Going to be really careful how I ask this one... not really looking for opinions but answers to the question?

Question

Ladies don't like nice men, but bad boys...true or false? they say they do but really isn't just men with money you like? I've seen some women with real jerk off men who lie and cheat on them and they don't seem to care as the man has a lot of money. please try to keep to the point here... don't want your opinion about me asking this question, this is a genuine search for knowledge

I don't know what drugs that wintersnow is on but I want some of them now... what a crappy answer to a question I didn't even remember asking...

WHERE ARE ALL YOU WOMEN WHEN I NEED YOU!!!!

how on earth am I going to pick a best answer from this lot... thanks ladies for all the really good answers... as soon as I posted it I realised it was not going to be easy to answer without giving an opinion...

how on earth am I going to pick a best answer from this lot... thanks ladies for all the really good answers... as soon as I posted it I realised it was not going to be easy to answer without giving an opinion...

Answer 1

women don't hate nice guys Ive actually been alone for quite a while waiting for my nice guy to appear, what happens is the nice guys aren't confident enough that's what women don't like . i prefer a man to be a man not a wooss. sense of humour can win any one over. I'm jaded now because all my friends are with terrible men who treat them like crap so i feel like I'm the lucky one that doesn't have to put up with that . plus its hard to see men as anything but lead by the base instincts no more than dogs really ,if they could get away with humping peoples legs or trees when they are out they would. jaded i know obviously there are exceptions to the rule just havent found one yet . good luck.on your quest

Answer 2

The problem is that we live in the world of the POP culture. I am not sure where you live, but you will find that the attraction comes more from what we see on TV, then what life is really about. We tend to live our lives in a dream more then in what is real. While it may now seem like those women care in the end they do. That is where the statement "Nice guys finish last comes from". Cause they don't lose, it is just they have to wait till the woman has had enough and knows what she really wants.

Also some women want a man that can challenge them, most nice guys don't. I know I use to be a nice guy. Now I am somewhere between nice guy and bad boy. I don't cheat, but I don't follow them around like a puppy dog either.

Answer 3

Right looking at an opinion based answer-- from a womans point of view i shall give u my answer...
Speaking from experience(mid 30's now?!!!) when i was out there playing the field and looking for that soul mate or male companion, i met some right plebs. Needless to say, they were not my cuppa tea and i didn't persue anything. Friends of mine were the typical door mat girls-- like u describe- the ones that choose the to be with guys that have no respect.

I always saw that as freedom of choice and most of their tactics were of a sexual nature. The rough and ready, the risk takers. A much confused as we are still my sister is a prime example. Her b/f(now husband) she met at school, we all knew he was a waster but to her he was the best thing since sliced bread.

He used to beat her up, insult her in public, he had no money no job and no future but yet she had 4 children by him, moved away got married and he now holds down a job but those children will always be emotionally damaged. Successful men with their own independence are all taken-- married, gay, and well to do so i guess todays women are losing out..and feel that choices of partners are limited.

Answer 4

It depends on the woman and what she finds important in life. If she values material things and security above everything else...then she will care about money more than other things.

If she finds it exciting to fight and have drama in her life...then she'll be attracted to losers. Also, younger women tend to like the bad boy because it's an exciting challenge. You reach a point where you want to settle down and start a family. That's where the nice guy gets the gal. In my case...I got the best of both worlds. My husband is a really nice guy - he treats me like a queen, he's responsible and a great partner in life, but he has a bit of the bad boy qualities as well. I find this very attractive - but that's just me.

Anyway...it all depends on the person. You'll find someone who values the qualities that you have.

Answer 5

For a lot of women it isn't the money- it's the familiarity of a dysfunctional relationship. Specific example: I could never obtain my mother's approval, no matter how hard I tried. I find this "bad boy" whose actions are exciting and dangerous (guaranteed to tick off mom), he loved me enough to keep me around, but was often distant. At the time I didn't see the similarity. After my marriage broke up I went out with a guy who could practically have been a clone of my husband.

Now get this - I just realized that my relationship with my boss is the very same dysfunctional nonsense. BTW- the relationship is just work, nothing else.

Summary: we're knocking our heads against the same or similar walls because we haven't worked out whatever issues we have from our psychological past.

We like nice guys, but they don't "feel" right. Too safe.

Answer 6

false..... some women are money hungry true. But the truth is that half of us are looking for a nice guy that can be bad at the right time. It has nothing to do really with the oh i want someone that will cheat on me and treat me like crap... cuz well thats stupid what kinda disease ya gonna get that way. I think in all honesty I would like a nice guy, that opens the doors brings flowers is respectable, then in bed ... welll yeah you get the point.

Answer 7

My answer is True and False.
Why? It depends on what environment they have been exposed to As the person grows up, their brain is like a sponge, absorbing, learning and knowing everything that they see, feel and experience.
The parents has the biggest influence in honing an individual, the person see their parents as an ideal relationship whether it be a bad or good relationship, because she was exposed to that kind of situation. As an adult, she begins to learn to balance what is good and bad. Here comes the decision making and everything will be based on her past. If she sees that her parents does'nt have a good life due to financial problems, she will find a man who has money. If she sees that her father is a good man, she will likewise find a good man as her partner in life.

Answer 8

I believe most women go through a phase (some never come out of) where they are trying to find themselves and what they think is best for them. like nice guys, NOW!! I didn't know the difference when I was a teenager but had a high sense of respect. I didn't tolerate much at all but didn't know the signs if someone was lying. Now I know the signs for most (red flags) and tolerate less.

You'll find the right one. Look in the right places. and set standards of what you won't tolerate. Women will be nuts when you put your foot down.

Answer 9

I do like nice men, Not for their money....I was married to a GM worker for 30 years, we had a lot of money.....He became a jerk more and more over the years, I raised our 3 children, when my baby turned 18...I left.....I didn't take one thing from him, He got the house, the cars and even his retirement (Which i could have gotten 1/2) I'am now married to a super nice guy and we are poor as a church mouse, But very happy.......So not all women want a guy for their money....Some do...But not this one!!

Answer 10

Well, women want a confident man, sometimes jerks are confident. Women want excitement, sometimes jerk come across and being exciting. Some women want adventure in sex and love making, sometimes a jerk comes across that way. I could keep on going here but I am trying to make a point. It is not whether you are a jerk or a nice guy it is how you come across.