We recently discovered our daughter has been smoking. She is in HS. Should we let her smoke, her mom smokes.?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

No mom has sex too would you let her do that. And mom needs to check herself and admit to her daughter that mom only smokes because she has an addiction. Now don't say you don't because if that is the case then let's not smoke for the next week. Once you do try it you will see that mom is addicted both physically and psychologically. Mom needs to tell her that she wishes that she had not started and explain to her how hard it is to quit and how bad it makes your home and hair smell and the many other harmful effects of smoking. By the way it is so unattractive when a Lady lifts that cancer stick to her mouth!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

If your daughter held a loaded pistol to her head, and had only half the chamber full of bullets.. would you let her pull the trigger a few times just to 'experience it' or because someone else did it?

Smoking is like holding a loaded gun to your own head, only you don't know how long it will take for you to land on a full chamber and actually kill yourself. It could take a few years in some rare cases for younger people (mouth cancer, lung cancer, ovarian cancer, disrupted periods, infertility problems, etc all happen in young people as well as older smokers).

It's addicting (more so than cocaine) and it one of the leading causes of death for females now in our country. It also leads to a poor immune system, mood swings, chronic bronchitis, COPD (heart failure), and the in-ability to breathe later on in life.

After just 2 years of smoking, a 20 year old notices it's harder for them to catch their breath when running or playing in sports. Even with just climbing a flight of stairs.

Smokign also effects an unborn fetus in ways most people don't know about. For instance, if a MAN smokes ONE cigarette a YEAR before getting his wife pregnant, the baby will have a 50% higher chance of developing childhood asthma, cancer (lukemia), and brain tumors, as well as a greatly increased risk of having a learning disorder.

Your daughter also isn't fully done growing yet, this means the cigarettes will or can stunt her growth (not just her height, but how her lungs, brain, and heart actually developes! This can never be repaired once the cigarette does it damage.)

So, should you let her smoke? My mom smoked, I smoke, which means my children are exposed to smoke (a child in a smokers home or car actually enhales *second hand smoke* to the equivilant of 100+ packs of cigaretts a year!) .. I think stopping smoking is the hardest thing I have ever come up against in my lifetime. Of course, odds are I'll think it's cancer if I ever get that from smoking. Save your daughter years of pain and suffering, plus an expensive deadly habit.. don't let her smoke.

It's the most loving thing you could ever do for your children.

Answer 4

I find these kind of questions funny..."let" her smoke?? Smoking is addictive, so if she wants to smoke she is going to, sorry to say. You could try sitting down with her and offering to pay for patches to help her quit, but unless she wants to, it would really be a waste of time. That doesn't mean that you have to let her smoke in the home or around the family though.

Answer 5

This is tough. On one hand, she is under 18 and you still can lock her down in her room until she promises to stop smoking, but then she might resent that. On the other hand, her mom smokes and is setting the bad example. Explain to her that what her mom does isn't right and that every cigarette takes 2 minutes off of your life. Tell her what can happen to her skin, teeth, lungs, hair, and the NASTY smell created by the cigarette smoke. Almost all of my family smokes and I will NEVER smoke because I see firsthand what can happen.

Answer 6

Why not? Its not like you can preach about how bad it is for her..... can't pull the Do as I say not as I do speach... (my dad tried that)

personally if your wife is smoking in the house and your daughter is making that choice to smoke also..let her. Maybe she just wantrs some control so if you don't try to control this she may give up the fight after its no fun.

But if you let her..set some ground rules.... Like you will not buy her cigs..ever... and no full ashtrays in her room..don't smoke while in bed. Oh, and most importantly.....A Lady never smokes while walking.....very trashy.

Teach her to be responsible with it.....and let her have the control. I bet thats all she is shooting for.

Answer 7

Well, her mom may have a drink of vodka so do you let her have a drink? DUH! NO you don't let her! You give her the facts, have her Dr give her info on what it will do to her body, how it will age her, make her hair stink, nails yellow and cut short her young life. You cannot force her to stop, you can make it tough though, and do not "condone it". She is in High school, it isn't even legal for anyone under 18 to smoke so you are breaking the law allowing her. Cut off allowances or money you give her as she will just buy cigarettes with it, until she has proven to stop. Offer to get her the patch, nicorette gum, be supportive but FIRM!

Answer 8

Suppose you find out she's shooting crack.... Do you question what she should do then? Drinking, smoking, whatever.. it's still causing harm on a persons body and mental ability. Don't let her do that to herself.

Instead of just telling her "No you can't do that" Show her what she's doing to her body and wht could happen to her if she continues to do that. Show her picture of peoples lungs and teeth years after they smoke and teach her about the different illnesses that relate to smoking.

And as re-inforcement, try to help her mother quit smoking because, she's not going to stop if she she's her mother still doing it. That would be a double standard.

Answer 9

NO! just because the mother smokes does not make it ok for the child to smoke. There is an age law for buying cigarettes and if she gets that age and chooses that path then so be it. If kids were able to make good decisions we would not have to be responsible for theyre choices until they are 18

Answer 10

No you should never let anyone you love smoke. Get her some help now. Lung cancer is the leading cause of cancer death in the US and the largest number of lung cancer sufferers are women. The sooner she quits, the better. She'll need a program though, so get her the patch. They're pricey, but way cheaper than the cost of cigs over time, the expensive cost of life insurance, the detriment to her overall health, and the cost of fighting cancer later in life.

Answer 11

My parents let me start smoking and now I smoke almost two packs a day. I just can't quit! If my parents wouldn't have supported me in smoking I probably wouldn't be smoking today and if I did, it wouldn't be so much. Don't let her kill herself. You have an opportunity to stop her in self destruction before she becomes too addicted. So what if you're wife smokes. When she dies a cigarette related death you won't be able to turn to your daughter because she will be dying too. Save what you can. Good luck.