I've been close to someone for a year and he just told me he loves me while we were on instant messenger instead of over the phone or face to face...I expressed I feel the same way, but does that IM stuff count as a REAL conversation.....?????
2006-07-14 13:51:55 · 59 answers · asked by Telling It Like It Is 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well of course, but the perception might be a little skewed as to what he actually meant by the love since the definition is different for every person.
2006-07-14 13:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does, to an extent. He may be shy and not able to say it over the phone or face to face; it may have just hit him at that point; he may be drunk, ultra-emotional or otherwise caught on the hop emotionally (sorry to be such a kill-joy). It does usually mean that he loves you. The test is how you respond to it and if that means that he can say it again - as he looks into your eyes. It would be a hard man indeed who could fool you then.
(I'm a male - hit by the 'love' thing unexpectedly but that was totally IM and not with any photos, phone or F2F at the time.)
2006-07-14 14:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is not juz based on IM and that you have been physically seeing and spending time with him, then yes...It does count as an expression of his feelings towards you. There are people who are too shy to do it when upfront OR via tele-conversation possibly because of less courage or simply afraid of rejection. Congratulations! This may well be a start to a blooming relationship for you both.
2006-07-14 13:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Samara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some things that time and technology will never change. One of them is that it seems insincere to say I love you over something so cold as a computer. There is something to be said for a warm kiss and someone's arms around you while hearing that for the first time. Don't accept anything less.Romance should never be reduced to an instant message,God!!
2006-07-14 13:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by boop5492 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too easy to say something like that . It would not mean anything to me. The first time someone says I love you, I want to see the expression on there face. That would mean more to me.
2006-07-14 13:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMing an I Love You is definitely NOT the same thing as saying it face to face.
2006-07-14 13:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by DR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first "I love you" is the hardest one because you don't know how it's going to be received, so it sounds like he took the easy way out and told in such a way that he didn't have to see your reaction. He still has to say it to your face.
2006-07-14 13:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by julz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes IMing is real conversation. unfortunately you can say things you don't mean online as easy as you can face to face. actions back up words. for online relationships, it's best to not commit to too much til you actually meet in person. interacting online is different than in person.
2006-07-14 13:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by midnightrose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the age of "NOW" communication. I can imagine myself in the same position as your pursurer. And yes, this is a valid statement. Many of us find it easier to communicate (in this fashion). If he "said it", then he means it. And you have proof that he said it, no? Be cautiously optimistic, however. I'm a man as well, and therefore subject to misconjecture.
2006-07-14 14:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! HELL NO!!! Honey, in person is the only way someone should do it face to face, not over im, it's just COMPLETELY not as meaningful, don't you want to look at him when he says that, to KNOW he means it?
2006-07-14 13:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by mysticspiral1877 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋