she always wants to be stuck to my side.this started last year and hasn't stopped yet. i can't eat, talk on the phone, or even take a shower without her standing at the door. she is the only girl, and has 3 little brothers so i have always tried to spend some "girl time" with her each week so she would not feel left out, but here lately it is like she has to do everything i do and go everywhere i go. just wondering if this is normal or not???
2006-07-14 19:24:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have a 9 yrold girl also, and she does the SAME thing!! It is perfectly normal!!!! I put my make up on- she is right there with me. Iam on the phone or have a "adult conversation" she is right there wanting to hear every word. If i have to go somewhere- she is waiting by the front door for me! Its even gotten to the point where she is wanting me to sit with her and watch Disney! I just explain to her that "i am your mom& not your friend I love you, but i need mommy time" Dont get me wrong, when i say"i am not your friend" its not in a mean way, i just mean pearenting comes first!!
2006-07-15 03:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by brandeemaree27 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as frustrating as it is in 5 years time you will be looking back on this and wanting it again. Try to get her doing an activity and then go make your phone calls. If you are in the shower lock the door and tell her you need some privacy ( i crave my shower time in peace and occasionally i get it while they are eating breakfast) Get her into books so hopfully she will become absorbed in them or better yet, if you really want it to stop...everytime she comes give her a hug and ask her to do something....bring in washing, do the dishes put out the rubbish... I could go on for ages, then she might stop coming to you all the time
2006-07-15 08:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a phase, it may be a bit more.
It is not terribly uncommon.
It is possible she saw a tv show, a movie, saw something online, or whatever, about losing a parent, or loss of some sorts, and is concerned about it. Or that she is feeling unsure and alone, and needs to be around you for security.
Sit down and have a tlak with her. Tell her you notice she wants to be with you all the time, and ask her if she is feeling afraid. Have a lot of talks with her, if nothing else, this may build up her confidence, and perhaps you will get to the bottom of it.
2006-07-15 02:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Especially in these modern times, children at this age, try to establish their identity and try to curve a niche in society. In pursuit of this, if she gets a threat or a 'nasty' experience, there are high chances that they will be fearful and might in some cases withdraw. At this age they are still exploring but if she cannot bear to be without you, then you need to carefully check. Lovingly try to dig deep into her secrets.First establish that she has confindence in you and as such will disclose her heart to you. If she bumped into someone and was 'abused' in any form, she will not want you to be out her sight. She considers that with you, all will be okay. Though children may want to so much be with their mum, age 8 is not a veeery comfrotable age to have her cling so close all the time. As I have suggested try to find out her heart, there might be abuse!!
2006-07-15 06:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of kids cling to mom at a young age and then separate from mom and go with dad when they get older, its a phase but in your case it seems like a serious one. You could try to wait it out, of you could just have her dad take care of her or spend more time with her so she sees that she can go to him as well. Good luck
2006-07-15 03:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by niceguy4agze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to scare you or anything...but I think if your child is acting different then she usually do you need to sit and have a talk with her and make sure she dosnt have anything on her mind 9 is young but a little on the older side to be showing that type of behavor espesially if its from out of now where...alot of kids show there emotions differently...i hate to say this because i know its horrible to say and for your to think but, i was molested by a family member for years while this was happening i hated for my mom to get out of my site..she was my protector...i felt if she's around me nothing could happen to me.... i would talk to her just to be safe...hopefully im completly wrong but kids show there emotions in different ways
2006-07-15 03:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she just wants to spend time with you. maybe shes a momy little girl. she probably want to be by your side in makes sure nothing happens to you. she wants to be there if anything goes down. like if you get hert or something, she will be there to call the police. thats it.
2006-07-15 11:25:34 · answer #7 · answered by buddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal,she wants attention,that's it plain & simple. BUT don't leave the little brothers alone,make sure they get attention too,cause they need it, not just your daughter. Good Luck.
$MDG$
2006-07-16 19:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jeremy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs mothers loving reassurance. There is nothing you can say to fix this. Just give her lots of love and compliments. Encourage her when she does things on her own.
2006-07-15 02:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if its normal,but enjoy it cause when she starts liking boys u are going to miss that time she wanted to spend with u
2006-07-15 02:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by sidekickLX! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋