how do you cope up with long distance relationships?

Answer 1

One of the most difficult parts of a long distance or online relationship is handling the fact that you are not physically there with your partner. This lack of physical presence can make the whole relationship seem like an illusion. I am sure that almost every person in an LDR has wondered at some point about whether the relationship was actually real or just wishful thinking. With this in mind, it is very important to create a presence for yourself in your partner's life to provide a stable reality that you are a couple and that you are a part of one another. Listed below are some ideas and resources to help you achieve this.

Communication

Don't fall out of touch, even for a short time

Return all e-mails at the earliest opportunity

If you are going out of town or are otherwise going to be unable to respond, let your partner know as soon as possible so they don't think something is wrong or start to have doubts.

Keep all online dates.

Talk regularly through voice chat or via the telephone

Your voice adds that touch of reality to the relationship and makes you more than just text on a screen

Video Chat if possible or at least send pictures regularly

Can you imagine how differently you would feel if you could actually see your partner when you talk to them? You can bet that they would feel the same. Rather than having to imagine how you looked when you laughed or smiled, they could actually see it.

It nullify's any of those doubts you have about whether they will like the way you look.

Get to know as much as you can about each other

Tell your partner about your day to day life, your friends, your relatives, your job etc. Make them feel like they are an integral part of your life. At the same time, find out as much as you can about them too

Be there when needed

One of the worst mistakes you can make in any relationship is to not be there for your partner when they need you. This is especially true of a long distance relationship as there are already inherent doubts and this will just reinforce those doubts.

Seek your partner's advice, listen to what they say and make them feel special and important to you.

Love
Love is the backbone of any relationship. As long as the other partner feels that you completely and unconditionally love them, those doubts will not have a chance to creep in. It is up to you to make sure they know exactly how you feel about them. Some ideas include:

Reinforce your affection with poems, stories and love letters
Send them care packages, postcards and gifts
Create a personalized love craft and send it to them

Presence
Make sure you have a presence in your partner's life. Continually reinforce the fact that you are there, that this relationship is real and there is no way that you are going to let a little thing like distance get in your way. If you do the things listed above, you will create a good presence in your relationship. Just to make sure, I have listed below a few resources to help you. Good luck!

Answer 2

The biggest problem with a long distance relationship is that its no relationship at all.

My ex-wife was in Missouri while I was in Europe in the military. We wrote, we talked we had short visits, and based on this long distance relationship and the great sex when we were together we got married.

The marriage lasted 3 years. Bottom line, I never really knew my wife and the time we had together she spend looking for greener pastures as she did when she met me. My ex-wife is the type of person who is always looking for something better, never realizing how good the present is.

So, if you want a pen-pal, or a phone-pal or an e-mail pal, that's cool. Have fun with it and find out about other people. Nothing wrong with that. But when you elevate that contact to call it a relationship, you're setting yourself up for failure. Take it from me, in the end, it won't work out.

TX Guy

Answer 3

You sit tight by yr computer waiting for yr next email. Or letter from the post.
YOu wait for endless flower arrangements, and weeks to go by in agony because you have not yet gotten together.
YOu tell yourself a million times "He is fine, everything is fine, he isnt cheating he is just not here for today" on those days when you are all suspicious that nothing has showed up on the computer that slightly resembles yr love.

On the days when you are all angry at something, avoid sending messages, specially through email often times they get much attention more than the rest of the emails you previously sent full of love.

And on those days when you fear that the other person is lieing to you because of x, y or z, you dont even dare tell them that for they will dump you if you do. YOu will patioently wait for the next correspondence to arrive to your door or computer.

You keep sending each other love notes, gifts through the post office, e-cards, write a song and send it to her/him, send him/her yr favorite sweater smelling like you. That is always a good one to have around when the person is not present in body.

Smells take us to our memories.

Songs send each other love songs eithe cd or you singing on a computer mic.

But take into consideration that eventually distance breaks relationships. So if after one year nothing has come off or you are not married or something but together I'd say forget that relation and get one whre the person is around at least the State you live in.

I waited 5 years all in love, long distance, for my love true love soulmate of lmy life, only to find out he was a liar and had no intention to marry me after he made me divorce and then some. You dont want to end up in that situation. In my case the guy was in Sweden and I was in Southern California. So it was really difficult and endless heartache for me.

But I also had a long distance relationship and that is wth my hsuband. It can be achieved if there is enough love between the two of you.
My husband and I have been married for 24yrs. We dated long distance for over a year and half then we got married. But this husband of mine is a very caring person a lot more than many people are like. THe guy that I waited for 5 years only to see huge dissapointment was a very selfish Captain from the Swedish Army who was arrogant as he could be and I couldnt see that straight. LONG DISTANCE CAN HIDE MANY THINGS....
so beware...

Answer 4

Well Its all about trust, understanding and patience..

Me and my wife had a long distance relationship before we got married..

Until now were married it still long distance, and we just had a beautiful daughter.

I visit them at least once or twice a year! I try my best!!

I love my family..

Answer 5

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Answer 6

My boyfriend and I spent 4 months apart. We spoke on the phone everyday for starters. We sent a lot of pictures back and forth of what we were doing and what was going on (even if it was boring stuff, like me brushing my teeth). :)

Also, making arrangements to be together later on gives you something to look forward to.