I am in my mid 30's. My father never paid child support to my mother when they divorced (I was 11 years old). My mother worked loads of overtime to support me. Should I pursue the child support that is owed. I would split it between my mother and I. My father would owe about $43,000. I just found out that he lives in a $750,000 home. I am a little apprehensive about moving forward on this idea...what is your opinion?
I have not spoken to my father since I was 18. He hides his money in Switzerland or other places. If I do decide to go forward what is the way - attorney or write him a letter myself?
2006-07-14 14:56:34 · 17 answers · asked by totalstressor 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He lives in Florida - I have not lived in the US for many years so that is why I really haven't done anything about it. He was also out of the US for many years (unrelated to me)
Also, there is no Statute of Limitations for most states.
I am the only child with him and my mother.
2006-07-14 15:15:32 · update #1
My mother is encouraging me telling me I deserve that money. I told her if I chose to pursue it I would give her half. I told her if she would not take half then I won't do it at all.
2006-07-14 15:17:14 · update #2
what have you got to loose? I say go for it, he owes you something.
2006-07-14 14:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Stacy R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you have a legal claim to any money. Your father may well owe your mother money, but that is your mom's issue and not yours.If someone pursues your father it should be your mother.
If I were you and was serious about pursuing this, I would consult an attorney for the following reasons:
1) I am not sure if I could sue;(who's legally entitled to the money?)
2) possible statute of limitations problems;(many years have gone by)
3) After all this time, a letter would probably just be ignored
As I mentioned before, I think this is your mother's battle and she should decide whether or not to proceed.The other thing that needs mentioning is that your mom sacrificed at the time and worked her butt off to get you what you needed....why would she give you half?
2006-07-14 22:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow in other words he has long money. Don't worry he sounds selfish but he's getting old and eventually has to die then that's when you come and scoop it up. Sounds a little creepy but hey he has made no effort to try and make amends with you and your mother. But then there's the question are you his only child if not try to talk to your siblings to find out as much as you can. About your father and just lamp and wait. Or have you tried to talk to him. Think about it a house that cost $750.000 in N.Y.C is a regular two family house it all depends where he lives at to really see if he has any money......
2006-07-14 22:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by LIZA P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you can not do anything about it only your mother. Second statue of limitation is over so it won't matter what your mother does it will not hold up in court. If i were you i would contact him and say remember me I'm still alive and see what happens. By the way everything i wrote was tried by me and my mom years ago. When i got a hold of him he put me right in his life but only a short time he died, so give it a try nothing to lose you are old enough now.
2006-07-14 22:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by uofsmike 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, you go for the money, I don't care how old you are now. He is what we call a dead beat dad. He is living high on the hog so to speak. He probably thinks that he don't have to worry about it since you are as old as you are, but fool the heck out of him and go for it. I don't know as I would even let him know that I am coming after him for the support. I would get a lawyer and go after him!!!!!!!!!!! Your mom had to work hard to support you with no help from him then, let him pay now. Go for the gold, you and mom both deserve the money after all the hard work and misery that you have gone threw.
2006-07-14 23:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attorney or the State Attorney General Office.
2006-07-14 22:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by rockEsquirrel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it get an attorney. The thing i recommend is go after you dad for the cost of the lawyer to. So that you will get the full amount he owes you. And then not have to fork over the money for the lawyer. He owed you and your mom the money so you should get all of it and not have to pay to get it.
2006-07-14 22:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by SiberianHusky_8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have all the right to pursue for child support together with your mother, every child desert to has a mother and a father, and if you did not have one, it's justified that you go after him. Get yourself a lawyer and good luck!.
2006-07-14 22:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by flowermieses@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney and place a lean on his home or on him personally. You will have garnished any income he makes, if he sells his home you will get paid right off the top.
He could very well not be able to sell it without paying you, nor can he get a second mortgage until you are paid.
2006-07-14 22:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would pursue he did your mom wrong and you men are suppose to help support the kids and sounds like he had no reason not to go through with it they can find his money if you tell them that he is hiding it hire an attorny do not take it on yourself theres a long hard process to child support and itll be less stress if you hire someone to make sure its done and done right good luck
2006-07-14 22:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by squirrellchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW I cant believe the state never went after him. He owes it to you and your mother. You can use it the same as he can. I would go after him just to make a point you wont be ignored anymore.
2006-07-14 22:00:45 · answer #11 · answered by Loo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋