Well im 18 and have graduated and 8 months ago my fathers job had us relocated from Connecticut to Virginia, my parents bought me a jeep in replacement for my old car since we couldnt bring it to VA, my plan is to get my liscence and my parents told me when i do i can get the title to the jeep. I want to move back to CT because 1. thats where i have grown up and 2. i want to take a post grad class at my old school. I feel like if i do move out id be stabbing my parents in the back, should i move out? and if i do would it really be stabbing my parents in the back?
2006-07-14 18:43:23 · 10 answers · asked by Neo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
nah its not stabbing your parents in the back..if you wanna move out..go ahead!
2006-07-14 18:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cool that you are considering what your parents think here. Your reasons for wanting to move out sound good, so what I think would be a good approach would be to sit down with your parents and tell them these reasons... and show them that you could be responsible on your own. If you have a great plan, hopefully they will see that, but they will need to see that you have thought it through. Tell them where you would be living, how you would be able to afford your living space, and what the benefits would be of you moving there (getting school done, spending time with friends). If they see that you have a great plan and you aren't just casually saying that you want to move, I don't think they would feel like you were stabbing them in the back at all.
2006-07-14 18:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by ♫ Abby ♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question is really are you READY to move out? Can you afford to totally make it on your own? To pay for your rent, gas, food, bills, other car costs, insurances, any classes you take, cell phone, probably internet service, and so on... I hear CT is also sort of an expensive state.
Be sure you are totally ready and prepared and able to make it on your own before you decide to go through with it. And if and when you ARE ready and your parents are confident you can be okay, unless they are clingy they will probably support you in it. At that point they will probably feel pride, not hurt feelings.
2006-07-14 18:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
giving you the car is probably to help you move out. if you don't have a car you would have to rely on them for a ride even tho you have a license. and if you had to buy your own car it is more time that you would have to spend waiting for the money earned to get a car so i personally think that it is a way to help you get out on your own and be more independent but at the same time still being a parent and watching out for you b/c im guessing they bought you a new car or lightly used one b/c they know it would be reliable where if you were to have to save up and buy your own you would not have enough money to get a good one or be able to finance one due to the face that you have little or no credit
2006-07-14 19:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Meagan P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice - figure out a plan on moving back - where you will live, work, etc. Get all your facts and figures together, and then sit down with your parents to discuss it - don't present it as a "I am doing this and you can't stop me" but as a "I want to do this, this is what I have worked out and I really need your advice and support to make this work." Listen to what they have to say, and adjust your plans based on their advise. Don't be afraid to compromise - they have experiences to draw you don't, and they can be your best ally in doing this.
2006-07-14 18:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Chris H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your parents know you want to move? Talk to them. Tell them how much Connecticut means to you. It's a bit of a drive i'm sure, but you can still visit them pretty easily, right?.
Good luck! You seem like a good son, they should understand.
2006-07-14 18:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by blackolivesrule 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are 18 & an adult.
Its your choice & your parents should respect that.
Its not stabbing them in the back. They'll be happy to get you out so they can sepnd time together.
2006-07-14 18:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, there's no stabbing of backs involved.
they will be sad to see you go, of course, but I think they have understood for a while that one day you would want to make your own plans.
2006-07-14 18:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should move out you are grtting to old to stay with your parents you need to do your dreames what ever you want to do
2006-07-14 18:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by Ali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not talk about it .They may be more understanding then you give them credit for.
2006-07-14 18:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋