im trying to find something positive,ANYTHING to think of. just spoke to her 2weeks ago and saw her monday.im in so much shock i dont feel anything and my fiance keeps hugging me but its making me feel worse.an advice?thanks
2006-07-14 19:24:33 · 13 answers · asked by mrs.dynomite 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My deepest sympathies, along with my prayers for you and your family. Three years ago this month, my wife and I both lost our father's the same day, their deaths being less then two hours apart. My father-in-law knew he was passing two months before this, and asked me to do the eulogy, which I told him I was honored to do. When the time came, I mentioned how it was my wife and my faith in God that got us through that week, as we watched them both die slow deaths in hospitals that were 40 miles apart. My best advice to you is to turn to him for comfort and strength at this time. If you have a Bible nearby, read Psalm 46. Again, my deepest sympathies, along with my prayers!
2006-07-14 19:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by rhino 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about your loss. The best advice I can give is talk to those you know you can vent to that really listen. My uncle was murdered a couple of years ago, and the people I appreciated the most were the friends and family who would just listen. Not try and give advice. As far as your fiance goes he's teying to do the only thing he knows..love on you. Show you he's there and show you love. If you don't feel like getting hugs, let him know you're not feeling like cuddling but you'd love to have him there to listen to you. My prayers go out to you and your families loss.
2006-07-15 02:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiancee is trying to comfort you the best way he knows how.
Don't try to hold in all your feelings, that's not a good idea. I offer all my sympathy to you and your family and prayers also. Your sister does not endure pain anymore. My son died of cancer and I was with him 24/7. It might help if you write down all the good memories about you and your sister. Stick with people that are supportive. Some of your friends may not visit you because they won't know what to say to you. That is also very painful. My best to you and your family.
2006-07-15 02:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by kriend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mrs. Dynomite
I'm very sorry about your sister and i wish you the best of luck! I lost my Grandfather when i was 5 years old and i always remember the day and i relized that the best thngs in life are the memories. I think that you should remember all the good times you had with your sister and most importantly think about how you can now spend every single moment with your sisiter and i think that is the best advise i can give you!!!
I wish you and your family the best and i will keep you in my thoughts!!!
2006-07-15 02:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves differently, your numb from shock, it will sink in soon enough. You don't have to cry hystericaly. She will allways be in your mind and heart. You have to remember you now have an angel. Your boyfriend is showing you he cares. He doesn't know how to handle the loss either. Just take it one day at a time. Try writting your thoughts of her on paper, you would be surprised how helpful it can be. My heart goes out to you and yours for your loss.
2006-07-15 02:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by cagroves 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you, what I am going to write is not going to help but it might give you something else to think about. I also lost someone to cancer it was my brother what got me through it was knowing he would`nt be in pain anymore, I was with him all the time for day`s before & he was on a drip shunt for pain relief but it did`nt work the last night was terrible he screamed all night, so like I said I was relieved he would`nt be in pain again. Talk to your fiance take his hug`s but most of all do`nt shut him out, be strong & take care of yourself X
2006-07-15 02:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by madge 51 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and think of the greta times you had with your sister and just think of the positives.. If she was in pain because of her cancer, she is in a better place now...... You will be fine.
2006-07-15 02:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what advice to give except let people be there for you. I am very sorry for your loss and I hope you get through it ok. Take care.
2006-07-15 02:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by mattsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when my best friend died (hit by a NYC Cab) i had saw him that morning and everyone that knew me friends family his family all felt they needed to hug me and all that it didn't help any what helped me was just the fact that i knew the last time I saw him he was happy
2006-07-15 02:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by OZoNE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sympathies. Well at least she is not suffering anymore. Everyone has a fixed lifespan if you can believe it. It's fated. Depending on our karma. Time will numb your pain. God bless.
2006-07-15 11:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋