big guys like me, either get the bottom of the barrel or not at all. I am 6' 2" 345 pounds, more muscle than fat, I am still losing weight, I have a good job, I dress neatly and I am always well groomed with good manners, yet the only ladies who ever seem interested are the exact opposite they are big like me, which I don't necessarily mind, but that is where the similarities end. They usually don't dress well, their personal hygene always seems suspect, and they seem to have little or no interest in working or building for the future. I refuse to discriminate based on size/weight because I am big, but I still would love to have an occasional date with a lady who is attractive and takes pride in herself as well as being at least small enough that people notice that there is a difference between me and her when we are together.
2006-07-15 03:14:59 · 10 answers · asked by urnextbigthang 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone male or female seems to think I have a great personality, I am honest, I make people laugh, I like to give attention as much if not more than I receive it, I am intelligent etc. Not stuck on myself, mind you, these are comments that are made to me by other people.
2006-07-15 03:22:26 · update #1
I am being mis-understood by some, I am not saying these negative things I am saying that there are BBW's and then there are just big women who are slobs, there is a difference, but I am also saying that even the BBW's tend to want to be with the regular size guys
2006-07-15 04:34:49 · update #2
first of all you're wrong about BBW's...we care about how we look...I take GREAT pride in my appearance..and so do ALL the other ones i'm friends with..I shower EVERY SINGLE DAY. I care about my future..and so does EVERY OTHER BBW that I know. You don't know every single BBW in the world, so you have no right to judge..you don't want to be judged yet you have no problem sitting there judging...you want to be accepted but you want only a little woman? that's so hypocritical. I am great moral character, and my manners are PERFECT. I dress well all the time. if you don't want to be judged, STOP JUDGING others. and for your information, when I did still weigh 120lbs, I only dated big guys. it's my preference....you don't know me...and you don't know all BBW's. if you want a great girl, stop being so judgemental and become a great guy.
2006-07-15 03:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by Syeira 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be confident in who you are. Go to a bar, buy a dozen jello shots, walk around and give them to the hot ladies and make sure you say something nice to each one while looking into thier EYES. If there a couple of women that are together with no guys, after giving out all the shots walk back over to them and ask them if they enjoyed it and are they having a good time. Then introduce yourself. From there you are on your own. Just try to keep the conversation going. If it lasts for an hour or so, say that you'd love to have some friends just like them and would they mind hanging out again. If they don't offer their number, offer yours. Then play up the big guy thing. Say even if they just want to use you for a bodyguard/chauffer for the night, you'd be willing. Try not to make it desperate though.
2006-07-15 03:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by kevsnow00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know plenty of big guys who are popular with the ladies. Where are you going to meet people? Forget about bars, forget about work and the single ads. Go hang out at the bookstores, like Borders or Barnes & Noble. Join some sort of interest group like the Sierra Club, or something else that rocks your world. You need to find people who are "real" and aren't looking for a trophy to tote around - a mate just for the sake of having one. If you are already doing these sort of things, maybe you should find a therapy group with other people of similar age to you, perhaps they would candidly reveal to you the things you didn't know you didn't know that are prohibiting you from finding the mate that you seek. I wish you well, it's tough out there, I know from experience! Take Care & good luck!
2006-07-15 03:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All my BBW friend's are great looking and date men based on personality not size. Don't give up on woman of all sizes just because you have met a few bad apples. When you meet the right one size won't matter anyways. Good luck to you.
2006-07-15 03:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by donnabbb43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all BBW's can be lumped into your stereotype. Some of us have college educations and make a great salary. We are really beautiful and dress beautifully too.
Sounds like you're not attracted to larger women, and yes you do descriminate.
If you're not attracted, then don't go out with her, no matter what her size is. Don't go out with anyone you're not attracted too in some way.
2006-07-15 03:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK! I got your point,but if you look around size does not matter at all,love don't care about shape and sizes! It is just like a magic when it comes to chemistry!Don't be bother about the height or sizes that you are anxious about but you should be happy by your own choice!People had nothing to do with your preferences and feelings towards the girl!But if you find someone that fits your height or a woman with above average height, you are lucky enough that you match physically but you are not certain if you would fall in love with her,just because you don't like her for what she is inside but you like her just because of her height! I suggest that choose the woman you like and be proud for being a man enough to show the real you! GOOd luck!
2006-07-15 03:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an attractive plus size lady who takes care of herself, takes pride in how she looks and dresses. In my opinion you are a sexy vibrant man and I would be interested in getting know you if I were single, which I am not.
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Good luck Darlin'!
2006-07-15 03:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wanted you to know that you have an awesome personality and I have enjoyed our conversation thus far Mr. Salesman. Just for the record, I accept individuals for how they are. I have no qualms against race or size. Being different is a unique quality that God gives each person. If an individual can't accept you for who you are then they aren't meant for you in the first place. If you are truly eager to find someone that compliments you then try seeking God and let him lead you when trying to find dates. I guarantee you'll find a companion! .
Yours truly,
Mel
2006-07-21 08:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by ms. mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I say is love you first--I mean in a psychological way--say things that you love about you to yourself and really feel it--I know you're probably saying that this is a 'woman' thing, but it isn't, just try it. You have a lot to contribute if you can see through steroetypes, a lot of people cannot. If you can truly love you, you can then truly love another and the right woman will see that--if they can't it's their loss.
2006-07-15 03:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First keep losing wait. You should tru to stay with girls the same hight as you. This always looks and works better. The other thing is don't be in such a rush. Girls can see that and it scares them. You have a long time to live , take your time.
2006-07-15 03:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋