Mother in law from a really warm place,,,?

Question

My mother in law compares my husband and I against my sister in law and her husband. We used to hate each other until one night my husband and my brother in law got drunk and started talking. We found out that my mother in law purposely says things to get us mad at each other!! Now we just have fun and play along with her, then we call each other on the phone and tell each other the plot she's up to now. But, how long should we not tell her we know what's she's up to? I could go on forever, but then would we be the mean ones?? Anyone else have the mother in law from hell?

Answer 1

Yes, you should go ahead and confront her; for example, if she said "Marie is a much better cook", and you find out from your sister-in-law that Mom said the same thing about you to her, just say during your next conversation with Mom, "by the way, thanks for telling Marie how well I cook, and I made sure to tell her the compliment you gave her" -- that will get the point across -- if you prefer to be more direct, that's okay, too --- I have a weakness for being a smart-***....but, let me add, she's an old lady who will probably never change her ways; she's been like this for years! I've found that's true with my mother-in-law, but it took a few years of bickering and insults back & forth before I finally realized she wasn't going to change!

Answer 2

Me I do!!!! My inlaws always putting there 2 cents in where it doesn`t belong. Always starting trouble and lie there a s s e s off. I just had to say something on the 4th of July because my father in law didn`t like the way I corrected my daughter. So he got in my face and one thing lead to another so I let them know how it is.. They ***** if you don`t correct them and the kids break something or touch something that there not suppose too. So I let them know that I would not be coming over again and not to ask crap from me. In Florida Grandparents on have the right to see grandchildren if the parents ok it.. They don`t like me because I speak my mind and if I don`t like something I tell them.. I refuse to let them run my life and they won`t.!! You should stop her crap right now. Your husband should be the one to step up here.. He should tell her how it is and if she doesn`t like it OH WELL!! Somebody should put in her place before she causes some real damage!! Don`t hold back!! They way she want know weather to crap or go blind!!!

Answer 3

HAHAHAHA! My ex mother in law was the devil herself, forget just being from hell! My mother in law hated me from the minute that I started dating her son. The woman would look at me and tell her son that he could do sooo much better than me (I was going to college and working full time; he was working at mommy's friend's restaurant part time). Then when I got pregnant (even though I was on the pill) she told everyone that I did it on purpose to trap her son into a marriage he didn't want to be in. But what she told me was that if I didn't marry her son, my child was going to go to hell. So then I married him because she scared the daylights out of me. I didn't get to plan the wedding/reception at all, she just told me to show up. She picked my dress (which she brought at a thrift store), and then bad talked me the whole day. She picked where we lived, what friends we were allowed to talk to, everything. This woman was a controlling demon! I didn't get to plan the wedding, but I did plan the divorce! That was the best part about dealing with her.

She, nor her son, had seen my daughter in almost 6 years when we took the 16 hour drive and went to visit them this past fall. She looked at my daughter and then at my ex and said, "Yeup, that kid is yours!" She was so sweet to my daughter and then treated me so nice to my face, but then behind my back she talked about me like I was crap. She told me that I had to move closer to them so they could be more in my daughter's life. HELL NO!

Answer 4

My father was like your mother-in-law..not happy unless he was instigating trouble between couples.

But...I digress...
I wouldn't tell her what you know. it serves no purpose. If you do, she'll only find another way to start trouble, take my word for it. She's happy right now believing that she's causing trouble...
and "ignorance is bliss..."
so in her case, I guess she's blessed.

Given some time, she may tire of her little games and find something else to occupy her time. And no...you're not the mean ones...she is!

Answer 5

My own mother was like that. To this day my sister and I are not close at all. Too much pain from what our mother did. Telling her is not going to stop her. She will only deny it. I just let it roll off my back and never even waisted my time trying to correct it.
ignore it

Answer 6

Sounds like you've got an instagator in-law. Also sounds like she is very lonely and bored. She is most likely trying to use one as an example to get the other up to her standards.
My advice would be to try and keep your distance as much as possible, she is a back stabbing pot stiring trouble maker and should not be trusted. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 7

All my inlaws are! They all hate me. My mother in law is actually the nicest one of them all, but she has too try really hard because she hates me too, but doesn't want to lose her son. But my sister in law and father in law are horrid. My father in law couldn't even bother to come to my daughters wedding. The last time I saw him two months ago he told me she was fat. They're horrible people.

Answer 8

I have a wonderful mother-in-law. I feel REALLY blessed compared to all of these people who claim to have devils for in-laws.

Answer 9

Oh, let it go on forever. To tell her would just cause more drama. It sounds as if life is easier without her knowing that you know. Play it until it ends I say.

Answer 10

My mother in law and i tolerated each other........ have to say that the only thing i miss from my marriage is the family dog... lol she loved me!!!