when i was in my last relationship. there was some real jealousy issues since i have been single for awhile i have male friends so what can i do to make the one that i am with feel secure with all the others still stopping by and saying hi.Can they ever be friends with my male friends?
2006-07-14 18:02:59 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men need three basic needs fulfilled in order to feel secure in a relationship:
1) The woman to be proud of him
2) The woman to be "maternal" (caring, considerate, attentive)
3) The woman to be a good lover
Other needs stem from those 3 basic needs. If you fulfill those, everthing else will often fall into place.
As for the male friends...
The reason why most guys have a problem with their girlfriends having male friends is that they know that most of those male friends would gladly sleep with their girlfriend is given a chance. Hence, the "friendship" with those male friends is tainted. The sad thing is that most women refuse to accept that fact, and believe that their friendships with other males are the same as friendships with their female friends.
Lastly, yes, it is possible for a guy to be friends with one of their girlfriend's male friends....usually after they spend some time interacting with their girlfriend and the male friend together. If they see that their is no "questionable" stuff going on, they may come to trust the male friend with the girlfriend and even develop a friendship with the male friend of their own.
2006-07-14 18:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by lucid_anomaly 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have a lot of male friends and my husband of 13 years has a lot of female friends. Our policy is that nobody is allowed at our house anyway so stopping by is not an issue, but as far as our friends are concerned, the most important thing is to not keep secrets and introduce your mate to as many of your friends as possible. Don't leave the room if you are talking on the phone, or not answer it when it rings. Just keep everything on the up and up and you should not have any problems.
2006-07-15 01:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by simplyfabulous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's highly unlikely that they will ever be OK with you talking/seeing your other male friends and even more unlikely that he will ever become friends with any of them. However, you CAN make him feel more secure by constantly reassuring him that he is the only one you care about in that way. Compliment him a lot and be sure to give him your FULL attention whenever you can. Have a long talk with him about how much you cherish him and only him. Build him up. It'll benefit you both.
2006-07-15 01:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by I Have The Answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna tell you from some one who used to really a jealous person. But I am now secure in that area. If the man is truly secure about his relationship it should not matter. But if you see him getting jealous really easy and he is know to be kinda rough. You better be careful.
2006-07-15 01:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust makes a man feel secure
2006-07-15 01:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw yourself at him and act totally crazy about him in word and actions. Say that you think he is the greatest guy in the world, that he is hot and beautiful and tell him you love him. And don't let your male friends just "stop by," don't answer the door if they didn't call first. YOU be into your man and show it any way you can.
2006-07-15 01:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Asian Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck men are and have always been competitive toward each other. All men hate for their girl to have guy friends. They will go out of their way to make you feel the same way about there "girl friends" If they don't have any "girl friends" they will run out and find one just to rub in your face. Good Luck
2006-07-15 01:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by top momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a man secure in himself. You need a confident man, one who loves you for who you are, and won't want to separate you from your male friends. Confidence, honesty, self-esteem, . . . These are the traits you need for a relationship.
2006-07-15 01:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Food makes men feel secure.
2006-07-15 01:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on the man and his past relationships. If he has been burned in the past then of course he is going to be more jealous or suspicious.
2006-07-15 01:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by calgal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋