Last summer I dated a girl for a month or so and we both grew extremely attached to each other. However, I had to go away to my first year of college while she stayed back for her senior year of high school. The long-distance didn't work with her and she broke up with me.
We tried twice more while I was at school but the distance just didn't work for her. Now it's summer, and next year we'll be going to the same college. I recently went out with her and she still flirts with me and we still talk like we used to but there's one problem: she's dating someone. He's going to college far away so she will be in a similar predicament as she was with me.
Throughout these past 11 months, I haven't lost any feelings for her (I still think she's the one even after a year in college) and I don't think she lost many feelings for me and I can tell she's drifting away from her boyfriend. She's coming over tomorrow for most of the day...WHAT DO I DO? p.s. letting her go is NOT an option! Thanks
2006-07-14 19:40:33 · 7 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just thought I'd add that she started dating this other guy about 3 months before I got out of school for the summer...
2006-07-14 19:50:57 · update #1
Just clarifying that I definitely am NOT a "body-chaser." I'm 19 and I've dated quite a few girls out there but this is the only girl I genuinely felt like I loved.
2006-07-14 20:00:14 · update #2
Tell her what you said here. You still feel the same for her. Ask her if she feels the same. And bring up the fact that now you'll be together cause of school. Just be open. It's not too hard. Good luck !
2006-07-14 19:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is this.... tell her she is important and if all she can be is a friend, then you will accept that. Girls like the idea of options and you rattitude about not letting her go is, frankly, near simian. She is a human and, by being her friend when she needs it shows her you are much more than a body-chaser.
And, well... it is always nice to be able to say you tried to warn her about him when she breaks up.
2006-07-15 02:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Talisman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If letting her go is not an option then not much advise anyone can give..But one thing u should do is ask her if shes going to be leaving her boyfriend soon if not then the only thing that you can do is get as much as you can before she stops seeing you and @the same time be looking for someone else>>And make sure to wear a condom!!!!
2006-07-15 02:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by puceekat@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you both are playing games, it cannot be called a healthy friendship, when things are taken for granted, there is no purity in your relationship, you both are cheating and your feelings are not real. first, you both clarify what kind of relationship you both are having among yourselves, is that serious one or just friends with so many faults within you. always try to maintain and keep good companions and not with persons with wavering minds. it will ruin your life. stay away from this girl.
2006-07-15 02:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by shankari n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, long distance did not work for her, so she will probally break it off with this new guy.
You will be going to the same school, so... you tell her exactly how you feel. Then if she breakes off another chance with you, She is not truly THE one. Then you should move on.
2006-07-15 02:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by 4mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I understand your feelings and feel your pain, but this chick chose another. If she loves you why does she date him? Move on bro. You will barely remember her 10 yrs from now.
2006-07-15 02:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO REALLY THINK ABOUT WHAT BEST THING
TO DO IN THIS SITUATION, SHE WITH SOMEONE ELSE,
AND YOU MAY HAVE FEELING FOR HER, BUT SHE NEED
TO DECIDE WHAT SHE WANT AND WHO SHE WANT, HOW
WOULD YOU FEEL IF THE SHOE WAS ON THE OTHER
FOOT. AND LETTING GO IS A OPTION SINCE SHE REALLY
IS NOT YOURS TO LET GO.
2006-07-15 02:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋