His kids are all grown, he's been married for 15 years & he's twice my age. we've been seeing each other for 4 months but this is more than just a bedtime story. He shocked me last night by placing my ring, which i wear on my middle finger, on my wedding ring finger & told me that that's the way it should be.
2006-07-14 19:53:04 · 17 answers · asked by Dark Phoenix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never chose this to happen and i most certainly did not expect him to fall in love me. believe me or not. I was in it for the sex then it became something more. do you people think i'm that stupid to go into a situation that i can't get out of, do you not think that i know that what i'm doing is morally wrong? it's human instinct to think that he will do it again and i've already been confronted by 1 of his one night stands. i'm not as stupid as i sound and i actually know what what i'm doing. do you even think of answers before you post them?
2006-07-14 20:40:57 · update #1
by the way, i'm not married!!
2006-07-15 01:09:00 · update #2
Sounds like he's playing games.
He didn't ask you to marry him but he is trying to ensure you are loyal to him - despite the fact that he is married.
Leave him, or if you feel you cannot do that - refuse to wear your ring on your fing finger.
Maintain an element of independence. Unless he actually proposes and its something you want - ignore his "game". He is playing you.
PS. How can you trust him - he is cheating on his wife! How many times has he done that? When will he do it to you? And WHY ARE YOU HAVING AN AFFAIR?
2006-07-14 19:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by chocolette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did he say he wants to marry you? i think his comments are ambiguous enough so that you can take it whatever way you want and think he's a great guy. maybe he just thought your ring looks better on your ring finger. he didn't produce a ring, get down on bended knee, profess his love and propose, right?
don't read too much into his comment. cheater are usually good at saying what they want people to hear. like when he tells his wife excuses and lies for where he's been instead of fessing up to fooling around with you.
first of all, let's do a reality check:
1. has he left his wife and started divorce proceedings?
2. do you want to marry a man who's already shown you he's a cheat? PAST BEHAVIOUR PREDICTS FUTURE BEHAVIOUR. don't fool yourself into thinking this is a *one-time only* offense on his part.
3. the basis for this marriage is knowing him for 4 months when you're both burning on hormones that make you feel like you're in love.
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO: ask yourself why you are a mistress, investing your time, energy, and hopes in a man (and situation) that are not going to lead anywhere happy. You should think about where you learned about what you expect from love relationships--this may feel like love, but it's not REAL love. love yourself first and get out
2006-07-15 03:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by fabulousisjane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl get a grip, are you that dum, if this man has been married for 15 years what in the hell makes you think that he is going to leave his wife for you? now i know that you may love this guy, but if he has been married that long the possibilities of him leaving his wife is slim to not at all. and think about it, he gave you a ring, now if what you are saying is true, and i don,t think that it is, then why is it that he couldn,t take you to the justice of peace? and last but not least keep in mind that you are having an affair with a married man, if he is cheating on his wife with you, how do you know that he won,t do the same to you, and 9 times out of ten he is probably sleeping with someone else......
2006-07-15 03:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by 0samaria s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's me get this straight, you are having an affair with a
man who's been married 15 years? Give this a thought,
you are asking should you marry him? First, he's married, second, do you really want to marry a man who
is already cheating and please don't think he wouldn't do
that to you, 15 years from now , his girlfriend will be asking the same question.
2006-07-15 03:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be having an affair. if he's cheating on her he will do it to you. don't you think you would be better off with someone who truly loves you and only you. you need to end it, it's not right. what about her feelings, how would you feel after spending 15yrs in a marriage bearing and raising your children together just to find out your husband has been cheating on you. there is always two sides to every story.just think about it.
2006-07-15 02:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by patricia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT THE HELL?! there is nothing worse than cheating you cant have two thats just how it works you eather leave ur husband or STOP ******* CHEATING! and when you marry a person you read off vowels so if your low enough to break then then your pathetic
2006-07-15 03:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by josh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't believe you, having an affair is the lowest you can go as a person, if you were going to cheat just break it off its not strong enough anyways and if you dont want to break it off because you still care for that person but not physically then just think of what your doing to them. cheating is horrible.
2006-07-15 02:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by jjmcowan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all he is a no count! he is cheating on his wife. Second of all he didn't even buy you a ring he placed one you already had on your ring finger. tell him to get a life.
2006-07-15 02:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by kaycee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that there r no wells in ur country,u knowingly entering into the relations full of miseries,there is no dirth of suitable matches for u on the earth,better merry one who u love,ecept this cheater.
2006-07-15 02:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont you feel ashamed for such behaviour, cut off right away and explain him that how apologetic you are for your shabby act and request him to go to his own family members once again with full heart and soul and be with them for ever. you find a right partner suitable to your age and live a happy life. before ruining yourself, please act fast and break this illegal and dirty relationship.
2006-07-15 03:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by shankari n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋