How do I ask a co-worker, of the opposite sex out ?

Question

I work 2nd shift, the co-worker of the opposite sex works 1st shift. We chat at times when we pass, not just hi, hello, how you doing, more in depth. I don't know what to say, I guess I'm a little affraid. When we do talk it is good conversation, not stupid talk. She seems to listen, not just standing there to listen, or ever saying well i got to be going.The weekend is probably the only time we could hang out , because of our conflicts of shifts. She seems like she has a good shoulder on her head, from previous conversations. We have LOL at things said, in a joking maner. I don't even know if she has children, or even a boyfriend, or a place of her own. What do I do, or say next ? PLEASE HELP ! THANK YOU !

Answer 1

Depending on your company. Does your company allow dating w/in the company. I work for a company that prohibit it. Like other said:" It's hell if the relationship does not work out, but if she worth it, take the risk and find out.
On the next conversation you need to ask about her more, getting to know her is important. You don't want to go out with someone you don't know. (The basics are: is she available? where does she live? Who does she live with? What kind of food she likes? What kind of music she's listening to..........? Implement those question in any of conversation you have with her, in the nice way. Don't be so direct. You've to find the right time to weave it through, watch her expression, how she respond and work it from there. It takes two to tango.
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

I've run in to the same problem , and my thing would be to work up conversations about boyfriends etc with leading questions about like what she is doing this weekend.. If she says nothing or the like ...I'd say go after it and see what happens. (mine was dating at the time but at least she knows how I feel I think)

I find the interoffice romance if you will has it's hood/great points... since you aren't on the same shift, some of the other problems I think ain't there that others have like having to face the person every day for many hours.. But if it break s down be prepared for you to be possibly exposed to your co workers...

If you want to take a chance and figure she can be the one I say go for it...

Answer 3

Okay heres the deal. My husband and I met at work. We had casual conversations at work, flirted and all. Next time you see her work into the conversation if she likes coffee or ask her what her favorite food is. Then if you know of a place that has her fav dish ask if she is free on Saturday and ask if she would like to join you to dinner or lunch perhaps. Also you know the girl has to have friends at work find out what she likes. If she says no then you'll know shes either not interested or has a guy. If you really like her take a chance, you never know what will happen. Pay attention and take a chance. *-*

Answer 4

respectable difficulty to do, without hurting him and putting a distance between you and him is to go back with apologies. Say you won't be able to settle for one of those present and be agency. human beings like selections. in case you desire you ought to signify a small present to keep him satisfied. that is in basic terms a tongue-in-cheek advice because it may inspire him and then you're quite in problem. Use your judgement in this mind-set. yet, going to HR isn't observed as for. If he harasses you in besides you've reason to placed HR on word of one of those behaviour from an worker. Touching? Ha, march excellent into HR and make a written grievance. saying a company NO with a stern voice and not in any respect making eye contact and outright ignore will set him immediately. No solid mornings or needs or how-are-you type of small talk with this guy.

Answer 5

I think if you want to build a relationship with this very special lady, you should go ahead and ask her out. I don't think it would be a problem. You should defiantly ask her what her relationship status like first. If she is available ask her out!!!! Seems like you two already have a good time just talking between shifts; imagine what it would be like if you and her were on a date!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck I hope you score major points!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Well, do you want to get a cup of coffee? That's how me & hubby hooked up when we worked together. We worked the same shift though but that doesn't really matter if she wants to get to know you. That was his big pick up line and I got hooked, line & sinker. It will be 12 years married in October.

Answer 7

Hmmm.... Ask her "Would you ever consider going on a date with a co worker?"She may say at this point if she has a boyfriend or whatever... If she says "yes" then ask her out... If she says "no"...
hmmm...
If she says "no" tell say something like "Me either until lately...but there is this girl i'm interested in ", blah blah blah

If you like her, you just have to talk to her about it. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

Go for it man, try it, you are on a learning curve here, the only thing is both of you should work hard on it in order to be successful otherwise you will be part of another stats

Answer 9

ask her to discuss about your work by getting some coffee in the morning or after work and then smoothly change the subject into things about her and when your done and ready to leave ask her if she would like to do it again an then it will just evolve from there you will find out if shes interested in you or not etc.

Answer 10

be initiative, ask her out, heres a trick if you ask her when you do and she says shes happily merried or has a boyfriend retaliate by saying just a friendly date ans friends, theres no way it could fail, thats just the sugar writting, but in my own oppinion be yourself, be true, do not lie, keep doing what you are doing, if you keep at it, you wont need any help.