Hey guys
ok...so I have a boyfriend, and have decided that I am going to break up with him soon. But the problem is, I dont know how to tell him in a way that he will understand and remain my friend. He is really nice and everything, but My ex's memories are holding me back from feeling anything real and intimate towards my boyfriend. Whta words should I tell him besides..."ITS over."
and please...answer me in a mature way!
2006-07-14 19:15:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, it may not be possible to break up and still be friends. It depends a lot on the kind of relationship you have, and the kind of personality you each have.
That said, I recommend that you tell him you are still haunted by the past, and that you are not able to go on with a new relationship. That perhaps he would be right for you uder other circumstances, but you dont and wont know, because you cant start over again. That this is quits, but you treasure his friendship.
Then let things unravel and fall from there.
Good luck.
(P.S. -- make sure he knows you dont want him to wait around for you to "heal" from the past, because you dont know how long or what it will take to do so)
2006-07-14 19:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off dont always expect a friendship from someone you break up wih you dont always get both freedom + friendship i mean and thats okay, dont string him along and not tell him i think the most honest thing to do is tell him that the feelings arent there you cant make your heart feel what it wont be tough but let him down easy maybe dinner at his place so you can leave afterwards if it goes bad and by the way if it dont work out with the ex please for your own sake try not getting back with this guy it could be bad for you trust me hope this helps
2006-07-15 02:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends do you still maybe want a chance with him later or do you want to go back to the ex cause if its the formerr tell him the truth tell him you want to remain friends that you moved a little to fast and that you still have attachment issue with the ex and you feel its unfair to him you never know what will happen
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2006-07-15 02:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by OZoNE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had to do report on this subject in school . u must be honest about ur feelings . ur must also understand that u two will proable never ever be "friends" . lets be honest love is a very complicated subject . so dont anything ur going to regret. there are plenty of websites to help u with ur issue . type in how to break up with somebody in any search engine and go from there!
2006-07-15 02:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by DYNOMITE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say you are not over your ex. It would sting much, but its the least pain you can cause. And it will help him in the long run by not blaming the break up on himself (obviously, you're dumping him), hence making it easier for him to move on. Honesty is the best policy.
2006-07-15 02:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the way i broke up with my bf was (exact words): i really love u, but in a best friend way" this proved to him that if i ever said i loved him i meant it but that i respect him enough not to lead him on i think it turned out for the best i didnt hurt him to the point of no return and i gained a friend for life <3 hope this helped
2006-07-15 02:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there's some missing information here. There is some other reason you don't want to date this guy anymore. I wouldn't say "It's over" until you find a new bf. Then tell him you met someone else.
2006-07-15 02:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont write him an email telling him that because thats just really immature and pathetic. sit him down and tell him its not working out and you want to remain close friends. if he really cares about you he will understand but dont tell him about the other guy because that will just hurt him like hell. take him somewhere special but not somewhere you have good memoeries at. good luck and i hope i was helpful .
2006-07-15 02:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that at this time in your life you need to concentrate on just you and don't want to be in a relationship. That you care about him greatly but don't feel that you can give all of yourself to him like you should. That you don't want to cheat him out of what he deserves but that you still want to be friends. Good luck.
2006-07-15 02:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say
i'm really sorry but i just don't like you that way. you know i feel really bad but i have some memories holding me back and i'm just not really not wanting to be in a relationship right now. we can still be friends though.
2006-07-15 02:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋