what happens when your own family rejects you?

Question

you are useless, you have never made anything out of life, just lazy and useless. when your own family insults you like this how can one react?

Answer 1

Since you asked this Q in the Religion & Spirituality forum, I'm assuming you're looking for a scriptural answer. So, consider the following scriprture:

Matthew 10:34-39 - "Do not think I came to put peace upon the earth...I came to cause division, with a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a young wife against her mother-in-law. Indeed, a man’s enemies will be persons of his own household. He that has greater affection for father or mother than for me is not worthy of me; and he that has greater affection for son or daughter than for me is not worthy of me..."

If the reason your family is rejecting you is because of your Christian faith, then that is outright persecution, and you can take refuge in the comfort that Jehovah God and Jesus Christ so graciously offer.

See also why this can cause you to actually be happy, at Matthew 5:10-12 and 2 Timothy 3:12.

I also have been rejected by my (fleshly) family due to my religious beliefs, but I have gained a much larger and more loving spiritual family in the process. The following verses have great meaning for me:

Mark 19:29,30 - "No one has left house or brothers or sisters or mother or father or children or fields for my sake and for the sake of the good news who will not get a hundredfold now in this period of time, houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and fields, with persecutions, and in the coming system of things everlasting life."

Answer 2

your family wants you to strive for the same things they value if they feel you are not doing that they can become upset and say hurtful things this is the case in most families it will pass what is important is that you do something positive that makes you happy and no one else happiness comes from within positive by definition in humankind is anything that contributes to society as a whole making it better tomorrow than it is today this is done by action and education setting an example or helping someone for instance when you have forgotten about it the other person has not and usually does the same for someone else also remember family never really rejects you just make you feel that way to try to get you to change in some way

Answer 3

It could be them or it could be you. Don't worry about them if you have done nothing wrong as long as you are true to yourself. I like my friends a lot more than my family. I had no choice of the family I was born into but my friends I was able to choose. Surround yourself with the people that make you feel good and have the same lifestyle as yourself. You can't please everyone. You can however be with people that are more like you and can bring out the best in you. I wish the best for you. Don't let them beat you down, show yourself you can live without the drama.

Answer 4

You have a few options at your disposal. Change yourself so that your family will then accept you, find a new 'family' to spend time with, do both, or run away and keep running. The last one is taken all too often, and it is a waste of a life. Combine one of the first two with confronting the family that rejected you, ask them why, talk about it. If they refuse to talk, then they weren't your family to begin with. They were just people you grew up with. You must find your family in people whether they are related to you or not. I wish you luck.

Answer 5

Once I was always silent when my family insulted me by talking about my grades, my little courage, and my clumsiness. But I've learned to speak up. Rather than wittily lashing back making me regret something, I would speak up and say I don't think you should say that. This is part of me. I'm sorry if you are disappointed but everybody has bad points. You'd be a happier person if you looked at the good points. You have bad points too but you don't see me constantly insulting you because of them. So I would appreciate it if you did not say these things anymore because it hurts me. They may be stunned but you made your point. And in the case of my family, they shut right up.

Answer 6

Hopefully they were just angry and not meaning what they were saying. If you really think they were, turn to your 'urban' family - your friends. Do you think you are useless? Why do you think you haven't made anything out of life? Is there something YOU would like to do? I'm sure your family love you and everything will work out with communication.

Answer 7

There are a few ways one can react:

1. You can just lay there and take it. Perhaps prove them right, and do nothing. (not recommended)

2. Stand up for yourself, say that they're wrong, but then do nothing to prove them so. (Also not recommended)

3. You can just lay there and take it, but have the knowledge in your own heart and know that you are more than what they say (recommended).

4. Stand up for yourself. Say "No, you are wrong", and prove it. Go out, get a job, perhaps go to university by your own means (also recommended)

Three and four are your best bet, especially for yourself.

Answer 8

I get that daily from husband. So I do more and more and more. Problem is I am disabled and trying harder means too much pain, and more mobility problems..wonder why i don't get better? People answering presume they must have a reason. Not so. Find supportive friends or people you can relate to outside the family.

Answer 9

first of all u should try to think y it happen.then try to fix it up because a family u have it the most precious thing on this earth.if there is yours fault u should go and say sorry.without family u cant survive.u need them in happiness in sorrow.and for the family i must say they must not react like this they have to understand the problem and with proper and mutual understanding solve the problem and help the one ewho needs ur help.thanks

Answer 10

first ... are you lazy ???? do you act useless ?? i dont condone what they are saying, but have you really looked at yourself ? no one is useless .. but there are lots of lazy ppl out there..
sometimes family can be the most cruel of all..or maybe it hurts more because they are family.... maybe your best reaction is to prove them wrong...