now you should take a good look if this is worth the insecurity it puts you through
2006-07-15 12:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by shikk79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is testing you or going through something in him personal life that he needs time to get over. or maybe he has another girl and doesn't know how to tell you. and there's that incredibly stupid game. "play hard to get"
sometimes in lover you have to be selfish so if you don’t want to go on like this you should talk to him and fix it or dump him before he dumps you.
less hurt that way
the four faced master
2006-07-15 12:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by the four faced master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋