Can a guy and girl be real good friends without special feelings?

Question

This guy from sg has been calling my gf in msia to chat with her on long distance call. Sms her frequently. My gf said she treats him like a good friend, like a elder brother. She also claims that this guy is a platonic friend with no motives.

Can this really be true? Personally I feel that I can't be good friends with a female because feelings bound to develope from there.

Please share your views with me thanks.

Answer 1

Well chances are no feelings will develope. Unless your like a teen and your girl crazy like most are. Nobody likes everyone they see. And if you hang out with a girl you might like them and you might not. The times when you don't is when you can hang out with them. It's kinda complicated I know!

Answer 2

Yea, I think it's very possible that they could have a friendship without those special feelings beyond. Perhaps they meet eachothers views or make eachother good venting grounds & communication... Just as maybe she would with a girl. Yes, it could be possible that it develop into more although it is over a long distance so don't worry, you have the advantage. If she says he feels like a brother to her than take it as that because it may be so. As soon as you begin getting all on edge and trying to cross that she might resent you. Maybe the guy is expecting something more than being just platonic, who knows but meanwhile, she's telling you "her feelings" which is all that should matter to you. Trust her motives and loyalties. If you go rocking the boat, you might be man overboard.

Answer 3

I've had this issue before. The guy liked me, but I couldn't like him back the way he wanted me to. I wound up breaking his heart.

Anyhow, to address your question, I would say that yes upon the following conditions:

1. Both guy friend and girl friend are gay
2. Neither is physically attracted to the other

What are the odds, right? But seriously, I’ve had situations were I was good friends with a guy and he got a girlfriend. I usually get along with my guy friend's girlfriends because I know they won't go out with stupid whores. So usually when that happens, I make an effort to befriend their girlfriends and then limit my contact with the guy friend so that they can be alone with their girlfriends. I also do this out of respect.

In any friendship, you have to respect your guy/girl that's a friend when the significant other comes in. Yeah, it's complicated, but I've been able to do it. I am not physically attracted to my guy friend whom I'm relatively close with now. In fact, we've dated each other to find that it’s better that we stay friends. Usually, if I see something’s not going to work out from the beginning, I won’t pursue it.

And as for the whole finding other people bit, the expression here is not "There are other fish in the sea" but "There are better fish in the sea".

Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

Hi! Why not? Guys & girls can have platonic relationship. It's all in the mind and also both must have discipline. It depends on what's in the two person's mind and what they really want out of each other. Both the parties must decide what kind of relationship they wanted to have with each other and then keep it straightforward and clear. Whether it will go haywire or not depends on both the parties. It takes only one party to start the mess by losing focus and losing discipline on hinself/herself. However it can be avoided if the other party stay focused and stay disciplined. Just a sharing.......

Answer 5

I believe so. Most of my closest friends are men,some that I have been closer with in the past, and some it's been platonic from the get go. To have friends that are different in gender, I believe, helps us ( hopefully ) to understand the workings of realtionships in general, aiding us ( again hopefully ) in more romantic endevours.
And then again, sometimes those friendships can blossom into something greater, and what better way to start a realtionship than to be close friends with the person first?

Answer 6

I have a lot of guy friends and I have been married for 13 years. Girls and guys can most definately be just freinds. I get along better with guys and when I have a problem with my husband they can give better advice because they see it from his side, so they are able to tell me when I am the one in the wrong without a doubt, women can't do that as well because they usually see it from the womans side. BUT you should be able to meet any guy friend that your girlfriend has, without hesitation.

Answer 7

Nope! Unless they are gay, male friends want to have sex with their female friends.

If the guy didn't find the girl attractive in the first place, he probably wouldn't have spent time with her in the second place. He just couldn't close the deal. Even worst he became her friend. If they both get drunk together and she offers sex, he will take her up on it. Be very wary of girls that spend too much time with their guy friends.

If she disagrees with the above, have her call and flirt with one of her guy friends and ask him if he would come over and pound her tonight. Most likely he will be ringing the doorbell before she hangs up.

Answer 8

I think just because two people are the opposite sex doesn't mean they will automatically have feelings for each other, and it's OK for them to be good friends. If you feel uncomfortable with your gf's friendship tell her your feelings, and if it gets to a point where you really suspect something, let the relationship go.

Answer 9

There are some platonic friendships but what it means I keep in the back burner just in case I don't have a date or just in case the train is leaving we could get together and have some Platonist sex.

Answer 10

maybe on the female side. Not always on the guys. Usually, we have hidden motives. The word "platonic" doesnt exist in our dictionary.