I just lost my mom with breast cancer, please give me details on how to deal with the grief.?

Answer 1

the best way to deal with the pain is to not igore it and cry if you want, when you want and for how ever long you want. the pain will never go away, but after a while you will be able to accept this harsh reality a little better.
keeping a special book is good, if you feel the need to talk to your mom, you could write her , although , at the moment you may find that silly , it really helps to ease the stress some..Right now , if you hurt like most of the people i know that have lost loved ones, you are probably still talking aloud to your mom. and that is ok, because i believe she can hear you and there is nothing wrong with letting her spirit know that you miss her. after time passes you will realize that you are not alone and that there are many others out there that have lost their loved ones to cancer. after time passes you may even feel the need to partipate in helping in some way with the fight against breast cancer. i lost my grandmother to the same disease., she died before i was born though, recently i lost a brother to murder, so i understand what it feels like to grieve. i never knew what sadness really was until i lost my brother.

Answer 2

I've had breast cancer and have lost several dear friends to it. I lost my mother when I was 24 (not from cancer though) and was just kind of numb. One good way to grieve is to get involved in fund raising events like the Susan B. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation. That way you will help others going through your same situation. And please get checks yourself at an early age since you are at high risk of it for yourself. Take care.

Answer 3

i am very sorry to hear for your loss. it is always hard to lose a parent, especially a mother.

you will go through stages of grief during this time. first, you may go through some denial, where you try and tell yourself that 'no, this didnt happen to me.' next, you may just get angry - at the world, at your mom for getting sick, at friends and family for trying to help you. after this, you may try to bargain with a higher power and think along the lines of 'why couldnt it have been me?' or 'ok (insert higher power name here), if you make my grief go away for me, then i will go to church/help the homeless/etc." next you may fall into depression, where you just kind of crawl inside youself and reflect on memories of your mom and it may come with a huge, heavy sadness. finally, you will reach acceptance, where you have accepted what has happened and go on with life.

these stages were made by a very smart woman, Dr Elizabeth Kubler-Ross...it is a model used in the medical field (alot by nurses especially). you can search her name on the web for more info about her or about the 5 stages. again, i am sorry for your loss and wish you the best through this tough time.

Answer 4

Loss of any parent is very painful and loss of mother to cancer is much more so. First of all please look from the perspective that she is free from suffering she had to endure from breast cancer. Secondly think that her spirit reamins with you showering with love always in metaphysical form.

Third and most importantly please consult your physician and inform about this and get a mamography done after self breast examination as you migth be at risk as some forms of breast cancers arise due to genetic predisposition. .

Answer 5

It takes time, as the days pass you will remember the good times and feel a little better each day, she is with God now and out of pain, you are the one in pain , its called grief, good luck

Answer 6

Everyone grieves differently. You can just let it all out and scream and cry, or you could think about the good times you shared. You could write down everything you're feeling and then burn the letter just to get all your feelings out in the open...you could see a counselor, join a support group....there's alot of options for you.

Answer 7

Don't lose you heart,my dear, try to busy yourself always in work and relux your mind ,just to listen good music and read books as you like, take it practically, your mother was suffering, may her soul rest in peace, time is the best healer, you will overcome this slowly . I have also lost my mother in my childhood. I feel your mental condition.

Answer 8

Continuously tell stories of you mom, and the pain will weaken. There will always be a little pain. My cousin commited suicide 3 years ago, and I rarely cry anytime I see a picture of him, because I told people about it, and they helped me cope with the pain.

Answer 9

I'm sorry for your loss of your mum.
How about quickly occupying yourself with something to do? Exercise, work, hobbies, pray, sufficient rest?
how about seeing a counsellor?
Too much free time can make you more depressed...
How about seeking company of good friends?
How about some time of solace?

Answer 10

Sorry for your mom but I think you have to work or do exercise and socialize to make you feel better. Good luck and Godbless.