My mom doesn't believe things like this, and shhe think I just want attention, even though I cut and scrape my skin becuase it feels so good. I dunno about my dad.
2006-07-15 04:12:59 · 11 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I've shown my parents my marks. I've got scars everywhere, and some of them were caused my the pressure my mom putd on me, but again she insists I just want attention.
I can't drive, and non eo fmy friends can, either, so I've got no way to go see a therapist. I wish.
2006-07-15 04:19:59 · update #1
Your mum is not alone in thinking this ...
People often think self-harm is just a way of trying to get attention.
A wise friend once emailed me a list of attention-seeking behaviors: wearing nice clothing, smiling at people, saying "hi", going to the check-out counter at a store, and so on. We all seek attention all the time; wanting attention is not bad or sick. If someone is in so much distress and feel so ignored that the only way he can think of to express his pain is by hurting his body, something is definitely wrong in his life and this isn't the time to be making moral judgments about his behavior.
That said, most people who self-injure go to great lengths to hide their wounds and scars. Many consider their self-harm to be a deeply shameful secret and dread the consequences of discovery. From: http://www.selfinjury.org/indexnet.html
A free helpline for you to call 1-800-dontcut (366-8288)
Please call them.
Two links for you.
A site that supports people who self-harm with information on how to quit.
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html
Help on coping with life and self-harm
http://www.psyke.org/coping/
2006-07-15 09:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by stickybroom100 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Double D, actually a lot of people with depression also self-injure (although not all do).
I like the suggestion someone made that you should find an intermediary, i.e. someone who can talk to your parents and you .. if you can't get a therapist, perhaps you can talk to a teacher or a family friend that you can trust. And then they could talk to your parents.
What about free helplines .. you could talk to someone here and they would guide you on how to go about things. What are you hoping to get out of telling your parents? Emotional support? Professional help? Think about it and see if you can get some of this from others in your family or from yourself .. at the end of the day working through depression is our own responsbility and family can only help up to a point. Talking to someone about your feelings is the best thing you can do .. but make sure you do your talking to someone who will respect your views and be supportive, it's no use talking to someone who will just put you down, that will only make you feel worse. If your mom is not supportive then perhaps she is not the person to tell. But there will be someone out there who you can talk to who WILL be able to help.
2006-07-15 07:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents like to live in deniel because if you are having a problem then that means they haven't done the job of raising you properly. Of course this isn't really true but that is how they think. Your best approach would be to come straight out and tell them and if they get defensive you may have to rely on another relative such as an aunt or uncle. If that doesn't work you may also turn to the church or a help line. Help lines are good because it is free and it is not face to face contact. Also you must understand that everyone goes through some form of depression and depending on your age or stress environment will depend on the amount of depression you experience. I think teenage years are the worse do to chemical changes happening in your body as you develope into an adult. As far as cutting yourself goes, I think that is a form of self punishment and you really need to find another method of punishing yourself. I suggest excercise because not only does it relieve stress but in the long run it is better for your body.
2006-07-15 04:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you don't have much support right now. You might want to find some on-line support. I find more supportive people on the internet than I do in REAL life. Sometimes it's real hard telling someone face to face how you are really feeling, but typing your feelings to a computer can sometimes be easier. I placed a link in the "source" section below. They have pretty good list of support groups, etc.
As far as telling your parents, I think you need to sit down with them and tell them your concerns. (what is wrong and why you are afraid to speak to them about this) IF they still won't take you seriously, you NEED to find yourself professional help. (call your regular doctor and tell him/her the situation and that your parents don't understand, etc) and your doctor could lead you in the right direction.
Please don't let this go. I used to do the same thing to myself when I was much younger and no one would listen to me either. As a result, i started to self medicate...NOT a place you want to end up.
Good Luck!
2006-07-15 04:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by andbeanermakes8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your mom is right. You just want some attention because locking your door and blasting Panic! At the Disco isn't enough.
People who are actually depressed don't cut themselves. People who cut themselves don't have the self-control to realize that they are mutilating themselves.
That's an entirely different problem. Look into that, instead.
2006-07-15 06:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by doubled254 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need an intermediary, someone who can be a neutral observer/referree so that both of your perspectives are heard and respected. Otherwise, in most parent/child relationships, blame will try to be placed before solutions are discussed. You need to not worry about placing the blame, but you do need to get to the solution.
2006-07-15 05:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sit them down and talk to them. Explain where this is coming from and ask them what they think. Tell them taht maybe if they gave the attation when you ask or talk, then you wouldn't be so deprived and calling out for it in such ways. Turn the table and use there defense agenst them.
2006-07-15 04:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by theaterhanz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you need to talk to them about a personal problem. It sounds like you are reaching out for help, if your parents are not receptive, look to your nurse at school, your doctor or minister/ priest. Please any persons in the mental health field jump in and help this young lady.
2006-07-15 04:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Robert S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know how old you are...but maybe you could get into therapy and find out what sorts of meds might work for you.....
you are far from being a drama queen...you are just hurting....
show them the marks that you made on yourself...that might just freak your mom out enough that she will believe in such things as counseling and meds....
2006-07-15 04:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your local county mental health. They will help you. They will even provide transportation. Please call you need help and just because you are a minor does not mean you cant get it! I will keep you in my prayers. If you turn your life over to the lord he will help you out of this darkness! There is so much power in prayer!
2006-07-17 11:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by skybludeb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋