There's this guy I've been dating for 2 months now and I think he's awesome. I'm afraid of letting myself fall for him. I get scared of liking him more than he likes me or more than I should. He said that he likes me but I'm still scared of opening up incase I might love him or sth. Eventhough we're serious about this, I keep having doubts and sometimes I find myself trying to pick up anything bad about him just to stop myself from liking him!!
Why do I do that? Why can I just let my emotions out!? Or should I keep the poise?
2006-07-14 23:44:45 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're just scared coz this might be new to you. I think you've always had bad relationships be4 that you're shocked this one seems perfect. You said he's awesome and he likes you, you obviously like him and you both are serious..sounds great..why are you worried? Heartbreaks are not that terrible plus you can walk out any time you want. It's only been 2 months also, so give it some time and see where it takes you. Maybe he'll tell you he loves you and then you'll be more sure about his feelings n then you'd be able to let your feelings out.
Good Luck!
2006-07-14 23:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are absolutely right to keep things platonic until you are ready to leave father and mother and make a permanent commitment to one man. The sexual bond is such that we have to put everything aside - Mom, Dad, our desires for (sometimes) more pleasant company, etc. - that could interfere with it.
If we do not do both of those things before embarking on a sexual relationship, we are defrauding our partner. We are acting in a way that suggests leaving everyone and making a permanent commitment, but without the actual substance.
Everyone knows deep down that this is true. Or if they have somehow managed not to figure it out yet, when they get into a relationship, they will figure it out really fast. Especially if there are problems.
So, again: you are doing the right thing by keeping your feelings in some measure under wraps for the time being. Take the opportunity to figure out if he's someone you could see spending your life with, and only move forward emotionally if you find you both could see a common future.
Hope this helps; may God bless you
2006-07-14 23:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are protecting yourself against getting hurt. If you trust this guy, you should let go, and have some fun. Don't be so worried.
You may discover that thig guy is the right guy for you, and you may live happily ever after. It is better to have tried and failed, than not tried at all.
John
2006-07-14 23:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Scorpion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋