I've met a guy at work i am kinda interested in. However, We had too much touchie feely when we are at work, so i decided to play it safe and tell him to back off. He replied with an insulting email stating that he has a wedding band on his finger and he is going to marry his girl after they finish school.
However, one week later, he said that the wedding band means nothing to him. It is just his gf give to him as a gift. He haven't decided whether he is going to marry her. I had a one day off yesteraday and he felt bored at work. He called me 3-4 times during work and i don't know what he is doing. IF he felt bored, why didn't he call his gf? Even though, he kept saying he considers me as his ONLY friend at work, but is there something extra?
2006-07-15 04:55:50 · 26 answers · asked by polinatora 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would just leave him alone in terms of expecting anything more from him than a friend. There are other guys out there who are not engaged and who you'd be better off with. It sounds like he's emotionally cheating (Oprah featured this topic in her magazine a few months ago) with you on his fiance. If you want to be his friend then encourage him to become more emotionally attached to his girlfriend or else get out of it.
Best wishes.
2006-07-15 05:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dana Rain 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This guy wants to have his cake and eat it too. For all you know, he could already be married...anyway, if he's wearing a ring he's as good as married. If he thinks there is something between the two of you, and he has strong feelings for you, he should break off his engagement and then date you. If you continue like this and develop feelings for him, I'm afraid you will just get hurt in the end.
2006-07-15 12:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by sunny1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have seen plenty of warning signs about this guy. Even if you feel attracted you basically know better than to get involved. So don't be anything more than a casual friend or you will be frustrated and miserable. Now is the time to make a good decision!
2006-07-15 11:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even keep this man as a friend. The man is totally lieing to you. If he has a ring on his finger he is probably already married or is about to be. This is the games some married or about to be married men will play. Leave him alone.
2006-07-15 11:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by lillady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should set a boundary that either 1> He picks one or the other or 2> You are going to play with the understanding that you'll get dropped later. If you ever have to ask yourself if someone is 100% there for you, they're not.
2006-07-15 12:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl this guy os and nut case run hide move ... lol he needs help fast if he has and gf he needs to be calling her how u shore he not married and playing u for and fool men this day in time u cant trust nothing they say my best friend got into something semlier but the guy was married his wife walkin on them in her own house bet the crap out my friend and she dont know he was married couse he said it was and promiss ring so becareful good luck
2006-07-15 12:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what he is doing to his g/f right now, by writing and calling you and playing around....is that something you'd be ok with if he was with you, and then calling someone else behind your back? Ditch this guy, he's a complete loser. Give his g/f some respect. You can do better than this, find a guy who is truly single and who will respect you and love you. This guy is a loser LOSER!
2006-07-15 12:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Catherine n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from this guy. he's obviously cheating on his gf or thinking about cheating on her, so if you got with him, chances are he would do the same thing to you. in the mean time, stop flirting with the guy. he's taken. until he can decided who he wants to be with, he doesn't deserve to have that kind of attention from you. my hubby had an ex that bought him a ring to wear and bitched at him royally when he didn't wear it. that's probably the case here.
2006-07-15 12:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy is a player. If he truly was looking to get with you, he would not be wearing a ring, talking about his girlfriend. I would stay away, it means nothing but trouble. If he continues to bother you, tell your boss, harassment has no place at work.
2006-07-15 12:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to have his cake and eat it to. If he wants you, he needs to dump his GF and the ring, and show you he's serious
Otherwise, he's just playing games.
Personally, I think he's behaved as a jerk, and that you are better off without him, regardless of what he does the the ring and the GF.
2006-07-15 11:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Chris H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋