I've been dating this guy for over a year and I've fallen in love with him. The thing is that we are not a couple and never were because he said he doesn't want a relationship at this point in his life because he just got out of a 7 year relationship which ended because he found out that their child was not his. He also admitted to me that I am not the only one he is seeing right now. I am really confused because we regularly go to the movies, bowling, out to eat, Great America and he still calls me on a daily basis. I love him but I know that the longer this continues on the more I am going to get hurt. It hurts me that he sees other people but I'm trying to stay positive by thinking that at least he is telling me and not playing me. He never said that we could never be together just not at this point in his life. What should I do? Leave or stay?
2006-07-15 02:21:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyday contact and regular dates sounds like a relationship to me. I understand his desire to not enter a relationship because of his recent past, and its great that he tells you that and is honest that he sees others...but he needs to realize that he IS in a relationship with you. If you are feeling that you are getting too close, to keep your feelings safe, back off from him emotionally (I know that may be hard). Until he is ready to give what you need, stay far enough away to not get hurt. Maybe when you are not there everyday, he will find himself wanting you there, at which time he needs to evaluate his "no relationship" policy. If not, it is time to find someone wishing the same as you.
2006-07-15 02:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by My Answer For What Its Worth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you protect your heart. You know he doesn't want anything serious right now. You should get out there and date other people too! It's wonderful that he's been honest to you, but don't sit around and wait for him to get ready to commit again. You'll look desperate, and if he doesn't have those "love" feelings toward you, then you should know not to sit around and wait only to find yourself broken hearted in the end. If you don't think you could see him while he's dating others, leave on a good note, but tell him your feelings are just stronger for him than his are for you, and you're not just gonna set yourself up for disappointment.
To fall out of love, that's just gonna take time...
2006-07-15 02:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want a relationship but he still calls you. sounds like he does need you in some way. hes been hurt and now is afraid to commit to new relationship. i bet if you stay away from him, like long time, no calling him or seeing him, he will see how much he does like you. only time will tell, and if not, its not meant to be. (only time heals the heart)
2006-07-15 02:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl..don`t hurry ...normally he will not fall in u`re arms right now he is suffering ..think abt this ..don`t leave him..i think that u have to "pretend" to be his friend ..u will See that in time u will be moore close ..and u have to help him get over this ..also u have to understand that is very painful trust me...don`t leave him..even if he says that u can never be together ..he will see how easy u give up ..stay with him ;) i know will be oki
2006-07-15 02:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by mihaitza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him loose god made more women cry for a minute and move on gurl you a pretty and it's many more men who have any eye for u drop the 0 get a hero
2006-07-15 02:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by it'sunusal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've wasted a year or more in this guy and he still doesn't want to relationship you need to leave and find someone that is ready to commit to you and want to have a future he's using you and everybody else he's sayin for your own sanity and well being leave this guy alone
2006-07-15 02:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and quit wasting your time waiting on something that isn't a guarentee. You will be better off emotionally in the long run
2006-07-15 02:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many men out there looking to fall in love. Then, there are guys who string women along like toys. GET RID OF HIM, and find someone who wants to devote his attention to you. You will find it is much more enjoyable.
2006-07-15 02:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know its POSSIBLE to stop being in love w/ someone just bcause it gets in the way of things-it just takes mental work.
--pray. that always helps me.
-- see if you like some1 else w/o breaking the relationship maybe so more people are available to you?
--TALK to him while ur dining out. it wud save much worrying for you. be brave!!
2006-07-15 02:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is like addiction. If you leave one brand, you must try for another brand. Another brand will help in forgetting first brand.
2006-07-15 02:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋