I met this girl a couple of weeks back. We went on a couple of dateslast friday and saturday and I had the time of my life. She is decent looking, not great looking (I would give her 7 on 10 overall (looks + personality). She is definitely my type. We hungout for a couple of hours on Wednesday and that was the last I heard from her. She said she would come over in a couple of hours. Now its been friday evening and she is not picking up my calls or calling back. Usually she would answer or return calls promptly. I am getting impatient and dont know what to do. I just want to talk to her and discuss whats wrong? I dont know where she lives and I wouldnt go there even if I did. Is she trying to say she does not want to see me again? How many times can I call her? I dont want to come across like I am harassing or stalking her. Any tips/insights on the situation? Thanks.
2006-07-14 14:00:33 · 15 answers · asked by kingshah84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say call her once. Tell her that you are disappointed that you've been unable to get a hold of her. Tell her that if and when she wants to get back with you that she knows how to find you, and you hope you do hear from her because you really enjoyed your dates. Leave it at that. If she doesn't call back, good riddance - trust me. If she's not confident and mature enough to just tell you straight-up that she's not interested, it's not worth it.
By the way, same goes for girls who have this problem with a guy.
As far as insight goes, it's usually one of a few situations:
- she's too immature to just tell you that she's not interested
- she's embarassed about something she thinks happened or didn't happened
- she lost her phone or it died
The first is the most common. The last is the least common.
It's always best to be the bigger, more diplomatic person. That way, no one can ever pin a negative comment on you in that regards. You'll always be the kind, respectable one instead of the immature stalker/loser/whatever.
Good luck!
2006-07-14 14:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Allison G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are really in a pickle, first off if she is breaking up with you, this is just a if, accept it. If she breaks up with you and you call her and beg her to tell you why and everything you will look like a pussy and she will have no respect for you. Wait a couple of days and try again, if still nothing try *67HerNumber if she picks up say "You could of at least had the respect the tell me we where breaking up" and hang up. She might even feel guilty and call you back later. If she doesn't pick up, she is probably just gone out of town.
2006-07-14 21:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by wacko0500 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something could be going on with her. maybe shes going through some kind of crisis and just hasn't had the time to get in contact with you. i would try getting a hold of her for the rest of the week. leave her messages telling her you don't know whats going on and you are worried. if shes not interested anymore that's fine but, you just need to know whats up. if still nothing after all that all week, shes obviously being a bit(h and drop her like a rock. good luck.
2006-07-14 21:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by ☼♥Manda♥☼ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm a lot of ppl have good answers - so I would say maybe send flowers to her house with a friendly "just wanted to say hello" note. Nothing in detail, nothing desperate. Just a subtle hint to let her know you're thinking about her and want to talk. If still no response, then she doesn't deserve you. Simple as that.
2006-07-14 21:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by ♥iamsleepy♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't call to much because that comes off as desperate if she doesn't call back in a few days I would just forget about it because it's a waste of time of that
2006-07-14 21:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsey♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, calm down. She is probably playing hard to get and doesn't want you to think that she's desperate or likes you too much so she's distancing herself from you so that you want her more.
Just calmly text her and see what she's doing, but don't sound too eager and don't make plans right away, just let it flow.
2006-07-14 21:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on if something happend during the time you two spent together,that she wasnt comfortable with.So maybe just leave her a message asking her some of the questions in simple form.
2006-07-14 21:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welll.... in my opinion shes either pissed at you, or shes running from something, either way you have to give it time.. dont push the situation.. she'll come around
2006-07-14 21:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by ** WINGS ** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is not getting your calls, maybe she needs a break or maybe your thinking the worest and she might be on vaction since you don't know you said you didn't know where she lived don't worry i'm sure will be back.
2006-07-14 21:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by gothicirishpeople 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a hard one cuz this can mean alot of things she maybe tring to take things slow i hope you hear from her son plz post if you do or dont
2006-07-14 21:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by lisa31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋