why dose it bother me so much that i dont get attension from girls?

Question

im 19/m and i know the hormone stuff is killin me but i dont even want sex, just some1 to talk to or like go on dates with.
im not bad looking but i just dont understand how even when i go down the shore where there is alot of girls its like they see right through me, it makes me very uncomfortable and depressed and i dont understand why i dwell on it so much

Just so you all know, im really sorry i forgot to tell you, i do flirt alot with girls im not very shy at all, and yes i do have a 6pck and a decent body im like 6'1 180 all muscle, i dont think thats what the problem is. Unfortunatly i dont fit in with people my age so i dont have alot of friends maybe thats my problem. well sorry i didnt tell you thanks for ur answers but its not that simple

Answer 1

Girls arent going to go after you. Thats just the way it works. Sure there are some girls out there that are more agressive and will walk up to any guy they think is attractive, but thats not the case for most women. I have never in my life walked up to a guy and hit on him, and I'm engaged. They want the guy to come to them. When I was single, I hated when guys would ask for my number and I think I only gave my number to 2 guys ever. The best thing for a guy to do would be to come up and just talk to me, about anything. If we are at work he could say "jeez so n so is a jerk" it would break the ice. Even a simple how are you doing is nice. Don't do the cheesy stuff, no pick up lines or talking about yourself and how great you are to sell yourself to her. You wouldnt walk up to a male friend and tell them "hey whats up I have a 6 pack, and I'm really well endowed" so don't do it to a girl, it is uncomfortable for her and a huge turn off. If you see a girl somewhere and you think she is attractive(and without a man) make eye contact with her, if she holds it, shes interested. Also a good test is that if you are around someone you like, if you stand close to her (within the 2 foot comfort range) and she doesnt move away, shes interested in you. Im sure there are girls out there that have been interested in you, they are just waiting for you to make the move and talk to them. hope this helps good luck!

Answer 2

Just relax. Don't go to the beach to hunt for girls. Go with your friends and just have fun. That is when a girl will approach you. You can't worry about something like this. Just because girls don't approach you doesn't mean they don't like you. Sometimes girls are just too shy to approach a guy. Try approaching a girl. Flirt up a storm. And if she's not interested, then oh well, she doesn't know what she's missing...

Answer 3

I wish you guys would please try using spell-check.

But to your question, a lot of guys feel the same way, just some to more of a degree than others. I felt a lot the same way when I was younger. It was a horrible feeling. I wish I could go back in time and be then the way I feel now. It's so great to be alive, so peaceful to be alone! Then when I DO get around other people, it means so much more....

Answer 4

You will never know if a girl likes you or not because you don't make the time to go talk to them a girl can like and probably won't look at you when she see you turn her way so I think you should try talking to more girls and getting thier number.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You need to just be yourself man. You are trying too hard. In my experience I found most women like the man to be in "charge" and confident about most everything. Just go up to one of them that looks halfway decent and start b.s.ing about anything. If you do I think you'll be surprised by the results.

Answer 7

I sometimes have this same problem. It's just pride, loneliness, that sort of thing. Don't let it get you down, when you're a bit older you'll realize that getting attention from the ladies isn't so great after all.

Answer 8

Bulk up, get a tan, get confident....they won't see through you anymore. Turn the depression into conviction and motivation

Answer 9

Maybe your not flirtatious enough....and really the beach isn't a great place to look, maybe at your job or something. Girls who go to beaches don't really look for guys, because they already have one...

Answer 10

Be yourself. Be open. Listen. Be confident in yourself. Don't worry about it. try making some new friends that have other friends.