my girlfriend and I have met a new friend. I work a lot- I like nice things and I will work for them. My girlfriend has no job and has a lot of time on her hands. She is always wanting to go and hang out with this new friend we have made which is fine but not when she is leaving me at home all the time alone. She doesnt make love to me anymore- she says its cause the children are always awake late and when she is ready Im tired. I feel like she has a crush on this new friend we have met although this new friend claims she is only into men- I somehow dont believe this. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday behind all this suspicion- I feel like since I dont trust her that we dont have anything. Until I start to trust her again- I know me and I know I will be a mean person to her. Ive always had issues with trust so am I over reacting? Do you think Im being cheated on? Ive been with her 7 years but I refuse to be taken for a fool! I need HELPPPP!! Thanks all!!
2006-07-15 01:14:33 · 12 answers · asked by Sexxy Annie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So while you're working your hands to the bone she's out-and-about having fun with your "mutual friend" and denying you even love while she's making you wear the familiar pair of buffalo horns. What kind of bit..ing companion she is? dump her now and go for someone else with more fidelity and a job to help you support the house.
2006-07-15 01:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ARE over-reacting! There's nothing wrong with her wanting to hang out with a friend. People can have friends and not have a relationship going on. Now....if the new friend were a man, which I thought that's what you meant at first, then, you might have reason to be concerned. I'm sure she is being honest about not making love because of the kids being up late. You can't let your imagination run away with you. It's already hurt your relationship! The best thing you can do now is....call her and ask if you two can have a serious talk. Explain to her how you're feeling and why. After 7 years, she should be able to undertand exactly how you're feeling. Tell her she needs to spend time with you, not just her friend. In that sense, she's not being fair to you. Or.....do you think it's possible that she has simply gotten tired of your lack of trust....and just can't handle that anymore?
2006-07-15 01:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask her straight out if she was cheating or harbouring feels of lust for the other friend? Until you can talk to her and you both look each other in the eye, you will never know for sure.
It sounds suspicious, but then again maybe she is just trying to make you jealous for attention. If she doesn't work she may be bored and need more TLC.
Talk to her and do not make rash decisions until you talk it out. If she is cheating, then leave her. In my past experiences, once a cheater, always a cheater.
Good Luck.
2006-07-15 01:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by lovethebeanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u kinda did over react.. ok so she likes to go out alot, ask her if u can go with her and let her know how u feel..she has time for everyone else but not u... if she is with u i really wouldnt be to worried with this friend who is the same sex as her otherwise she wouldnt b with u.. and u say u've always have had trust issues.. go talk to someone about it if u dont u r gonna sabbatage every relationship u r in..love is a risk and love makes us fools, but u know what its the one risk in life that is truly worth it if u dont take that chance u'll never let ur self go and find it...
2006-07-15 01:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa 17 years is a long time. The two of you really need to sit down and talk. How did she take the break-up? Was a big shock to her? You two have been together long enough to know each other's personalities etc. just tell her how you feel. Just remember that if someone is going to cheat, there is nothing you can do to stop them. Ask her if she wants to throw your long relationship (stability) on something that is still unk.
2006-07-15 01:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by Diamonds_4Ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your gut instincts. if you sense there is a problem most of the time it is. we see all kind of things change around us. and so do people. so if you feel it in your heart that this is true then you did the right thing. i had a bf that i couldnt prove he was cheating but he had all the signs and symptoms of a cheater. good luck
2006-07-15 01:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your grilfriend, she is the only one who can really answer this question. Hopefully she loves you enough to be honest with you about regardless of what is or is not going on.
2006-07-15 03:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by asking4trouble2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like her & her girlfriend are havin fun and getting attention when they hang out. If you have something you love very much let it go...if it returns it's yours, if not you never had it...
2006-07-15 01:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by Paige 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are all girls there is no need to be greedy with love just share with one another.
2006-07-15 01:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by Aracuse M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry u will die soon
2006-07-15 01:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by Black sea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋