would u hit or spank your child?

Question

i watch all these talk shows with out of control kids and even on the streets these kids are just wild. growing up i was hit not abused but if i did something wrong or talked back to my mom i got it. and i think it kept me in line. now a days if you hit a kid you go to jail. i'm not saying to beat your kids but am i the only one that thinks hitting actually keeps kids in line. now when it comes to making them wash there mouth out with soap thats ok ( i had to once and never cussed around my mom ever again) but i've heard of people making the kid swallow hot sauce...thats a little extreme. even know that i'm almost 30 if i get out of line with my mom i still get threats to get hit (funny thu) what do u think yes or no to spankings?

Answer 1

LOL....My mom made me swallow hot sauce a few times!!! Oh, that was bad....for me, at least. I can't tolerate spicy foods at all so it was hell for me; I would have much rather taken the beating. My brother got the sauce too but he likes that crap so it was less of his punshment and more of him making fun of me for crying while eating hot sauce.

Anyway, I definetely agree that hitting keeps kids in line. I just wrote a whole thing on it on a previous answer if you want to check it out.

Answer 2

I think there is an appropriate use of a swat on the fanny to get the kid's attention to the fact that what they just did is a serious breach of the rules. For example, if they do something really dangerous, either to themselves or to someone else. But you really have to be careful with this for a variety of reasons, not the least of which is that there are hysterical people out there who will call it child abuse and try to get your kids taken away from you.

Also, you should never hit a kid when you are feeling out of control angry; hit a wall instead if you have to. If you hit a kid under those conditions, you will be likely to hit too hard. It doesn't take much to really get their attention, to make them know what they did was really, really wrong. If they start laughing at you, you know you're doing it too often. Don't go harder, but find other punishments. The most effective is usually to deny them a privilege, like going out to the movies or (ugh!) watching TV, or playing computer games.

Answer 3

I agree with you 100%. I was spanked also, deserved it and thankful because it kept me in line, too. And now I have 5 kids and yes I spank (hardly ever but they know how far to go and I mean business on certain things not tolerated). This stuff about abuse has gave these kids the wrong idea that if you even spank them then parent can go to jail-- NOT TRUE!!!! NOT IN MY STATE. You can discipline as long as you dont cross the line and it turn into abuse, so there ya go, spank just don't lose it and start beating (THAT"S ABUSE!!)

Answer 4

Well I know what you mean. If I ever got out of line with my folks or got in trouble, I got a nice ol' whooping. And it's sad to see what society has become today. Now, you can punish your kid by spanking or hitting them, but just use some common sense. If the kid did something stupid, yeah spank him. Don't beat the living snot out of him tho. It's all about controlled aggression. Use enough force to get your point across and so the kid learns his lesson, but not enough to send him to ER that night. I believe in violence of action when disciplining kids, because then the kid knows that they can't dominate the parent.

Answer 5

There is not a thing wrong with an old fashion but whipping. As parents we set limits for our children. When those limits are passed, punishment is in order. Be it physical, verbal, or psychological. Today’s children are not disciplined the way they were in the 1970's. And therefore have no grasp of crime and punishment. Corporal punishment works better than a good tongue lashing. It associates pain with undesirable behavior. If the circus can train a polar bear to ride a tricycle, why can’t parents make their children behave?

Answer 6

Hitting should be the ultimate last resort.

You should try finding out why the kid is acting out in the first place. Maybe by talking about the problem you can find a solution.

Also, set boundaries and stick to them. If you're all wishy-washy the kid is gonna pick up on that and take advantage.

Answer 7

Yes, I do spank my kids, I was spanked as a child and thankful for it now. I was only one in my group of friends that didn't get into serious trouble as a teen. I do believe that other methods should be tried FIRST, but if a a child continually disobeys, swatting them on the butt grabs their attention. I am starting my own group on Yahoo for pro-spankers, in which I hope that we have a place to talk about ALL forms of discipline, but where we can freely admit to spanking without getting flamed.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MomsforDiscipline/

Answer 8

There are moments when theres no other thing you can do to make them listen. But you should not hit or spank your child if it is not at least 6 yrs old. And you should never do it more than a once in few weeks, because otherwise its molesting.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with a swift crack in the *** every now and then.....my parents spanked me when I was a child and I believe that helped me become who I am today. Parents today are so scared to take control of their kids....In fact I was told by a doctor that it is not against the law to slap your child for disciplinary purposes. Repeated beating is one thing, a quick smack to show a child what they did is not acceptable is another. So yes, I absolutely agree with you.

Answer 10

I won't spank or hit my children if I had them, for me it's kind of cruel and they can't learn nothing from it except for getting more freaked out after every time you spank them. Children do need discipline, but not that hard.
Even little 3-4-5 year old brats can learn by having a talk with you, just get on their level, look them in their eyes and then just warn them for the consequenses.

But seeing your age, it's really inappropiate to get hit by your mother! You just can't hit or spank your children, no matter how old they are!