i been dating with a black girl for some time and her friends weren't too pleased with me. whenever she hangs out with me her friends usually whisper among themselves and tend to stay a distance away from us. i hope it's NOT because i'm white that there doing so. my parents are very supportive of me i just want hers to accept me cause i really love her deeply. why do they dislike me?? :(
2006-07-15 02:20:18 · 21 answers · asked by light_farts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you love her? Don't date her because of her color - who cares what everyone else thinks. Date her because you love her. People have deep ceded issues when things are different that should not be your problem.
2006-07-15 02:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by lead2jesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your not dating her friends, your dating her, ignore the silly school girl behavior and they will stop. Treat the ones that treat you with respect cordially and leave it at that. DO not make the color of your skin or hers an issue for problems. Love and honorable intentions should make this a nobrainer. If you vocalize this thought you will be viewed as a racist. Think deeply, what is the problem and can it be overcome? Your parents should factor into the relationship either.
2006-07-15 02:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my humble opinion, while it's great to get along with her friends, the most important thing is how SHE feels about YOU. As long as she is happy with you, concentrate on enjoying your time together, as that's what is most important. In time, as long as she is not easily swayed be the opinion of others, her friends will come around.
Who knows what her friends are thinking? Perhaps they would like to find someone like you. If all of her friends are black, perhaps they don't have a lot of multi racial interaction, and don't realize that you may all have a lot more in common.
You may want to ask your girlfriend about it - as in, is there something about you that her friends are uncomfortable with. If the response has to do with something other than your race, then perhaps you can all sit down and talk about it (i.e., get to know each other). You can't change your looks, but you can show them that you're not a threat!
You can't make people like you, but if you behave honourably, and don't try to bash down their boundaries, they might just be saying, "You know, he's okay for a white guy":)
All the best to you!!
2006-07-15 02:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by londonpeony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I did, then i does no longer have my alluring 4-12 months-previous daughter who's a aspect Korean. i'm also colorblind, so i ought to care a lot less once you're polka dotted. i imagine a range of of human beings have issues because interracial relationships may reason some grief for certain couples. this is unhappy that lately some human beings seem to pores and skin colour to fall in love.
2016-10-14 11:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we can not help who we fall in love with, regardless of color--your parents are supportive so maybe hers will be too--you just need to show her parents that you are worthy of dating their daughter, like in any relationship--but this one probably requires a little more attention and effort seeing that you have a race issue obstacle to overcome--as if dating is not hard enough already--deep down, white or black, her parents should see that she loves you and you love her. i would not worry about her friends, they seem to be envious of her having a great guy that loves and cares for her. a good guy does not come around very often.
good luck!!
2006-07-15 02:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by cutie_1016 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close mindedness sucks but dont let it interfere with the love the two of you share, her friends are ignorant and cant see past the colors so dont pay any mind to them as for her parents try sitting down with them and letting them know that your love her is true and that you want to be with her even if it means some people cant except the love the two of you share..Ive been in the same situation and if you love her that deep tell yourself "To hell with those who cant except it" all that matters is that yous are in love...Good Luck
2006-07-15 02:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by shell b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been dating black women most of my adult life,and put up with the same crap you are getting for years.I came to realize that those who didn't like my preference in women were not "friends" at all,because TRUE friends stand by you no matter what!
Moral of the story? It's THEIR problem and NOT yours!
Keep dating that sistah,and ignore the IGNORANCE!
2006-07-15 02:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your girlfriend how you feel. See how she respond and see what actions she takes. If the reason turns out to be because you are white then she not the woman for you. Love is love color has nothing to do with what's real.
2006-07-15 02:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by Disha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated black girls and u will get that from all races it really hard relationship to be in but it hasn't stopped me I just ignore them and if u love her like u say then just be there for her. Good Luck.
2006-07-15 02:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by jerryhmusic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be that they don't want their friend to get hurt esp but a white man.. try to give them some time to get to the idea that u really care for ur girlfriend.. as time goes by, they will definitely be able to see the light and how much u love ur gf..
2006-07-15 02:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by cfrozty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋