Does anyone else feel weak/guilty about talking or confiding?

Question

Okay maybe i should elaborate>>> i feel guilty as im typing this as it shows that im weak and cant cope with my depression >>> its driving me insane and taking over every aspect of my life.

Answer 1

Yes..
Some people feel vulnerable and exposed when they share their feelings;as if the hearer would later use it against them in some way.
lf you're one of those,then avoid confiding in others.
Feelings change,anyway and what you feel today may not be what you will feel tomorrow.And you may not even wish to be reminded of how you felt yesterday or last month by the person to whom you 'poured out your feelings.'
Here's a tip: Always confide good things,talk about nice things.Don't use anyone as an emotional crutch;except your tried and trusted friends....and if you really love them,you won't even want to burden them with your problems.
What do l do when l get depressed?
l go away by myself somewhere,l pray,cry a little....all the while knowing that feelings pass;they are temporal,not eternal.
IT WORKS!

Answer 2

I often feel like this all the time, and it has really put a lot of strain on my life and my relationships because I don't feel like I can talk to people, and they don't seem to understand why I can't. People just think that it is so simple to open up to those around you, when in fact it could be the hardest thing that anyone could do. Someone once told me that talking to others is not a sign of weakness at all, but rather its the contrary. It is a great show of strength when you are able to open up and ask for the help that you want/ need. I know that its going to take a bit of time to talk and be able to open up, but once you start to do it, you'll see how much better that it makes you feel. At the beginning it might feel worse for a bit, but it will get better, I promise =)

Answer 3

Depression is an illness much like any other. It's quite different from being just temporarily 'down'. You wouldn't feel guilty about having flu, for example, so nor should you feel guilty about being depressed. It's very common to feel like that, though, so you are not alone (you are quite normal in that respect) and shouldn't be ashamed of feeling weak. You are not letting yourself or anyone else down by doing that. You are doing a positive thing to try and help you out of your pain.

Talking is always good, even on here! You probably should go and see your doctor if you are worried enough about it to overcome your feeling of weakness and put a question here. If you want someone to talk to, you are quite welcome to contact me but I'm not a therapist or a specialist.

Answer 4

No way. I got into the habit as a teenager. As I got older I became a little more selective about what I said to whom, and how much I thought about it before opening my mouth, but nothing much else changed. It's kept me out of hospital, jail and the deep blue sea since then.

Guilty? never. Weak? understandable - but just go for it and you'll get used to it. Just make sure that those you talk to have your best interests in mind.

Depression is something lots of us on YA suffer from. Talking is a big big part of the answer. Another important part is professional help. Don't hang about, you've got a whole life to live so do the work you need to do to liberate yourself from this burden. You will succeed, but it will take time. Best to start now.

Answer 5

Yes, your question makes me feel a little better because I felt pretty guilty for a response I posted to an earlier question. Talking or confiding in people is opening our hearts and it makes us very vulnerable.

It's a good thing to do because it invites other people to come closer to us but at the same time it leaves us open to being hurt. Take care and try to find things that make you feel a little happier. I think that depression is very common to us all because our modern lives are very divorced from really meaningful activity. Thank you. I hope you find the right path for you x

Answer 6

It depends on to whom you're talking. But talking-communication- is a must if u wanna survive in this world. if you don't want to share yur problems with yur friends, then make sure you share them with someone who can understand, and is open minded, and won't judge you. U should never feel guilty, or weak-you will discover that you are not alone, and the other people's experience will help you deal better with yur problems.

Answer 7

Yes, I do.... which is why I posted a problem I was having with my boyfriend because I was too ashamed to ask my friends. I want them to think I'm strong and reliable.
Also there are SO many whingers out there these days and they moan about such trifling things when there are people out there dying in war and famine and have terrible lives. If people looked at the bigger picture it may put their personal problems into perspective.

Answer 8

I think we all want someone to share our feelings with, someone that understands. I don`t think it means that you are guilty or weak at all, far from it. Asking for help is a great sign of strength.

Answer 9

feeling guilty is due to the nature of our culture; we are taught to be independant in our culture whereas other cultures will rely heavily on others around them and will have them come to depend on them at some point. farming communties etc, undeveloped countries. independance is more valuable to a capitalist society because it drives a person to survive. d

Answer 10

See "depression" under this page for natural help.

http://phifoundation.org/heal.html