Ive been seeing a guy for around 5 months,im 4 years older he is 31,we both came out of long term relationships with kids a year ago,so at first it was just seeing each other for fun,no commitments,one minute he said he had feelings for me to make it official,then another time he called it a day cos he said it was geting complicated,then he offered friendship or sex to chose from,i chosed to carry on seeing him wotever as i had feelings for him,now he says i chosed the sex ,i never just wanted to see him,told him i had feelings for him,he knew this and he still saw me knowing this ,now he says he was in it for the sex and is trying to get back with his ex,told him didnt like the way he has treated me ,he cant make his mind up and i still like him and am hurt,he asked where do we go from here ,i said i dont know,now at his local there is a party and he said to come down with my mate but warned me that his ex will be the there as well. told him his ex will hurt him again if he goes back
2006-07-15 04:15:57 · 22 answers · asked by wendspoton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it to some one who cares, you gave it all to a man who cannot. Become a mystery, hold back, save something for special moments. Men who get it all look for more, If you have opened your soul and given all you can, that's what you did wrong. You can give all, but do so in small doses, keep them wanting, it can be your mind or your body, but if you keep one or the other back, remain mysterious, physically or mentally, they will never give up the hunt, you will become a challenge, something to win, even the most hideous of men think they are wonderful if they have all of you, it's then that they move on, looking for something they cannot have, like an ex wife. You are a giver, open, honest no games, take me as you find me, I'm an open book, I never lie. It works, but only for me. Find a real man, one who can love that honesty you are, or follow my cheats and become a mystery woman, give and take it away from them the next time they want it. Men want what they cannot have, use that and you are a winner.
2006-07-15 04:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother at all,he will only do the same again,just like he told you that he wanted sex only.Now both of you probably have feelings for each other but you have to remember that he still has feelings for his ex,so that means he will have issues for as long as you are together.Don't hurt your self,make a fresh start!
2006-07-15 04:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Spooky Boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god....he doesn't deserve you. He is using you...and if he is trying to get back with his ex then he's not doing her any favours either. If you have any sense at all you will back off. I understand that you may have feelings for him. I think that by making yourself so available you are not doing yourself any favours. Withdraw from the situation so you can really think what you want. Also, if you withdraw and he does feel something for you then he will probably come running.Hope this helps a little. Good luck.
2006-07-15 06:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by janey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl....dat is trouble! Get rid of him while u can. Man u don't need no drama like dat in ur life. They so many niggas up in this world u'll find another dat will treat u right.
U should be treated like a queen and not just a f****n' bag!
2006-07-15 04:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by Traviesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay clear from this guy. I would not bother he does not know what he wants. Find a new guy that it will be easier to be in a relationship with. I do understand what this is like. This could zap your energy to be dealing with....
2006-07-15 04:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it, it sounds to me he was just init for yr pusy, sorry, but i think u can do better than him, if he is running after his ex, thats not a good.
sign at all.
i have used the " i was in it for the sex" when i was breaking up before, and it was true as well.
most guys are just as.hol.es
2006-07-15 04:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question when you told him you didn't like the way he treats you. Get rid girl! You're worth more and can do better! He wants his cake and eat it.... withdraw the sweet trolley hun!
2006-07-15 04:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by Gill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wasting your time on this one. He's been using you.
Chalk this one up as a lesson learned. Be more particular.
2006-07-15 04:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hurts you to be with him then drop him. If you want just the sex and no honesty from him then stay.
2006-07-15 04:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by keep_up_w_this 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he leaves you for his ex then his just plain dumb. but when he said he was just in it for the sex. you should just leave him alone and move on. there are better men out there.
2006-07-15 04:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by jasmine p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋