I am 16, and really lost in life! I jus dunno what to do!?

Question

i dunno how wierd this gets.
i just dunno what to do
my dad's always after my life to make me sit and study.
i'm good at studies so i dunno what to do - just stare at the book???
i cant go out and play wid my friendz b'cause my exams r 3 days way
and i know the syllabus fully
also, my dad's got a very hectic schedule and v hardly spend half an hr together (if possible)
he says its for my own good and for the good of the family
so,
end result :-
i'm sneaking this time on the net and i have ntn to do and no way to convince my dad that he's gotta set me free.
i'm practically confined to my room.
and i tell u i'm hating it!
and now, i have a wierd feeling this is going to b one heck of a week end!!!!

Answer 1

Hi! Most people really don't know what to do in this life and age. I tell even busy people who seems to be doing lots of things to be successful are actually getting nowhere at the end of the day except wanting more but feeling tired and not contented of everything. This is because GOD design his chosen human beings to be bored in this life if you are not doing what matter most to HIM(GOD). So, my advises and suggestions:

!) Rejoice that you are not contented with your situation at the moment. Unchosen people by GOD are normally contented in this world, that's why they do not long for other things/answers anymore.
2) May be you are one of the chosen children by GOD. Try this true facts about GOD's people found in the Bible, you said you are bright and smart:
Do you believe that everything in our life is controlled by SOMEONE up there in heaven, He just use other human beings and situations to put us where we are now.
Do you believe that the WORD of GOD (Bible) has all the answers to any of our questions.
These are simple questions but very powerful that can move your life depending on your answer and reaction. But one thing I can assure you, Try praying that your answer would be YES, and your boredom will turn into joy and you will even love your father because GOD will answer and guide the desire of your heart. I answered yes and it change my life wonderfully.

In life it doesn't matter whether you are in abundance or lacking, whether you are in good or bad situation, it's a matter of how you trust and believe in GOD. HE has a good purpose why HE allows your current situation to happen. Your response will determine whether you deserve unending joy with HIM in the future. Situations here on earth are just temporary, you may enjoy here by building peace and love even to people who seems to be doing bad things to you.
PRAY,PRAY and Read the BIBLE if you are bored with life!!!

Answer 2

Tough it out this once, because your father is worried about your grades. But pace yourself. You don't have to just stare at the book. Go on line and review the topics for the exam on wikipedia and such. That will give you the excuse to be on line in case your father looks in.

After this exam time is over, and you've gotten good grades, you will need to talk this over with your father and help him learn to trust that you know what you are doing. Certainly being confined with your textbooks for an entire weekend is no guarantee of success. You either know the stuff or your don't. You probably know how to review and summarize what you know effectively in an hour or two a day, and more than that just causes stress. Of course, you need to prioritize, and give the most time to the things you are least confident about, but none of that is improved by all the pressure. I suspect your father never learned good study habits as a child, and so he thinks he's doing the right thing with this pressure. You may have an uphill battle to convince him it is not the case.

Good luck! Try to keep your cool and get through it.

Answer 3

It's a confusing time of life for a lof of people. You're not alone in feeling lost. I can tell you that you will find your way. Don't feel pressured to make life decisions.

Your dad sounds like he wants the very best for you with school. I hope he lightens up about confining you to your room when there are no big tests coming up. He probably thinks that by forcing you to study, he's helping you get a better grade. His motivations are good.

Perhaps if you study real hard the next three days, your dad will reward you somehow, not to mention give you more freedom. Remember, there is life after the weekend! ;-)

Answer 4

Sounds like he means well about all that studying, but if he keeps the rope too tight on you, it could backfire on him... by making you have a strong, desperate desire to be wild & free.
Sometimes, the reason why parents are so strict is because they want their kids to have a better life than they had.
Parents can get so wrapped up in (focused on work, finances, education) trying to make a better life for the family unit, that they can't see they're neglecting other important needs that the kids have.
Lots of us have been there & done that... sneaking, going places where we're not supposed to... some regret it later & some don't.

Answer 5

Dude you molded to what ur dad wants you to be. You should tell your dad that ur not happy with how your lifes going. ONLY YOU CONTROL YOUR LIFE, do not let your dad or anyone tell you how to live your life. If you truly want to be happy confront your dad and tell him how you feel. You could compromise with him. Since you have proven to your dad that you are very smart, you shouldn't really worry about your education. Your study habit will carry on for the rest of your life and with a kind u have u will do well in school no matter what. I also think it is very important to spend time with ur family. Try to sit down with your whole family and discuss some ways that you guys can spend time with each other. Good lucK!

Answer 6

Is there a way you can show your dad that you are ready for your finals and need aliitle breathing room? I mean you don't want to disrespect him. You might try using the right language first and that might help dad feel better about cutting you some slack. then I would try and show him that you are prepared for your finals. Maybe even ask dad for just an hour and be back at the end of that hour. Most of us parents are not unreasonable just concerned for our children. Try alittle persuasion of the honest kind and it might work. Good luck and good luck on the studies.

Answer 7

Exams are three days away? You may just have to wait it out. I know that sounds hard but really your dad is just trying to help you achieve the best results. You are right you need to get out and get some fresh air and human contact, but that may just have to be put on hold for a couple of days. Just think how good it will be when you have finished.

Sorry, not much help but believe me I know how you fell and it WILL be OK

Answer 8

y don't stop feeling sorry for urself....study n finish those exams u hav in 3 days....then get on wid ur life. geez man....work when u hav to, play when u hav to. make tht clear to ur dad but not friggin 3days b4 ur exams. stop being a jerk n get them over with first. no harm reading ur lessons once more even if u know them well...jus read ur text books...operative word here is READ. don't get into a fight with ur dad b4 the exams....always screws up the exams....but tell ur dad firmly tht u need some fresh air or it'l mess u up.

ur 16! take some responsibility n stop being a mama's boy.

Answer 9

Sit down and tell him you want to have a serious man to man conversation and then just tell him how you feel, just like you told us. Explain to him that you need some "fun" time and hope he understands. You can also mention that you could get buirned out and that he is lucky you are a good kid who doesn't do drugs or get in trouble.

Good luck, my thoughts are with you.

Answer 10

You are so blessed to be loved and cared for by your father. Just make the grade and the pressure will soon be off. Like you said, it's just a weird time.