Would you be mad if your husband hardly ever looked after your child.?

Question

Then he needs to (because I am working) he pawns him off to my friends for the day so he can golf? Should I be angry or just let it go?

Answer 1

I'm a stay at home mom who only works a few hours a month in our church nursery. But otherwise you're talking about my world. We have four children and he thinks that once he's paid the bills and mowed the lawn that his job is done. He hangs out with the kids when it's convenient for him otherwise he goes off and does stuff with his friends or sits in front of the computer. Since you only have one child, it hasn't been going on so long that you aren't perfectly justified in saying something. I've let it go on for nearly 12 years so I'm kind of stuck with the consequences of keeping my mouth shut for so long. If you say something and he continues to do it then it's up to you how far you want to take it. I figure that someday my husband may just realize what it is that he missed out on and it'll be too late. It's his loss. I think my kids are awesome.

Answer 2

My husband & I both work full time, & I know how you feel. I work in a dental office & my husband works in highway construction. He thinks because his job is "harder" than mine that I should take all the responsibility for our 2 sons, 2 1/2 & 4. I disagree... When you and your husband are together with your child, does he always want you to do everything for him & not his daddy? That's how my boys are. I think it's important that each parents gives equally to raising your child. Giving baths, getting ready for bed, playing, reading books, going outside, fixing dinner plates or just fun time... All of which my husband does nothing! I think your husband would feel better as a father & husband if he would spend more time with your child, especially the time while you are working, it's a great time to bond & learn his needs for himself. So to answer your question, "Would you be mad...", yes I would be mad & I am mad, because the parenting in our house is 99%/1%... The sooner you can get this 50/50 agreed upon the better. My husband & I have been married for 5 years & two boys later, he still expects that Mommy should do everything, no matter if she works. When you get the best answer, please forward it on to me! : )

Answer 3

If it happened once or twice I wouldn't worry about it, but it sounds like it happens often. If it does you need to talk about this. Maybe you could work it out so that he could play golf once every week or two and watch the child the rest of the time.

Answer 4

Yes u have every right to be mad... This is the father of your baby.. He should be so protective over the baby and want to spend time with it not go golfing and hang with the boys... what is he thinking??? This is just my opinion but I would deff be mad.... ; )

Answer 5

Yes you should be angry !!! It's his child too and he needs to be a father to him....If this means giving up golf for a day....Too bad

Answer 6

It sounds to me like he's trying to avoid his responsibility instead of living up to it. Yes, that's a very good reason to be mad at him.
As a father, I can't imagine letting my kids grow up without being as big an influence on them as possible, otherwise when they start using drugs, or drinking, or getting involved with gangs, there's noone to blame but myself.

Answer 7

Don't be angry, be concerned. Be concerned that he isn't spending enough time with his son. Be concerned that he doesn't like the responsibility of a child. Dont get mad at him, it will just make it worse. Just calmly tell him your concern.

Answer 8

I think he needs to be responsible and take care of them....You should be angry..It just makes you wonder what is more important then taking care of his children....Mine loves to watch them. They really do grow up so fast and in the end he will regret not spending that time with them....He is the one that needs to grow up

Answer 9

ahhh hell yeah! You should be angry, he's obviously never heard of the saying "any man can be a father but it takes a real man to be a daddy" he needs to step up you didnt climb on top of yourself and fall pregnant, there his children also and he should be spending time with them.

Answer 10

I would be furious because it takes two. it took two to make that beautiful living and he shouyld be a little more considerate for you and your needs. I bet you cook clean and probably rub his feet.
you should sit him down and express your emotions and let him know that fair is fair and thats it is supposed to be % each not /50/100