After he cheated on you. I guess I see a lot of women who say that they were really in love and wanted to keep the relationship intact. But when does it become too much? When children are in the picture is it harder? Could you see yourself statying in a marriage if there was infidelity? Just curious on your thoughts.
2006-07-15 04:09:52 · 14 answers · asked by let_it_be_known1981 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ZERO.
If a man can cheat on his wife then he doesn't love her as he should. All this crap about the wife not giving him what he needs is bullsh-it. If that is the case then he should be working it out with her instead of just going outside the marriage. Most often than not it's the man who allows himself to be lured in by another women or he actively pursues someone disregarding his wedding vows and his wife's love and fidelity.
2006-07-15 04:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Let It Be:
Well, from your pic you are a cutie!
Seriously, I can say from experience
that it is not worth it. Staying.
Why? Well,(my honey(ex)) he just kept on and on
cheating. He always came back
full of love and sorry.
We started a family, and he, well,
same old story. He actually ended
up leaving our family to be with
one of his affairs.
It has been 27 years later, and I
was sad the first 4 years after
he left, he looked like he was
having fun and even married her!
Yet, I began a new life after 4 years
of painful separation from him, but
so much good happened as I started
to get to know 'me' all over and
learn to respect myself, totally.
Then, I began dating, and traveled
and well, to sum my last 27 years
up 'after' him, I have been meeting
the most wonderful men. Real sweet
wholesome men, that I wish I had
started seeing when I was in my
teens!
Seriously, you need to really get your-
self some self respect and back your
looks up with a personality that some-
one could trust! Love yourself. How
could you, doing what you are.
And to end this comment; This ex of
mine, is alone in life now, drunk most
of the time, no friends, and he lost his
youth, attractiveness and replaced
it with an old wrinkled nasty disposition!
and I don't feel sorry for him one bit. I
gave 300%, maybe more....
luv
and thoughts
Ava
2006-07-15 11:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the circumstances of the affair. If he didn't intentionally try to hurt me and it was the girl's fault (maybe she drugged him -_-) then I would consider taking him back (despite being more than a little pissed off). But if he chose to be with someone else at the same time we were together then never. I think once a man cheats on you its like shattered mirror. You can glue the pieces back together but the cracks will always be there. If I really really really really loved him then god knows what might happen.
2006-07-15 11:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start, I am NO stand by your man kind of girl. I always said if I found out he was cheating that would be it! But I found out he was cheating and we did have kids so I stayed and it was the most painful thing I have ever gone through. I would strongly suggest not doing it. You will never know even if she forgives you, how she feels about herself going forward. It stripped me of all of my confidence, it made me less than I was. Plus I found out some really nasty things about me! I do hold a grudge and I CAN make someone's life hell. We ended up getting divorced 4 years later, because I could never get over it. Plus I had no respect for him; how freakin easy is it to be out of town and start a relationship? He lied to her too so although she is a skanky, w h or e, bit ch, sub human s l u t she doesn't even know it , although her name is Marie and she lives in New Jersey
2006-07-15 11:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have taken my baby's dad back 2 times i was crazy in 6 years he had 7 children from playing so bad i was pregnant with my daughter at the same time that 2 other girls was pregnant at first i did not know but when i found out i left him then he told those love lines and i took him back then he did it all over again i guess that what happen when u crazy in love i am no longer with him now and my daughter at that time is 7
2006-07-15 11:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to make it work for the children , but it's only so much a person can take . And after he cheated on me twice i wouldnt take him back ( you have to give everbody a second chance).
2006-07-15 11:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no.. I will never take a man back after he cheats...and girls who do take them back deserves to get hurt over and over again.. i dont feel bad for the one that make the same mistake twice
2006-07-15 11:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by vo00do0doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never take a dude back that cheated on me. If I forgive him once, what makes him not do it again? Fool me once, shame on him, fool me twice, shame on me. And if there were kids involved, they would stay with me, because obviously he has other interests than the children.
2006-07-15 11:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by terrapinqueen76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can only give him one chance. yes, it is pretty harder if children are involved, because you wont be deciding for yourself alone. no, i definitely CANT accept a philandering husband, no matter how much i love him. it isnt too much to demand faithfulness, is it?
2006-07-15 11:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by DJ Alex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One time --- Everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect. There is a saying " Fool me once shame on you, but, fool me twice shame on me." And I will not be anyone's fool.
2006-07-15 12:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋