I am a 27 yr old female, my boyfriend is 22. My boyfriend and I have been fighting for our relationship to stay together. He finally told his mother that he loves me and wants to be with me for the rest of my life. She is another religion, than I am. She thinks because I am american, I will divorce him & leave him on the street, so we should not marry, plus we are different religions. So today, when he told her how he felt about me, she said, no I don't want you with anyone, or her, she said because of all of this stress about marrying and the relationship, she had a heart attack and told him it is his fault she did-how unfair is that huh, & she lives across the world in Kosovo. Anyway, we both want a baby badly, and we are ready, and we will marry before we deliver it, but we figured, we really want one now, plus, she will have no way to stop our relationship he said, because he said his baby would come first. We are ready. We have 2 yrs together. We want this badly.
2006-07-14 20:35:47 · 17 answers · asked by Tracy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is absolutly the WORST reason to have a baby! Don't do it. Your lives already suck, why ruin some kids life too.
2006-07-14 20:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Different religion marriages can be extremely difficult, take it from some one who's had a couple of relatives go through it. If your not used to it, you may find alot of it weird. Alot of priests (sorry if thats not what their called in that specific religion) also put down your religion at the wedding and expect you to change religion before you marry that person.
Secondly, getting married without the parents blessings will bring great complication - imagine having a kid. They'll call it a half blood or somthing and ban it from their lives.
My suggestion is meet the parents and settle all grudges before doing anything.
2006-07-15 03:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lord of the Apocalypse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? Sounds to me like you and the boyfriend are not on very solid ground at this point and the last thing you need is to bring a child into this mess.
How about making some more "adult" choices. Get married and move in together and if you are still "in love" in a year then start into the baby making business. If you are both ADULTS you should be able to make your own decisions and not have to answer to his mother anyway. Sounds to me like your man isn't ready to cut the apron strings yet.
2006-07-15 03:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst reason to have a baby is to cement a discontented relationship. It's a human being for Christ's sake. God! Why is it that people do not take the rearing of children seriously enough? A child is not a band-aid for a troubled relationship. It is a human child! Whatever your troubles in relationship are, work them out before you even think of co-creating a human being, for whom you will be responsible. Jesus, people need license to fish, but anyone can have babies. It's pathetic.
2006-07-15 03:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by Michael D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, please make sure these people DO NOT PROCREATE!! She's 27 but sounds very immature. He's 22, enough said.
You say so yourself, that you're ready to have a baby so why do you need other peoples comments? You're going to do what you want and that's have a baby out of spite.
Stupid!!! Think about it. You are fighting to keep your relationship together. Ever stop and think why?? How about this:
You're both immature and not ready. I know you think you're eggs are ripe but damn it, think. Pull your head out of your butt and open your eyes. YOU ARE STUPID TO THINK THAT THIS WILL SAVE YOUR FAILING RELATIONSHIP, STUPID!!!
I HOPE AND PRAY THAT YOU BOTH GET STRUCK BY A ROGUE ASTEROID AND IT INCINERATES THE BOTH OF YOU. SOCIETY WILL BE MORE FUNCTIONAL ONCE YOU TWO ARE GONE!!!!
2006-07-15 03:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by Swift Ninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't try to use a baby as leverage to get married. That would be really immature. If you both want to have a baby because you /want/ a baby then sure go for it and I hope you're happy, but don't do it solely to get married. Get married because your in love. Have a baby for the same reason. Don't play games.
2006-07-15 03:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by GirlFriday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you peoples want the baby so badly why not prepare to be the bride and brideroom. The child are innocent too. Alway remember it hard.. God give to us and not everyone want it and also will get it. Bear in mind especially young peoples like you.
2006-07-15 03:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by macy l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what makes you both happy, she's trying to lay the ultimate guilt trip on him, dont let her get away with it. You guys didnt cause the heart attack, thats ridiculous.
2006-07-15 03:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are both over the age of 18 and if thats whot you reallly both whont why not so good luck
2006-07-15 03:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by DOLL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF I REALLY LOVED HIM AND THOUGHT OUR LOVE COULD MAKE IT WITH ALL THE STRESS FROM HIS MOTHER I WOULD MARRY HIM THEN HAVE A BABY.
2006-07-15 03:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by momas_wild_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋