My boyfriend is in Iraq and won't be home on leave until November. i have been miserable since he left. even though i love him and want to be with him forever..i feel like i am missing out on things by being attached to someone who can't even be there for me. I always feel so lonely and its hard to get him off my mind. i dont know what to do. i want to be with him...but i want to be happy also.
2006-07-14 15:57:35 · 18 answers · asked by Baby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love this man you need to be patient and wait.
True love is worth any wait!
I know it sucks being lonely but if you miss him that much he must be worth it.
Make it a point to write or call or email as often as possible
2006-07-14 16:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by KirstenStormsFan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off love is a chemical feeling that your body produces for the first 2 years of knowing someone. (Gives you that tingly lusty and want to hang all over them feeling.)
With that said, you also get the same high from eating chocolate. (grab a Hershey's when really down, it's a scientific fact it works and mimics that happy high lovey feeling.)
If you're asking others about your boyfriend, then odds are you're 17 - 23 years old. Which means you have very little actual *love* experience. Most older women will tell you that waiting for a man in their youth was rarely worth the wait. Whose to say he isn't satisfying his animal like urges over in Iraq? Trust me, I was a military wife and those boys like to run. (Not all of them do, but there is a gross amount of them who cheat on their wives and girlfriends).
The key is to not wait for him, but to continue with your life and WHEN he gets home, you resume dating. Or just don't tell him if you had a few dates while he was away. At this age, you're not married, no kids with him, and for all you know he may get home and dump you a few months later.
True love conquers all is a load. Sorry, but that's just not reality. That's Cinderella thinking and mentality. If true love was worht waiting for, and always won.. then we wouldn't have men who shot lovers, guys with STDS, hookers, or divorce. *winks*
Get a job if you don't have one, join some clubs or fun things to go do. Work on yourself while he's gone, date if you want to or don't date. BUT don't stop living! There is so much you can do until he gets home. If your needing a bed romp - buy some toys. If you're old enough to have a boyfriend then you're old enough to take care of your own needs while he's gone.
Go out with your girlfriends (ones who don't have boyfriends since that will only depress you more.) Go clubbing, take a college course in some skill that will help you down the road (communication, or child rearing classes).. You can wait for him, but never stop living. Just keep that in mind. And if you slip up, it's ok. Odds are he will someday also and never let you know.
It's human nature.
2006-07-14 23:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by Inked Fantasy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. You love him. So wait for him. If you truly love him, the wait will be well worth it. I know its hard to be apart but leaving is not the answer to that.
My friend's husband was sent over ... and she found out 3 days later she was pregnant. He won't get home until the baby is almost 3 months old. So I know.. I know... I feel her pain every day when she calls me in tears.
You will be happy one day.. just remember the love you have for him, remember that he is a strong brave man for being where he is. Don't ever let him get away.
2006-07-14 23:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by ladyangelovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick it out honey i'm sure he misses you just as much so be faithful to him and when he gets home you'll be glad didn"t do anything the both of you will regret for a lifetime besides Nov is not that far away// get a calendar and keep track of the days and he will be proud of you remember there are a lot of our people over there so you are not the only one in this situation
2006-07-14 23:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by ma_2st 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you have been going out before he left. Also, it depends on how old you are. If you are 20 or younger, I'd say there's not much of a point in waiting. Also, if you two are really right for each other, you'll probably date again when he gets back if you haven't slept with tons of people in the mean time.
You probably should let him know if you think it will not make him "Section 8."
2006-07-14 23:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by ready, set, jet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is serving our country in Iraq, It is not a place he would have chose to go if he did not have to go. He did not abandon you! He is risking his life for our country while you sit at home crying what about me! You know just because you are not together does not mean your life is on hold. You do have girl friends you can go shopping with or picnic with. Why do you think you need another man to make you happy? Maybe you don't deserve the loving man that is fighting for you. You should think about it.
2006-07-14 23:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by lil_minx6 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl I swaer,
If you dump him, and he comes home finding another guy in the home and on your lips then hes just totally gonna die!
You cant just decide, right then and now! it'll hurt him, he wont beable to consentrate on wars and etc! I have a brother in Iraq! and Im lonely, I dont just go up to him and tell him I hate him and never wanna see him again!
You'll be happy, when he comes back, you can tell him how you feel!
Just dont hurt him!
2006-07-14 23:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, please stay with him. It's the right thing to do. You'll feel good about it and have more self-respect in the long run. Do more things that you enjoy more often, exciting things that you might not normally do like jet skiing or skydiving-- anything that takes your mind off your sadness. Try to convince him to come home sooner. Maybe there's a way.
2006-07-14 23:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Gen Xer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him and knows that he is the one for you, stay with him. there's nothing wrong with having friends so you won't be so lonely, but don't leave your men because he is away for awhile. but i know how it is when you so close to someone and they just have to leave you for awhile. i was in a situation where my BF had to go away for a while and i cried and was lone too, but it's OK, were together still.
2006-07-14 23:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by KEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in love with the idea of being in love, if your love for your bf was REAL, you would never question if you were missing stuff, and you wouldn't be so miserable, Your thinking of yourself not him, and hes the one your supposed to love?
2006-07-14 23:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by catlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋