My lifes a mess!?

Question

i`ve just split with my gf, im in a job i DETEST, my family do nothing but nag me, iv just did AS level exams and i dont think ive done very well! i fear that if i fail more than 1 subject (which is 80% probability) it will be the final straw and i will c no reason for living! i want to get away from it all, i want to get away from society, i want to get away from my family, i want to get away from my job, i want to get away from my relationship problems! if someone knows a way, then please do help me!!

Answer 1

Change, good or bad is stressfull. Exam time = changes...learning a new job, good or bad is stressfull. Instead of attributing the negatives in your life to outside circumstances you could check out your inner environment of your own attitude and heart and do the "rise above" exercise. It is truly an exercise worth familiarizing oneself with to combat what may have become a habit of complaining and blaming your inward unhappiness on outward things or people. Happiness is never something to be found in a lasting way if pursued as a goal in and of itself. It is the natural outcome of a life well lived. After the finals are over take up some pleasure reading; I reccomend The Purpose Driven Life. Try to do your job you hate in an excellent manner so that you get a good reference for a better one. Consider what would make your family stop nagging you. If you live with them simply do some chores in an excellent manner on a routine basis. Do take up running or some other physical exercise to release those T-lymphocytes(the "feel-good"messengers)into your system. Also B complex vitamins and C for stress are probably a good supplement for you right now. Don't beat up yourself over anything that is over and done with. Think about the person you want to be and pursue this with patience and love for yourself.

Answer 2

This is what I suggest, perhaps you should go with a friend to say australia (if you are over 18) for a year and get a break away, then go back to studying after you clear your head and have decided what you want to do, put your energies into working hard and achieving your career to give yourself time to get over your gf. You need to get another job, keep the one you have until you replace it with a better one and you will find a better one if you look hard enough.
You need to have a chat with your family and explain to them that they do not realise just how down you are, ask them to sit down and have a serious conversation with you and point out all your problems, sometimes families are a pain in the a** but generally if you sit them down and make them understand, you will get less hastle.
If you are not old enough to go away yet then do something nice with a friend to cheer yourself up, again concentrate on repeating the exam, it will get better I can promise you that.
You know what, you may not be interested now but there are more women out there than men and one day you will wonder why you were so upset about this one....your life is not a mess, you dont have a serious illness do you?? you can fix all these hings things bit by bit that I can tell you that for sure. Be strong, be patient never give up! you will get passed this.

Answer 3

Can you talk to someone? Perhaps a counselor? You are clearly under a *lot* of stress right now. You have a lot of life changes going on, which probably makes it seem hard to even know who you are anymore.

The bright side to this is that you clearly are in a place where you can reinvent yourself. What about taking some career assessment tests online? They might not give you a solid answer, but they could open up more possibilities.

I'm not sure how old you are, but could you get some distance from your family? Maybe move into a college dorm or live with a roommate? That might help you gain some perspective on who you are as an independent person.

Good luck. Remember that after these changes are finished, you'll have a new direction in life. I promise this won't last forever.

Answer 4

Only time will help a lot of these things, but what you learn about yourself in the meantime is worth the wait, so hang in there.

As for the exams, its only one way to go in life. Sure they can be useful but countless people have succeeded without them or degrees. There's always retakes if you really want them,

Guessing your age is 16-18 well I was nagged a lot, and kicked out, and stormed out... Looking back they weren't always wrong and I certainly wasn't right most of the time. Family life can feel like a burden but I'm sure they care and try their best. At times I actually felt it was their care for me that was the worst pressure. I now believe that they'd just be happy to see you happy, however you got there (except through drugs or screwing someone else over). Parents can seem to go from being gods, to superheroes, to older people, to irritations... with luck they turn into family and confidents. Yes they change, but a lot of the growing is yours to do.

Hate your job, then try something else, or give yourself a reason for sticking it out. Save some money and do get out. Distance can be a great aid in gaining new experiences and a fresh perspective of where we've come from.

And to leave with something I always found really irritating:
In a few years you'll look back and wonder at all the drama you had within you.

Answer 5

If you don't want to live, you need to call 911 now!!! I am 24 and I don't have a lot of life experience, but I have been through everything you speak of. There will be another girlfriend, one that makes you happy and complete. This girl you will marry. Your parents want the best for you. They nag because they care. It seems stupid but it's the truth. And the job you hate, another will come. I detested the last job I had, but I found another one that I enjoy. The day I don't enjoy it, I will find another.
You can not run from your problems. They will follow you. Face the issues. Show them whos boss. The only person that can bring you down is you!! Don't let that happen.

Remember:
Whether you believe you can or you can't; you're right.

Good luck, keep your chin up..

Answer 6

I know it`s a cliche, but whatever will be will be. I know that will not make you feel any better right now, but it is true. I think that you are very intelligent and have a tendency to underestimate your own abilities. If you don`t get the marks that you want or need, don`t think of it as `failing` but as a chance to re-evaluate. Maybe you have just chosen the wrong subjects and your heart isn`t in what you are studying! Think about what you love doing as a hobby, would you be able to make a career out of it? Families nag, it`s the way they are, they want the best for you, but that just makes you stubborn, doesn`t it? The thing is with families, they have this image of what they want you to be, which is often very different from your own dreams for yourself. Another tip, don`t waste your life doing something which you detest, make the most of being young. Forget everyone else, make yourself proud of you, you`re the most important person in your life. One last thing, `Regardless of whether your enterprise prospers or suffers, do not be concerned: you may not win, but you will never lose, for you will always learn from what takes place.` - Ralph Blum. TRY TO ALWAYS KEEP THAT IN MIND! Good luck for the future.

Answer 7

Don't handle it all at the same time. When you clean a room, start with a corner, and expand. Organize and recompose yourself, your problems as you've stated them:
~lovelife
~detest job
~family relationship
~failing school
Those are very burdening matters, and too heavy a bundle to lift. So don't. First make a gameplan, then start with one: Isolate it.
Say your failing school. We begin with this because it may well be the reason for the others, the pressure school puts on you may make it seem like pressure is closing in on you from all sides.
What can you do to not fail school? Give yourself an hour [NO BREAKS] to do all due assignments, then the late ones. Don't look at it as 80% chance of failing, look at it as 80% more reason to work harder. Don't deal with self-pity. You're in a situation, and you need to excel in it. When you're doing better in school, so much better that you're confident you can pass with flying colors [much easier than it sounds], if you need help with passing, or if you WANT to give up, mszlmb on aim yahoo w/e.
PS I don't know about you, but math really makes ME wanna give up.. if you don't wanna im for whatever reason, go to Algebra.com and post any questions you have. Otherwise best of luck to you, and don't give up just because it seems impossible.

Answer 8

Use poison, it will help you to look good as a corps. Then you will finally do something right in your stinking life.
If you want pity you came to the wrong place Mr.
My daughter will never walk a day in her life, she will live a short life, she is limited in her friends, she spends many weeks a year in the hospital and you do not see her crying about her sucky life. She has a job she loves and, she treats people with respect even when they talk to her like she is of minimal intellect, and she has made the honor roll at school, she pulls in As and Bs all the time and she dose it on her own.
My daughter also trains dogs and has many awards for her effort including showmanship champion.

So stop using up electricity and shut off your computer. Do not call anyone to say good by, they could get to you quick enough to save your pathetic life then, we will end up reading more of your sniveling crap when you only have half a brain from messing up the job you are set to do.

as I read more of the crap you call questions I see you have many questions posted a week ago about having a crush on someone then you post you have been with someone.
STOP playing games for attention ya freak.

Answer 9

Awww.... I feel really bad 4 u heres a couple ways that could help:

-Stay with @ a friends house and relax 4 a day or 2 if its possible
-Take a day off @ ur own house and do things 2 please urself and just 4 that day think that u only exist and nothing else and dont even think about the exam u took... just relax and pamper urself doing things u enjoy.
- After ur done with that day of relaxation then plan ahead and think what will u do if u arent accepted ... nothing negative

I wish u Good luck and i hope u have passed ur exam so u can have some peace of mind!!!!

Answer 10

Okay, first of all... life isn't that serious. Imagine yourself very old... and think about how much this test really means when you're old and about to die... do you think it will really matter in the grand scheme of things? Probably not! Your family... they'll change too in time. The job... FIND SOMETHING YOU LIKE TO DO AND DO IT ~ if you're working a job that you hate and just making ends meat or not even... what more reason do you need to quit? There's a bazillion jobs out there and careers... pick one. If you want to get away... join the peace corp!