I need help. Guys and girls both. This guy and I have been dating off and on for five years. We both really like each other but we were both scared of commitment. Then we got engaged. to make a long story short, cold feet, engagement canceled. We are talking and are great friends but we have started hanging out again. He tells me how beautiful I am, we hangout, kiss, dance, etc. However, no commitment. I think he is seeing other people as am I. However, I need to know. Is he interested in me still by his actions. Or are we just really great friends and that is all we are going to be. I need some serious help in this area. He is the one that I want but I don't want to get false hopes.
2006-07-14 15:58:01 · 8 answers · asked by Meg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I said that I was seeing other guys, I meant that I was going to date other people so as not to be alone. However, I do not want to date other people I want to date him only. I am just scared of the rejection. His actions confuse me.
2006-07-14 16:27:59 · update #1
Have you ever wondered which hurts the most?
Saying something and wishing you hadn't?
Or saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say.
Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart
If you don't, you might break theirs.
Too many of us hide our true feelings because we are too afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all.
Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what theywould have done, or could have had.
*What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye?
*What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn't have them?
2006-07-14 16:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your situation.. and what I did was, let him go.
Although it takes years to heal, even until now I can't find anybody to replace him, I feel relieved that at least he's happy with what he's doing and I'm happier this way. No more worries or thought about should I have or should I dont have commitments with him.
In fact, we're still best friends now. And I believe one day we'll both be ready to become committed to each other.
2006-07-14 23:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Scha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him whats going on. If hes the one you want to be with then tell him. Don't let your pride or fears of what he might or might not feel get in the way. At least you will know you did all that you could. Life is too short to waste it wondring everyday about 1 person. Communication is the key here. Good Luck.
2006-07-14 23:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by rock_roll_musicman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to HIM about it, because it doesn't make sense not to,and end up regretting it. I think you are scared and just don't want to get hurt because you care too much about eachother.
2006-07-14 23:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by ::.Mz.Allure.:: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. What if he feels the same way?Either way, atleast find out, or you will regret never asking or telling him, and always wonder if it could have been. Talk to him okay.
2006-07-14 23:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question. you are already both seeing other people, obviously you two are just friends with benefits
2006-07-14 23:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yall are both to screwed up to get together
2006-07-14 23:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
want it then go talk to him like grest friend.... if on then cont, if not then cont be great friends.... no need wild guess....
2006-07-14 23:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋