how do you instill danger into the mind of a 3 year old boy?

Question

my son is three and refuses to listen. i have been telling him for weeks no climbing on the furniture. and i punish him when he does. well today the little devil. thats how hes acting goes in my kitchen and get the trash can and climbs on the counter and kicks one of my glasses to the floor shattering it. how do i curb this kind of behavior. hes not allowed sugar or caffiene. he doesnt eat canned fruit. whatelse can i do to stop this before i have no dishes. my dishes are all glass. daddy is in the military and gone alot so its just him and me. please only serious non judgemental answers. i will report any rude ones. any good advice will do thanks

he has hurt himself. he broke his elbow last october

i cant take him to the park is nearly a hundred degrees every day. this behavior only just started and daddy is home right now.

hes not diabetic. sugar and caffeine make him very hyper

Answer 1

I find time outs work very well. The key though is he doesnt come out of time outs until you let him. If he gets up, put him back. If he gets up 30 times, you have to put him back 31. You must be consistant and dont threaten something you cant or wont carry through with. I saw a woman on TV who had a troubled child. She threatened to call store security where she was shopping. She obviously was not going to do this and her child will soon learn, the threats have no basis. If you say you are taking his favorite toy, take it. Hopefully this helps you.

Answer 2

Joey's right. People learn something is dangerous when they are hurt by it. Your son may be feeling cooped up and or missing his daddy. Try getting him out to the park regularly. Twice a day would probably do and give you a break from housework. If they have a jungle gym in the park he can climb all he wants. You should be with him until you and he both know what he can handle and what he can't. Remember to let him find out if he can or can't do something, even if this means you have to rescue him. The missing daddy bit you'll have to talk over with other mothers. If you live on or near base, there should be a mothers & wives help group.

NEW, ADDITIONAL INFO!!

I spoke to my daughters about your situation and they suggested that you might need to consult a physician. Has he been tested for Autism, ADHD(attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), ADD(attention deficit disorder) or Asberger's (could be a syndrome but we're not sure). There are differences between each of these problems and also variations inside them. You'll need official diagnosis to be sure and to get any assistance. I don't know your exact situation but I expect that you will have access to military medical expertise to resolve this. Good luck and hope you resolve it.

Answer 3

Have him do active things indoors if it is too hot outside. Take him to an indoor play area, or else play something with him inside, like hokey pokey or something. Sounds like he just needs more exercise.
I would also say, and I just put this in another answer, to tell him that if he does it again, he will be locked in his room, with no fun stuff in there, and then DO IT! Be consistent and he will get the idea.
If he continues this behavior, and has any developmental problems, take him to the doc for an eval. He could have Autism, or something else. At any rate, get some help.

Answer 4

Why is not allowed sugar or canned fruit? You did not say he is a diabetic. This type of behavior is ofter a cry for attention or a protest against his life. Do you enforce any other stringent regulations that make him uhappy? Ease up a little as long as he is not in actual danger.

Answer 5

If you can't condition him to break the habit with punishment or any type of negative reinforcement, try using positive enforcement. If that doesn't work he may just have to fall(and hopefully not hurt himself too bad) to intrinsically understand climbing high things can equate to pain. (I was also joking about the centaur question-I have no mental issues-just bad sense of humor!) Have a nice day lady.

Answer 6

first off- invest in plastic dishes. telling a toddler to avoid dangerous situations is like telling a dog not to wag its tail- its not going to work. at 3 its your job to keep him safe, not his job to make a judgment he is incapable of. sounds like you have an active little guy!! take him someplace he can safely climb, run, jump- like a playground or park. pack a lunch- throw a frisbee with him- he won't catch it, but you will both be out, active and laughing, and the little dare devil will get tired. if he knows he has a place available to do his "tricks", it will be easier to set limits on him indoors. but mostly, for now, put your running shoes on and good luck!!!

Answer 7

Make rules and be sure to enforce them strictly. Don't "threaten" a punishment, actually enforce one. Also, he may just want some attention. So during the day read him extra stories, or play with him, something he likes. Good Luck

Answer 8

remember he is only 3 so try time outs and the most important thing consistency if you say it do it every single time don't slack and enforce the punishment every single time you can try taking away favorite toys as a punishment do more activities with him i hope things get easier for you

Answer 9

Pl try to understand him, he is now a mere child & missing his daddy aslo, if you cannot manage then go for council, your child is normal, there must be some reason that he dos such a behaviour- be steady.

Answer 10

Get him out for some exercise. Maybe that'll tire him out while inside.

Other than that most kids don't learn until they hurt themselves.