can u help me with a routine for me and my 2 kids ages 2 and 9 months?

Question

no routine and no sleep. need help feel tired all the time and dont know what to do.

Answer 1

Wake them up by 8am and get dressed , have brkfst, let them play while you straighten the kit, teach the 2 yr old about the abc's about 30-45 min ( the baby in the play pen where you can see her),go for a walk(you need it too) or play actively 30-60 min.,(this would be a good time for the 2 yr old to have a playdate for 1 or 2 hrs. if she is ready to) let them play while you prepare lunch, eat and get cleaned up, change the baby and give him a little water and put him down for a nap, Allow the 2 yr old to watch a video or sesame street while you are putting the baby to bed and about 30 min more and then put her down for a 2 hr. nap. After naps you change the baby and give them juice and veggie or fruit snak and let them play. If the 9 mo needs a short nap do it before 4 and wake him after 30-45 min.so he will be sleepy for bedtime. Work with the 2 yr old on drawing, a board game or a craft while the baby is down or is playing in th playpen where you can watch him.You can do house chores while they are asleep and in the afternoon the 2 yr old can help fold clothes or dust (with a damp clothe & you will have to redo it but she is learning to be responsible)and make sure to praise her and never bribe or pay her. She/he needs to learn that work is a daily and natural thing that everyone does. If she learns this early you will have an easier time teaching the baby and they will have learned a life skill. Before she is too tired in the late afternoon make sure she has picked up all of her toys. She should be putting one away before getting another one out anyway. When she changes or bathes make sure she puts her dirty clothes in the hamper and puts the towel and washclothe where you keep wet clothes.When you are preparing supper/dinner let the 2 yr old fold napkins,wash veggies, and eventually set the table and help prepare easy foods and then add more as she ages. Start the 9 mo when he is wanting to or 2 yrs.,whichever is first. Always tell them how proud you are when they complete any chore or do something nice for each other or anyone. Make a set of rules and stick to them!! Tell them if they break a rule then they will have a consequence, like no special tv that afternoon or a toy they like can be taken away for a few hours. The consequences for breaking the routine rules should be for a short time until they get older.If they yell or say something bad or tell you no, etc., then you need to put them in time out and make them stay there. Time out should be away from others vision so no one can interact with them.After supper they can play with dad(he is very important and must interact and show love with them)and you as a family playing games, going outside or just being silly. Get the baby ready for bed, and allow dad to put him down. The baby should always stay down when you put him in the bed. You may have to pat his back or sit or stand by the door but never take him out unless he is feverish or sick! Next is the 2 yr old, bathe,teeth,and dad puts her into bed.You both can be in the room but let dad do the discipliniing when he is home.Read a story, give kisses and hugs and turn off the light. When they are bathing, with you or dad helping, talk about anything that comes to mind. Learn to discuss and let them know that you will listen and you are interested in all that they do.Parents time!! Make sure to give your relationship time everyday! Do the kit after supper while the kids are up so you will have all the free time to devote to one another.Try to keep bugets,yard chores, running errands,housework ,etc for when you are home alone with the kids and he can help on the weekends. Make goals now and the routine to live by. Arrange your finances so you can have a sitter at least one night each mo. for a date together away from the house alone. Time alone with each child ,alone with husband,and together in groups of 2's,3's and 4's is very important for self esteem and family values.Save for your future, after the kids.Keep whatever routine you decide on and don't let the little darlings charm you out of it. Discipline and love will make them happy, productive and responsible kids,students, and adults.

Answer 2

Okay here is what you need to do starting the night before.
Bedtime and 8 or 8:30 pm both of them 2 year old to bed 9 month old to crib. You either go to bed or sit and relax
Next morning When the kids wake up sit them both for breakfast
Bath
little play time or take a walk while it is cool out, play at a park near our house.
bottle for baby snack for toddler if hungry glass of milk
Depending on what time you all get up the baby will be ready for a nap two to three hours after waking up. nap time for baby.
you and toddler do some picking up around the house this will not only help you get things done but also teach responsible and make them feel helpful.
baby will sleep probably an hour to two.
Lunch 12:00
more play time
Around 1:30 0r 2:00 lay both down for a nap. You sit and rest a little.
When they wake have some more play time
Start dinner and feed the kids by at least six
7:30 brush teeth, read a story give the baby a bottle and put them to bed.

Note give the baby a bottle when ever end I just put in appropriate times for one. Not that all times aren't appropriate.

Answer 3

Although I don't have two kids on my hands yet (my second is Due in a few months)... it sounds to me you need to "train" them in the sleep/nap depts. If so, work on your 9 month old first (so you don't have the same problem as they get older). You should have the book (What to expect the first year)... pages 350 - 354 cover sleeping through the night. I adopted the "Ferberizing" method... and it works like a charm. I won't lie... it's torture the first few nights, but there's light at the end of the tunnel. Once you decide you're going to stick to a plan, it will work. Don't give in, not even once... or you'll be starting from scratch again. You should also be putting your 9 month old down for 2 naps per day. Pick a time when you know he/she is tired, and put them down while they're awake. Eventually, they will fall into that pattern. I speak from experience.... I've had my 11 month old sleeping through the night since he was 3 months, and he takes 2 naps every day (wether he likes to or not). He'll sometimes cry, but eventually falls asleep. It's not cruel. They need to sleep, and so do you.
Your 2 year old will probably need the same attention. Stick to your guns. When it's bedtime, don't give in.
You can also pick up a book called "Sleeping through the night" by Jodi A. Mindell, Ph.D. Alot of repetition in the book, but it was worth the reading. Oh, yah! get yourself a pair of earplugs. You'll need them in the beginning. Good luck!

Answer 4

Well, let's start with meals--breakfast, lunch and dinner. Set a time for each: 8:00 a.m., 12:00 p.m. and 5:30 p.m. After breakfast, get ready for the day by washing face, brushing teeth, combing hair, making bed, picking up kitchen, do a load of laundry. Plan some learning activities after that; reading a story, singing, play dough, walk. Put Noggin, Nick Jr. or PBS on the TV, make lunch. Eat lunch and put kids and yourself down for nap. Get kids up by 2, take them outside to play or go to the grocery store or library or some other kind of shopping or park or class at Y, clean or do laundry, have kids help, have a little snack of fruit, veggies and dip, cheese and crackers, graham crackers and milk. Put Noggin back on TV, make a simple dinner, give kids a bath, get them ready for bed, read story, video, if necessary, lights out at 8, no later. Take control, your the Mom. Hopefully, dad will pitch in with the evening activities on most nights. Just make a schedule of some kind and stick to it. Kids need exercise, fresh air and a sense of accomplishment, so say they are the best helpers and make a big deal about anything you ask them to do and they do it. It doesn't have to be this regimented either.

Answer 5

As far as naps when you put the baby down for a afternoon nap ask your 2 yr old to lay down on the couch with you turn on some cartoons to keep his/her interest and he/she will hopefully fall a sleep so you can also take a nap, well with my kids ages 6 and 4 on occasion it still works.
As far as bedtime if your 9 month old goes to bed around 7:30 or 8 you can tell your 2 yr old that it's now bedtime baby is in bed now it's your turn so mommy can go to bed and if you need to lay down in the bed with him/her until they fall a sleep a bedtime story will also help calm the 2 yr old down so they will go to bed easier.
Good Luck

Answer 6

My daughter is 6 mos. old and I had the same problems(she slept in bed with me for her first 4 mos.), finally I had to sleep!!! At 7 every night, I start fixing her dinner(rice cereal, and a veggie)she's finished by 7:45 at the latest, then I take her upstairs lay out a towel and let her air out her nether regions, while I fill her tub. I give her a bath(every night, it calms her), then I lay her on a towel(a different one)and lotion her, and tell her how special she is and how much everyone(and I)loves her. I sit in a quiet room(no tv, no computers, no activity)and let her finish her bottle...Take her to bed with her pacifier and "baby" and turn on baby Bach and "ocean waves". I know that will work for the 9 mo. old, the 2 mo. old you should probably wait another month or 2 to set boundries, but you could definately try(I would)...

Answer 7

try TV..i know people knock it but my kids are know so much from shows on Nickleodeon and Noggin....