What do you think about guys that have a fear of women? I am one of them. I am scared to death to speak to younger women. I feel like I will be judged and rejected by them and I also feel I will be hurt by them.
2006-07-14 16:13:26 · 13 answers · asked by sleepy j 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't think it's irrational, but there's nothing to be afraid of. Some women are afraid to talk to men. If you slowly ease yourself into the situation and just talk to women in small increments, that could help alleviate some of your fears. Also, go on a group date so you are not expected to carry on as much of the conversation.
2006-07-14 16:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by rockinout 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all I am wondering what you mean by younger? if you are much older then them I know why you have a fear! But if its only a few years or what not, I dont think there is anything wrong with being shy, try dropping hints here and there and definatly make eye contact you will find most women are just as scared as you and would be pleased to be approached, and whats the worst that could happen they can say NO to whatever or not talk to you so what your life is not over and there are plenty of women in the sea
2006-07-14 16:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Joelyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did something bad happen to you in the past? If that is the case, it might take time...but you can do it.
Why is it younger women and not older women? And how much younger?
I would say to help get over the anxiety, just stay casual. It may take a while, but that's ok!!!!!!! For instance, if you are in the library and you see someone reading, tell her you heard of the book and are wondering how it is...It's not an abnormal question or topic and isn't anything intimidating.
Don't go for dating anyone until you feel comfortable with it...just go for making friends...the best relationships are based off of friendships. :-)
2006-07-14 16:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by Janelle M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing to fear is fear itself!Lots of guys have this type of fear. Your just bashful & shy,and most guys grow out of it!Your scared,because you lack self-confidence! All of us whether guy or girl at one point and time will get rejected,and the only reason it would hurt you is because of PRIDE,because someone hurt your inner feelings!Lots of people will judge you,but they should'nt,because their judged also. NO one is better than another,so boost up your confidence and forget about what they will say or reject you that just means their not good enough for you or they just wont fit into your category!ALL WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME!! You might miss out on your soul mate so just forget what people think!THINK OF YOURSELF!
2006-07-14 16:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that, but to tell you the truth everyone feels that way! So you are not alone!!!
But if you think about it this way it will make it a little better for you!........when you have the urge to speak to someone do it! Be yourself and allow yourself to enjoy the moment!! Afterall the only bad thing that can happen is the person can say No!! And that's not that bad! But don't give up and don't ever stop yourself from trying!!!! You will kick yourself if you do!!!! BEST OF LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-14 16:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mother was overbearing and scary. Maybe your opinion of women was formulated by what you saw in your home. Or maybe your mother really judged and rejected your father and you're afraid that'll happen to you. You have to make a life for yourself away from what you saw growing up and believe that it doesn't have to be that way. Just relax, be friendly, try to think the best of people and again relax.
2006-07-14 16:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've been traumatized, and it might of started as early as your mother.... (don't take the wrong way) It's a known fact that women can never reject a man that has alot of confidence in himself. It sounds like you're going to have to face your fears eventually if you every want to score with a chick.
2006-07-14 16:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am good friends with a guy who is much the same way, and I am very outgoing and scare the living crap out of him all the time because of it. The only difference is that my friend is also a big instigator, he likes trying to get me all riled up but then is afraid of the consequences. Maybe try spending time with groups of people, not one on one and you may find yourself feeling more secure? Good luck!
2006-07-14 16:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by Giovanni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may have some insecurities with yourself. Unfortunately, until you deal with those issues you will always have problems with the opposite sex. I'm sure you can find the courage. Also, if you have been hurt in the past by a woman (even your mother) you might be holding on to those memories which will inhibit your socializing with women.
2006-07-14 16:22:13 · answer #9 · answered by bcooper1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong about it. I have the same fear, only it's with men. I'm so afraid of flirting with men.
2006-07-14 16:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by hpotter4ever2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋