alright so im good looking and what you do when a.....unattractive girl aks you out i dont know a nice way to say no any suggestion
2006-07-14 17:12:29 · 10 answers · asked by lztexan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to be polite and say no.
that is the ONLY way to keep from things getting out of hand and someone getting their feelings hurt.
2006-07-14 17:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Tina 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should accept unless you have good reason to believe she's actually going to molest you or do you some other kind of harm. And when you do, you should talk to her and find out who she is, what her values are. She may turn out to be a better partner than someone who is prettier.
I mean: what do you want, a pretty girl who has nothing special between her ears and is going to run around on you, or one whose looks are 'nothing special', but who actually has some grey cells and uses them, and also has values so that she's likely to be faithful?
And yes, faithfulness is an issue here. I mean, if sex creates a bond of oneness so strong that you need to
1- make the move from Mom and Dad being most important to your beloved being the most important aside from God, and
2- make a permanent commitment to her (before you do anything more, because once you have, nothing can be allowed to interfere with that bond),(*)
then you tell me: does it make sense to take concrete steps down that road (i.e. engage in non-platonic behavior) when you are not absolutely sure that that's what you want the conclusion to be (i.e. when you are not at very least engaged to be married)?
It doesn't - it amounts to defrauding your partner, so that if you care about her rather than *it*, then you'll take this seriously. That means that dating needs to have the purpose not of romantic entertainment, but friendship and determining whether you wish to spend your life with this person. So, yes, faithfulness (or rather, lack thereof) is one of the two deal-breakers here!
Not to mention that if you approach a girl - any girl, regardless of whether or not she is 'obviously goodlooking' from the outset - with the attitude of 'love your neighbor as yourself', you may eventually get a soft spot for her, and notice she's pretty after all, and... eventually spend your life with her.
However, if you just cannot bring yourself to treat her well, then it probably is better to tell her you had other plans (which you did - until she asked, you were going to stay home because you hadn't made any other plans yet), and then designate that evening as 'quality me time'.
Under no circumstances should you show your face outside your home that evening if you have decided to go this route, except maybe to go to the grocery store to get stuff to make for dinner (and return home after that).
2006-07-15 00:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) I look at you more as a friend and I really don't see us togehter
2) I don't want a girfriend right now, but we can still be friends and all.
3) I just don't feel chemistry between us and before I commit myself to a person I have to make sure I have chemistry with them.
4) Ignore forever <~~ but i wudnt do that one.. too mean
; )
2006-07-15 00:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Gaga <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
havent you heard of the saying ..."dont judge the book by the cover" the ugly girl as you say could be a really nice girl if you get to know her. who cares what she looks like. just go out with her and see how it goes. i know this probably isnt what you want to hear. but its what im goin to say
2006-07-15 00:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by missindy46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well everyone have something good about them. U could be going out with someone very attractive, and they could be a hell raiser. Don't judge people just upon their looks. But if u don't want to go out with her just say u are not interested. Be truthful with it and let it go.
2006-07-15 00:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am already in a relationship and I am not looking to date anyone else. SOMETIMES LYING IS a good way to spare the ugly persons feelings.. DONT be rude to them.
2006-07-15 00:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Wildfirentampa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be polite, and simply say you're not interested in having any girlfriends right now.
2006-07-15 00:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her thats she is prety,but you are verry interested in some one else,and it would not be fair to her because your hart aches for another,but would lve to have her as a friend.
2006-07-15 00:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should like girl not for just there apperance
2006-07-15 00:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say "no, i never thought of you like that."
2006-07-15 00:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by Barbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋