I met a beautiful lady on-line. We had a lot in common. We went out to dinner, and spent 4 hours talking and having a good time. We both decided that we wanted to see each other again. The week after, my son and I went on our annual fishing trip. When I got back in town, she told me that she had something that she wanted to talk about. So I went over to her house. She told me that she might have cancer. I told her that I didn't care about that. I even joked with her (it made her feel better) about if she lost her hair, I would shave mine off too. I told her that this issue didn't affect the way I felt about her. She seemed to understand but told me that she needed space. I told her I would give her space. I would still call her on occasion to find out how she was. She never did call me back. Then I found out today she put her profile back on the dating website. Can anybody tell me why someone would say they want a relationship, and then turn around and start looking for someone else.
2006-07-15 04:35:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She did seem to have an issue with monetary things that I bought. I know she was having money issues by herself, but she never asked me for help. If she would've asked me, I would've helped her out. I even bought her 2 dozen roses and a teddy bear to brighten her day at work.
2006-07-15 04:37:58 · update #1
The date went fine. I never insulted her, at least not that I know of. I would think that if I would've said something to offend her, she would've told me.
2006-07-15 04:42:53 · update #2
For some reason she just decided you were not the right one. Don't stress over it, it probably just didn't feel right to her for whatever reason she was thinking of. You sound like a great caring person. You should put your profile back up too if that's what you want to do, and forget about her. Don't bring her up in conversation with anyone else you may meet, and just basically forget her. Go on with what you were doing before you two met and meet someone else. I think eventually everyone meets someone that's perfect for them; she obviously wasn't perfect for you, even though she may have seemed like the right one at first. Good luck and get on with life!
2006-07-15 05:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by ANGELa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww I feel bad for you. You seem like such a great person. I'm sorry that she hurt you but I believe like the others have said that she didn't want to continue seeing you so she made up a story. That's a pretty low thing to do to someone.
There is a special lady out there for you who will appreciate your kind heart. Put your profile back up on the dating site and see if you can find her. Never say never!
2006-07-15 04:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was just scared. She probably told you that she had cancer because she wanted to see if you'd run. You took her by surprise and that scared her! Sometimes people are afraid to get what they want. It seems like you are a wonderful man, and it is a shame that she didnt realize that. I wouldn't worry, I'm sure that you'll find someone that will appreciate you in the future.
2006-07-15 04:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she thought it was best to lie to you, not because she's a bad person, but because she wasn't interested, and didn't want to hurt your feelings. She probably liked you a lot, but not romantically. That's what it sounds like to me. I hope she really doesn't have cancer. If she doesn't, she could have come up with something a little less sad, tragic, etc.
2006-07-15 04:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just to let you in on something........... the majority of women won't ask for help from a man........ even if she desperately needs it. One reason is, all we hear is that all women want is money and a man to take care of them. Which is not true but it would be great to have somebody to lean on from time to time. Secondly, most of us are just waiting for a guy to say, hey, can I help you with anything........ because then we know that he wants to helps us because he wants to, not because he feels pressured to. (90% percent of the time I break up with a guy simply because he is blind to the fact that women need help, want help from the person that they care about. But, I am sure its hard with guys because there are women that are after them for thier money.
2006-07-15 04:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by Coodles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently she was not interested in u and was too chicken to tell u so she tried to lie out of it and she seen that was not working she probaly did not have cancer bottom line she was not interested in u i would forget about her and put your profile back on the singles again she was wrong for not telling u she was not interested
2006-07-15 04:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
y dont u try talkin 2 her abt it????ze ozers may be rite,she might have lied 2 u abt her disease bt zere can b smthin else 2....instead of waitin 4 her 2 ask u 4 help u can propose 2 help her...moreover she said she might have cancer its nt confirmed yet...just ask her 2 b sincere zatz all..
2006-07-15 04:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you do anything wrong that you didn't list on this? Did you insult her or something on accident? Think over the whole date process.
2006-07-15 04:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by marinescheerleader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she changed her mind about wanting to date you and come up with the cancer story.
2006-07-15 04:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe she was not the one for you if she just let you go even though you seem like a pretty nice guy to me. if she wants to go and blow you off like that then maybe she is not as nice as you thought she was... and it don't matter if she looks good it maders if she is good on the inside righ (no afence!!!), cause maybe all she thought about was the looks and she probley didnt think you looked good enought for her even thought you offered help for her when she had cancer... but ya KNOW MAYBE SHE DID'NT REALY HAVE CANCER AND JUST WANTED TO GET YOU OFF HER BACK, JUST CAUSE SHE IS LIKE THAT....
SRY!! and good luck,
mrsnewbooty2011@yahoo.com
2006-07-15 05:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by chelsea h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋