Ok so I was dating this guy who live a ways away from me. I NEVER cheated on him but he kept getting jealous over these male friends. However he would disappear at night and go play "poker" but I wasn't allowed to go to his home town and he wouldn't ever answer the phone.So then he logs into my myspace account and checks my emails... where does he get off. Then accuses me of cheating cuz some jerk I don't know messaged me. So should I go after the guy or leave it alone and let him stay pissed?
2006-07-14 14:45:49 · 25 answers · asked by Dreamy J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have always been told that those who are extremely jealous (with no real reason to be) are often the ones who would cheat. If you can't trust yourself first, you can't trust anyone else.
2006-07-14 14:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just let it be. If he has no trust in you then that is his problem and he needs to deal with it. A relationship can't be a relationship unless there is trust. If he wants to know what you do in your spare time, then he must share what he does. I would think his going-on's are questionable since he doesn't want you in his hometown and whatnot. There is defnintely something wrong with the picture here.
I would think enough is done and let it be. Let him stew over what he has done wrong. If he comes back then have an all out talk with him about what he did wrong and why it was an invasion on your privacy, and if he can't respect it, leave him be and go find someone else that understand that a female can have guy friends and doesn't have to be sleeping around with them.
I have been married for almost 12 years and we have complete trust i neach other. We tell each other everything that we do when we aren't together and sometimes no questions are asked. He has his nights out and I have mine. I have male and female friends, and he does to. He feels secure in me having male friends and I am secure about him having female friends. There are some of my friends that he does not know and I don't know all ofhis friends. But we have complete faith and trust in each other. And if we do do something wrong, we are very upfront about it and it gets taken care of before it gets blown out of proportion. We have a relationship based on trust and guidlines. this is how our relationship has succeeded and we have grown from it. Our jealousy are minimal, if there are even any at all. I can't remember the last time either one of us was jealous of something going on with the other one.
I think actions like that are totally uncalled for. If he can't trust you, and you aren't doing anything wrong, then let him go his own way and find your own.
2006-07-14 14:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by carina_tx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy definately has a controlling over-jealous nature.If you are only dating him and hes this bad then its only gonna get worse in the future.Funny how he wants to just "disappear" for a whole night and expects you to get over it but he has a frickin complex when a stranger messages you on myspace..(wich BTW he shouldnt even be snooping around on your myspace either....thats why they call it MYspace.)And if he doesnt want you coming around his hometown thats because he has something going on there and he dont want you popping up at the wrong time and crashing his little agenda.
Basically he wants to keep you on his own little leash watching your everymove while he can walk any direction he wants and in his mind you better not ask any questions.
Been there and done that, they are arogant and they wont change.
LET HIM GO.Is he really worth all the bull-**** he's put you through already?????????
2006-07-14 14:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lenina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. Because of the distance he does not trust you. Not to mention the unauthorized login is a serious breach of trust and privacy. Sounds to me like this guy is possessive and wants to control who you talk to. I would stay away from him and change your passwords.
2006-07-14 14:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by meggiek97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who accuses the most is usually the one doing it. This includes cheating.
2006-07-14 14:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have been given a reprieve..in other words, make the most of it by counting your lucky stars that it's over....the jealousy, the fights, etc... Now have fun and wait for a nice guy!
2006-07-14 14:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who is always accusing is the one to be doing wrong!!!!!Let him be pissed. It's not like you ever hid any of your friends from him and change your password if you have one to your accounts .
2006-07-14 14:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by LIZA P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having divorced a controlling cheating man, drop him like a hot potatoe hun, get someone who respects your privacy and trusts you.
2006-07-14 14:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by Bri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him stayed pissed, what a j-off. Plus, how did he get onto your myspace account? You must be stupid too...
2006-07-14 14:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go after him? leave him alone to stay pissed? Hell, you should be dumping his ***. You can't go to his home town..why?..he doesn't answer the phone....why?...he's hiding something from you and it's not something small...it's something BIG!!
2006-07-14 14:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋