Should I date a "separated" woman?

Question

I just met a great girl. She's 23, used to go to my university, still lives close by...she's great. After having dinner she gave me her Yahoo ID so I could IM her. While talking to her tonight I clicked on the link to see her Yahoo profile. I was surprised to see that her marital status was separated. I'm 21. I've been in only 3 serious relationships since high school. I guess my question is whether I should go any further with her. If she were to get divorced I would have no problem dating her. Would it be strange for her to date someone who hasn't had as much relationship experience? Also, I am a virgin. How do you guys think she may feel about that?

Answer 1

you should ask her if she's seperated she could have made a mistake on her profile, if she is seperated from her husband i advise you to leave her alone and move on cause you'll only get hurt, if her husband decide to come back around. i don't think being a vigin would be a problem.

Answer 2

anyone who has been in a sirious relationship whether married or not that has lived with someone is in the same boat, it doesn't always work. She may have jumped into something too young and didn't understand all that a marriage entails. fortuneately in this day in age one can get out of it. I would say go out with her, give her a chance, get to know her and her reasons for leaving him or him her. as your virginity is conerned, so what? I have never slept with a virgin, but that doesn't mean I never would have. In this day in age I don't blame you as well for waiting. the best you can do in any situation is be patient and feel it out. Either it will go somewhere or it won't, just do her and yourself a favour, don't make a big deal about it. The poor girl has been through enough for someone her own age, trust me!

Answer 3

Its U who would go into love with that Lady, her past doesnt come in between. She never asked Uto get experienced in love , neither someone need to be experienced to be in love.

So, U can have a relation, provided U both have a concent to that.

Seperated doesnot necessarily mean that she defilitely have some problems in her, so was thrown away. Its mainly for some issues that both cant agree upon, so decide to give space to each other by being seperated.

So PROCEED friend.

Answer 4

1st about the fact that she's seperated... talk to her about it, make sure you know what's going on and what to expect from the seperation.. you gotta be prepared for anything and everything right? as you get older, it's harder to find people who have more or less experience because it varies.. if she's going to base that kind of thing, then she's obviously looking for something different. now about the fact that you're a virgin - it might be a shock to her, but even so, it realy shouldn't matter because it's a choice you've made in your life, just like the choice she made to seperate from her husband.. just talk things out and get the story straight and you'll be good.
good luck :-)

Answer 5

Personally I think the best thing is to wait.. Why? because even though she is separated she is STILL married... You have to be protective at this rate of getting your feelings hurt.. Ask yourself this... Even though she is separated what happens if they get back together.. where will you be then? or making her choose later down the line... Would that be fair? think about it first hon.. there is ALWAYS ups and downs in situations like this.. I think your best bet is to remain friends.. set boundaries.. and above all ASK her what is REALLY going on... and remember.. you really don't know her situation and because she may be fond of you doesn't matter... is she really being honest.. or is she trying to get back at her Husband.. or will she be using you to just keep her bed warm... think about it... I Don't mean to dampen your high... just being honest...

Answer 6

Separated - no.
I did that once, and after about 3 dates she informed me that I reminded her of what was missing in her life - "The love of her husband", so she went back to him.
Legally, they're still married, not living together. Not a good situation for you. You're young, find someone single.

Answer 7

You MUST gauge where her head is at with respect to her marriage. This is crucial! If you want to have any future with her, you must be CERTAIN that there isn't anything left in her former relationship. If you aren't CERTAIN, walk away, or understand that this may be a temporary fling for you. Also, women are not concerned with virginity in males. In fact, you can use that to your benefit by having her "teach you." Good luck.

Answer 8

I would find out what the situation is regarding the separation first before making any decisions. i dated someone who was separated from his wife and i don't recommend it. there were times when i'd have to deal with her and it got pretty nasty. he would tell me to call him at a specific time and she'd be there and cuss me out on the phone. it was just too much drama and not worth the trouble. if she's only been recently separated, run the other way. and find out why they got separated to begin with, if there is a chance for them to get back together. i'd just be concerned that if you started to fall in love with her she may decide to get back together with him.

Answer 9

well i would ask her why she is separated, and what her plans are about the separation. and if she's as "great" as you said, then i dont think the fact that your a virgin would matter, it is something you might want to hold off telling her, you once the relationship grows a bit

Good luck, i think it could work

Answer 10

My advice to you is be her friend, get to know her and see what happens, once you have known her longer you can ask her how long she has been separated....... just because someone has been married doesn't make them any more experienced then people who haven't.... Being a virgin is great............