My boyfriend always says mean things that he knows makes me cry. Then he says he doesn't like to see me cry.

Question

If he is intentionally making me cry but yet he doesn't want me to cry, why does he say the stuff?

Answer 1

Run..don't walk away
His circuits aren't all connected and the last thing you want in your life is a head case.
Don't even consider 'talking' to him to resolve this.
It may go away for awhile...but leopords don't change their spots
Especially mentally ill onesc

Answer 2

even though some people may not agree with this, i know that this will work. first what ever feelings that you have that can be broken by someone saying about your dad you have to cope with that so you can become stronger, and pay the girl no mind that flirts with him because in the end you have to remember that he is not the only guy in the world and you have to know that you are a beautiful person and you can always get better, now that kills that. he seems like the type who wants to test a girl just to see how far he can goes and with you he already knows your weaknesses therefore he can use them against you at any time simply by throwing threats he puts you in fear but when you let all of that go you can be a very powerful person, fight fire with fire. take his words to the heart in his eye's. let some days go by, no forget that see if a week can go by, dont call him, txt him or anything. act as if you are on another level already be happy daily, have fun daily, stay busy and lets see how long it takes him to come around, if he begins to flirt with other females or that one particular female you dont like, dont cry, smile and wave and keep it moving or you can just pay it any mind and get you a flirting buddy as well and see how he likes that, i believe in and eye for and eye basically meaning what you do to me will do to you, of course to a certain extant. I did this before with an ex boyfriend of mines and it pratically just about made him lose his mind i did everything to him that he used to do to me that made me go crazy like when i would call he would say he was busy or not text back like he used to on time. just alot of stuff then when we took a break from each other, he would send a text to start a convo he would text back maybe 20 mins later and i would text back automatically to make him think i was available then after the 4th text, i would start textn back like 40 mins later, or an hour and i wouldn't be doing anything but chillin, when he would call or i would call him i would stay on the phone 5 mins then laugh like i was with someone then say i had to go im busy right now and hang up, no goodbye or nothing.

Answer 3

First of all I know exactly how you feel. I once had the same problem. But I got out of that relationship because I think that they do that (say things then apologize for it) so that they feel in control. Like having the upper hand in the relationship. You know? No matter how many times you hear the word "SORRY" it will always happen again if it had happened more then 10x already. If you really love him then I don't know I think that you wont be able to leave him but if you want respect for yourself an a better future with a guy who will treat you right then you'll get out of that situation. As for me... I got out because I was tried of wasting my tears on him when there where other guys out there who I know will treat me like a QUEEN. :)

Answer 4

if its stuff like he wants to break up...it could be becuz hes insecure about yall relationship and wants to kno that u really care....OR... he really duz want to break up with u...but eachtime he starts telling u, u cry and he feels bad.


OR


if its just plain mean stuff to make u feel bad about ur self...then i think we all agree. LEAVE HIM. u can get yo self another man. who appreciates u and loves u...and all he duz is encourages u. yo man is supposed to be encouraging....well u better become encouraged to leave him. hes just being immature... God might bless u with someone else...who loves u and never wants to hurt u, and wont!!! but maybe that guy, yo boyfriend is just standin in the way.







OR he could just be being immature and making jokes... tell him to stop.











ok, girl, i hope that helps. watever it is...just tell him.

=)

it'll be ok.

Answer 5

Confusing, I know. But maybe when he makes you cry, he's angry about something. Maybe something you did or said. Some times when a guy is angry, seeing tears calms him down, and his true feelings for a gf come out.

Answer 6

This guy has no respect. One of the important things in a relationship. Love, trust and respect. If he really loved you and respected you he would not be making rude comments to you or about you. Talk to him; if he doesn't start treating you better. Girl, get rid of him!

Answer 7

Your boyfriend is having a power trip at your expense. If you are wise, you will find a new boyfriend. This one could become abusive in other ways. Barb

Answer 8

because u let him next time kick him in the balls when he does it and make him cry then tell him your coming over to my house where i won't make you cry, maybe moan a lot but not crying

Answer 9

He enjoys torturing you, then feels bad when he sees the results, but has so little respect for you, he continues to do it. Why are you still with someone who treats you this way?

Answer 10

He could be bi-polar, or just a jerk. Nobody should be in a relationship if they get upset or fight alot. He might be doing it to keep you under control and not wanting to get too close.