OK,
I cant take it anymore.
I have to stop her but I dont know how!!!!!
For one: if I do some chores, and the house is like so clean, she only sees the anything thats not dirty but she knoe=ws its not dirty and she yells at us for it!!!!!!!!!
she blames me for her wanting to smoke and drink again ( shes in AA) and her past of wanting to divorce her husband! I dont deserve this, and know one else in this house does either!
one day she makes it so hard for me! she deletes my boyfriend, taylor from my list, and I just wanted to die!
and I feel like this stuff that she feels is all my fault ans I also dont wanna feel like this! I dont know what to do!!!!!
she blames me for her head aeches! and yeah right like its my fault!
But she bring her BF, into the life and has sex infront of us its like!
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I mean, Im dissgusted with hur , shes having sex for money!
and its true!!!!!
she blames me for anything, and I have to sleep out on the couch because shes sad/.
2006-07-14 20:58:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
P.s: Taylor: you can now understand!
2006-07-14 21:10:25 · update #1
hey.. chill girl
i guess it happens with everyone sometime or the other.
even i used to think that my mom thought i never did anything right but then i understood that its her duty to look at the things we dont do right and correct them.. she wants us to every thing right. we do the same thing.. look only at what she scolds and dislikes not when she loves us or hugs and comments us..
well you shud talk to her and tell her how you feel..
2006-07-14 21:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by not so confused soul.. 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Oh man. First of all, none of what your mother does is your fault. You sound like a good daughter who loves her mom. Your mom is making her own sorry choices, and it's completely her fault. Although this is having a negative affect on you and this not good.
The reason your mom finds things to nit pick about is simple. She hates herself, and because she can't stand what she's doing (and obviously can't deal with it) she's taking the easy way out by saying her unhappiness is your fault. When someone has that much hate for themselves, it makes it difficult for them to love anybody. (I'm not justifying her behavior.
Is there a relative, or someone you could stay with? Your not in a good situation here. I don't like the idea of social services because living in foster homes can be just as traumatic. But you do need some help from another adult. If the relatives are a no go, try talking to your school counselor. They will help you to cope with the situation, and hopefully find you a safe way out of it.
Take care, you are loved, even if it's poorly shown.
2006-07-14 21:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to attend an al-anon meeting, where there are others in the same situation as you or have been before - and they can help you with how to handle things at home. You can not make your mom change (she has self esteem and self hatred issues for sure), but you can change the way you handle how you feel. and it can be done. can you move in with your dad? an aunt or grandma? a friend's family? she is not a happy person, and will probably never be, but you can not let that affect the way you see life either - as it is not a normal thing to go through for anyone. hang in there, don't let it get you discouraged, and whatever you do, don't throw yourself into a relationship just to escape - as you will be going from a pan into the fire - trust me, too many have done it and never get to live the life they could have had later on. as I said before - go to an al-anon - or alateen - meeting and get the help you deserve and need. best wishes.
2006-07-14 21:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, welcome to Yahoo! Answers. Because of your age, I recommend that you take your picture off this site and use an avatar. There are a Lot of weird people here.
There are also a thousands of helpful people here that will give you advise, but you have to decide whether or not to use it.
I suggest that you talk to a friend's parent, maybe Taylor's mom. Get some good adult advise from some one you know and trust. They might even be able to help you work things out with your mom or help you find a better place to stay.
Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-07-14 21:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for a local chapter of Al-Anon or Al-aTeen. It is a support group for families of alcoholics and could be an incredible help so that you will not be alone in this mess. Even very small communities have groups like this and you might even be surprised who else you meet there! Hang in there. I know your life is hard.
(Ignore "Awsomeness" and other unfeeling b#$@%&s. Also the well-meaning people who have no idea what you're going through.)
2006-07-14 21:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by bikerpjb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually so bad...listen up..it aint ur fault at all....its cos i guess ur mum's bin in stress or wht..are u guys financially unstable??? i think if u r thts d reason y she's into al dis...she's just so fed up wid her life...thats it...and u r the only person she has control on...d only person she can take out her anger on....
all u cn do is...talk to her...talk to her as in u feel bad abt her behaviour...listen to her....her problems in case she shares them with u...if she doesnt take help of any of her frnds or a psychatrist...dis must help....
i knw its jst dat mothers r a best part of urself...bt whtever u tole me abt her is totally sickenin...i mean i aint blamin her ...bt whtever she's doing is wrong...tell her dat u still love her ...n care...
if everythin goes fine(i hope it does!)then well and good and if it doesnt...get urself a job and move out of the place...i aint sayin leave her...be wid her always bt give her sumtime to realise tha u r a part of her life....a real part which she cannot separate...even though i dnt want u to separate bt nothin else can be done...u might go into serious depression if this goes on for a while...
so just make ur decision and talk to her...i'll pray everythin goes fine...be wel..take care n god bless....
2006-07-14 21:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine a mom can do that and put all of you in a terrible situation, it is terrible for you guys to be throuan hgh that. I wish I help.
talking to her I don't think it is going to help
reporting her also has it's own consequences, most probably discuss with the close friends/relatives/community etc etc
2006-07-14 21:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tuxi X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to talk with her?How old are you?You say she is in AA? It doesnt sound as if she has been there long...My honest advice to you is get your self into a program called AL-anon..quick, as you canyou cannot change Mom but you will learn how to deal with all that garbage she is unloading on you.
2006-07-14 21:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like, oh my God. Like, she deletes your boyfriend from your list and you want to die and she has sex in front of you and you're just disgusted with her. If all of this is true you've got some real problems so I think you should talk with a councilor at school.
2006-07-14 21:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by jljdc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of that situation!
She'll use any excuse she can come up with to take a drink... & blame anything & anybody but herself, for her own problems.
She's hating it when she doesn't have a drink in her system... & taking that hate out on all who are closest to her.
It's a sickness... a sickness that's destroying her... & destroying anybody who's within firing range.
2006-07-14 21:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh, ok let's take a little trip down to social services and GET YOU THE FOCK OUT of your mom's house.
2006-07-14 21:01:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋